Hello friends and readers,

When I recommend how to get in touch and get dared, I almost forget about the other option. Plenty of people only want to look around, have a partner, and don't want to get messaged by random strangers, let alone be dared.

One of those reached out to me asking for advice.

First of all, make sure you didn't post or blog anywhere to get dared recently, and anywhere you did...

Hello dear readers,

Another letter from a getDare user reached my office:

With the missing pretext, it's about getting responses to the most polite messages even with an avatar!

While I might have answered that before, I try to address the issue in short:


NEVER message random people!
Never request friendship without further communication.
Never...

So you took together everything it needed, created an account, and just posted what you like to get by us other users here. But, nobody replies. So much nobody, that you start to bump your thread. Once. Twice. Maybe even a dozen times. Still, nobody replies, or at least you don't get the answer you are looking for.

Here's why, just to help you out.
There seems to be no gate...

Hello everyone,

Since sometimes I am in the mood of a constructive, friendly reply to a random PM, I thought I could also share it for others:

Hi new getDare member,

Here is my advice: "those who want respect, give respect". Same is true for thread replies, adds, dares, AMAs, PM dares, blog comments, attention at all.
Give it some time. Join other threads. Comment. Be active. Contribute....

Hi everyone,

At certain times, I have been horny as fuck, especially when in chastity for longer, but also in general it just happens every once in a while. That's great. But, life isn't just sex, or kink, or giving up a certain amount of control, self-degration for the pleasure of others, or waste of time alone. There's also breathing, drinking, sleeping, eating, social life, being sick, being not in the mood at all, or oblegations, ooooooooor ... vacation.

Since I am...

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15. Your rules guide the players and the game

Whoever designs the rules, determines the behaviors which are rewarded, and the behaviors which are punished. Guess which behaviors people prefer. Do they prefer rewards or punishment (not to mistake for funishments)? So yes, by rewarding what you want them to do, they do it. It's in your hands when you set up the rules.

What do you want your players to do? Do you want your friends to join...

Disclaimer: I am just a human being without any clue, but I felt inspired to answer to NoLimitz call how to create or make a popular "Add ..." thread.

I had to create my own Loser thread by losing a vote to ChubbyShySissy, still working it off, and started some more Add-threads for other users like for lop747, for Gonzalez, for Buttaholic, for my precious pet astro alias oddjobber, and for spankmeohio. I think my first experiene posting and thereby adding in such threads was...