looking for advice

[Akuma_Tataka]

iv tried twice now to find a slave. have put out an add on Craigslist and various other things. hell I'v done just about everything aside from standing on a major street corner and bellowing at the top of my lungs "LOOKING FOR SLAVE!" So i turn to you more experienced masters and ask for your advice. I have no experience what so ever.

here is a link to my most recent add:
Akuma_Tataka slave add

where have I turned astray a potential slave?

[Star Shadows]

Originally Posted by Akuma_Tataka

iv tried twice now to find a slave. have put out an add on Craigslist and various other things. hell I'v done just about everything aside from standing on a major street corner and bellowing at the top of my lungs "LOOKING FOR SLAVE!" So i turn to you more experienced masters and ask for your advice. I have no experience what so ever.

here is a link to my most recent add:
Akuma_Tataka slave add

where have I turned astray a potential slave?

Looking at your ad I will pick out the problems that I immediately find for you.
1 Gender Preference:
You cannot help who you are attracted to in terms of who you want to dominate as far as gender goes, but one place many fall down on is the fact that they are looking for a female slave. There are far fewer female slaves than there are male slaves, and there are far more male masters than female slaves so any girls that do come onto the scene are very quickly snapped up. You MUST be proactive in your search be quick and stand out.

2 Country preference
While practical, in asking for a US only slave or submissive you are again narrowing your options. Though this isnt necessarily something you can chance.

3 Inpersonal/ Clinical
In having your ad as concise as it is through the use of headers you risk your advert coming across as impersonal. Giving short brief answers it appears colder and more clinical. If you try next time to write in a more extended way it can make you seem more open rather than it looking like you're filling out a registration form. Extended forms of writing also allow your thought processes to flow more.

4 Missing detail
You have no "kink specific" likes or limits on your ad- ie spanking or anal. Kink likes and limits, above vanilla and conceptual ideas, allow people to better judge how suited they would be as your dom. If a submissive has a limit of anal but it is something you really get off on then there is going to be some relative incompatibilities with you so people may be reserved for that reason. You also give little to no detail about how you actually dom. Different people dom in different ways, and prefer different methods. It isnt as simple as I am dom you are sub we should match up.

As for that I am pretty much done for now. If you change some of these when you next make an ad you might do better. Just remember, be proactive- dont wait for them to come to you, and be patient- things like this can take time.

[Akuma_Tataka]

newly updated. i think its a little short now TT...TT

[LadyCeleste]

While that list is rather extensive, it says nothing about you.

Take a venture into the top ads and see those that were moved there. You might want to follow those for a better idea on how to attract people.

[Star Shadows]

It still says very little about you, and what you are like as a dom. Id agree with the advice celsete has given.

[yours_slave]

Well your first few lines scare off many female slaves.

"You may simply call me Akuma for now. I'm looking for a loyal fuck slut 18-28 in the US. your daily obligations will be discussed upon reply. pm your reply to me and be ready for a lot of web cam time. "

Loyal fuck slut (that’s not a polite word though)? And the age range is the greatest demand age range? Hmmmm… And more over, you expect her to come on cam LOT OF TIME?

Why would someone be your slave? No offense. But where are the details about you? What are you doing? Studying? Your job? Your appearance? Your interests (Both vanilla and BDSM)? You may think those details are irrelevant for looking for a slave. But slaves like to know how intelligent their future master is.

Do not expect a female to come on lot of cam sessions. They will most likely not do it especially at the beginning, even before they get to know about you. Unless she is a porn actress, females are shy to come on cam. We must understand that. Most of the normal girls are either studying or doing a job (especially the age range you are looking) so they won’t be able to do cam sessions most of the time as you asked.

I know we can’t create an ad to make all the people happy. Do not forget your ad is viewing by variety of females with variety of interests. What you should try to do is, create an ad which will get most people attention.

I looked at your list. The first impression I got when I look at your list is, you copy pasted it from somewhere else. That’s fine. You don’t have to come up with your own list. But you should modify it according to your needs. Why did you put blanks in front of some items? If it’s not applicable to you, you should have removed them without making your list big. It doesn’t do anything other than making your ad tedious and boring to read. Remember, if someone thinks you didn’t put effort to make your ad, they will also not put an effort to reply you. If you are serious about finding a slave, put some effort to make your ad and convince females that you are worthy enough to be a master.

Review your ad before you hit the publish button. Look at the possible grammar and spelling mistakes.

Good luck!

[CollaredBlondie]

Originally Posted by yours_slave

Well your first few lines scare off many female slaves.

"You may simply call me Akuma for now. I'm looking for a loyal fuck slut 18-28 in the US. your daily obligations will be discussed upon reply. pm your reply to me and be ready for a lot of web cam time. "

Loyal fuck slut (that’s not a polite word though)? And the age range is the greatest demand age range? Hmmmm… And more over, you expect her to come on cam LOT OF TIME?

I'm a female, obviously, and a submissive and I'm totally backing up Yours on this one. While yes, some girls like that, so many more don't. We deserve respect too y'know. We are still human beings. On cam a lot? Not a chance. Especially not right away. When you've gained our trust, yes, maybe, but not until then.

That list is too long. It's intimidating. It's better to have a few and say "But there are more, so name what you're into and we'll talk about it." Where's all the details about you? We want to get to know you as a person, so we can talk and have non sexual conversations outside of scenes, so we can talk about our day and so forth. Details about you also help us deicide if we're going to be a match too. S&M isn't just about sex, despite what so many of the people on here think.

Like suggested above. Look at the top ads section, follow some of those. Feel free to PM me for any more advice should you feel like it.

Oh, and be patient. There are so few female submissives that we can afford to be mega picky. Even if your ad is "perfect" you may still not find someone for ages, if at all.

Blondie

[carom]

Originally Posted by LadyCeleste

While that list is rather extensive, it says nothing about you.

Take a venture into the top ads and see those that were moved there. You might want to follow those for a better idea on how to attract people.

I totally agree with Celeste there.
These lists can be helpful to get an idea of another one but don't say much about who you are.
You are a person that should look for another person that harmonizes with you . Not for a matching list.

Also i have read the list and i have the impression you misunderstand the term Aftercare a bit. You may want to look into the subject a bit more.

[CollaredBlondie]

Originally Posted by carom

Also i have read the list and i have the impression you misunderstand the term Aftercare a bit. You may want to look into the subject a bit more.

I didn't pick up on that, well spotted.

Yes, definitely look into that properly. You MUST know the proper meaning, especially with some of the things you're into.