Why do most people just lurk?

Flipper3 · 06-17-2011, 11:53 PM

Why do most people just lurk?

I do admit that I am a person that just mainly lurks, however I still have trouble being able to answer my own question.

Why do most of us that could make a great Master/slave (depending on who you are) not post much on the site and take part? I mean I feel as if there is some stupid reason in our minds stopping us.

I have replied to a very select few advertisements that have caught my attention and I write out a personal response to each of them, but have never even heard back from any of them except from one. I feel like this is mainly because I am not an active poster, but instead an active lurker on here.

Therefore, can anybody answer my question as to why most of us just lurk? Can you lurkers reply too?

Star Shadows · 06-18-2011, 12:10 AM

Pretty clear from my post count that I'm not a lurking person, I think it may just be that some people are less willing to contribute to the community past getting dares or doing s/m. A lot of these people only have posts in the slave master area- indicating this is the only involvement that they want to have - or that they do not know how to communicate elsewhere. Or at least that's how I see it.

There are also some who have wry low lurkerish post count but spend a lot of time in the chatrooms being involved that way

Jacko · 06-18-2011, 04:32 AM

By this definition i'd be considered a lurker. When i found this site or any forums i find that im interested in i tend to just read at first until i get a good feel for the people that post. I don't have much knowledge on the area of s/m which is generally what im reading about on this site and im usually someone that only posts when i have something to contribute so with no knowledge i had very little to add. I've learnt a fair bit by being here so who knows maybe i'll start posting more often.

Sasahara · 06-18-2011, 05:08 AM

Pretty much any online community has far more lurkers than people who are active. On Facebook, a 0.5% interaction on a page's posts is a great response, so if 1 in 200 people clicks like or comments, it's considered a success.

There are many reasons people lurk- they are nervous about not knowing enough to answer questions, they think they will be ignored or mocked, they just don't want to, etc. I think the reasons for not being more involved will be as many as the number of people who lurk. But rest assured the issue of lurkers is not just one here, but is everywhere on the net!

Duleshna · 06-20-2011, 03:44 AM

Hmm... I prefer to read rather than write? Lol. I think it's more of shyness than anything else on my part... People have different reason I believe.

trickortrick · 06-22-2011, 08:04 AM

I pop on here every now and then to see what's up, but for an experienced dom, these forums frankly don't offer TOO much.

MountainMan1 · 06-23-2011, 10:44 PM

If I had a computer i'd post much, much, much more but it is a hassle to write and post using my iPhone.

So for me it is not wanting to go through the hassle I guess.

geordan · 06-25-2011, 05:24 PM

It's tough getting started. Most people have long profiles and signatures. When you first get here it feel daunting to fill out your profile enough so that if you do post you don't come off as a 'newbie' (BTW, very much a newbie)

luvNgrl · 06-26-2011, 10:35 AM

I enjoy reading what others post more than actually getting involved. I do try and get involved when I can in chat though. I think I mainly keep to myself at first, but once I get used to the site and people more I will probably get a lot more involved in posting.

Master_M93 · 06-26-2011, 01:20 PM

I don't post much do to a lack of something interesting to say on some of the things posted on this website or I would just be repeating what someone else just said. Therefor I refuse to post until I have something to add to conversation/thread.

Xwad13 · 06-26-2011, 02:09 PM

Well. I personally don't post a lot because I find stupid to write a pretty much common dare of one line. As I write mostly in "Person above..." when I post, I try to be creative and my dares to be suitable with the likes/dislikes with the guy before. I prefer no one to post than to read silly dares. Still, I have some of those, and now I prefer not to post things like that. If I were creative enough I would post my own dares and so. Also, I'm new and I try to keep in pace and learn while posting.

EvilBunny · 06-27-2011, 11:03 PM

As a lurker, I'll tell you why I lurk - I just like to read the boards. I don't have any interest in (publicly) participating in the site's activities. I registered to make it easier to navigate around, and to check out the chat room once or twice. But for the most part, I'm content with watching. And honestly, most of what I would post wouldn't be very constructive anyways (It's not shyness or anything. It's just not very nice.)

06-17-2011, 11:53 PM	#1
Flipper3 Account Banned Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 9	Why do most people just lurk? Why do most people just lurk? I do admit that I am a person that just mainly lurks, however I still have trouble being able to answer my own question. Why do most of us that could make a great Master/slave (depending on who you are) not post much on the site and take part? I mean I feel as if there is some stupid reason in our minds stopping us. I have replied to a very select few advertisements that have caught my attention and I write out a personal response to each of them, but have never even heard back from any of them except from one. I feel like this is mainly because I am not an active poster, but instead an active lurker on here. Therefore, can anybody answer my question as to why most of us just lurk? Can you lurkers reply too?

06-18-2011, 12:10 AM	#2
Star Shadows Prodigy Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Uk Posts: 4,707 Blog Entries: 13	Pretty clear from my post count that I'm not a lurking person, I think it may just be that some people are less willing to contribute to the community past getting dares or doing s/m. A lot of these people only have posts in the slave master area- indicating this is the only involvement that they want to have - or that they do not know how to communicate elsewhere. Or at least that's how I see it. There are also some who have wry low lurkerish post count but spend a lot of time in the chatrooms being involved that way __________________ Do not ask me for to be your slave, your mistress, or to give you truths or dares. You're wasting your time. Informative threads: Anonymous S/M advice service Threads of note PM MEGET S/M ADVICE WORSHIPS RACHIE**

06-23-2011, 10:44 PM	#7
MountainMan1 getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Dec 2010 Posts: 316	If I had a computer i'd post much, much, much more but it is a hassle to write and post using my iPhone. So for me it is not wanting to go through the hassle I guess. __________________ "Choices are what you choose to do, and if it's causin' no harm it shouldn't bother you." -Ben Harper M/USA/Streight Kik: SissyCrossdresser Message me dares that involve Cross dressing, Masterbation, Humiliation, Pain, Bondage, Semi-Public!

06-25-2011, 05:24 PM	#8
geordan Junior Member Join Date: Jun 2011 Posts: 11	new It's tough getting started. Most people have long profiles and signatures. When you first get here it feel daunting to fill out your profile enough so that if you do post you don't come off as a 'newbie' (BTW, very much a newbie) __________________ 29/m/usa Likes: masturbation, edging, humiliation, nudity, bondage, semi-public, spankings, cbt, domination/submission Dislikes: pee, anal, shaving, messy, public, heavy pain Limits: family, illegal, unhealthy, extreme pain, disgusting eating, diapers, scat, x-dressing

06-26-2011, 10:35 AM	#9
luvNgrl Senior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: US Posts: 161 Blog Entries: 3	I enjoy reading what others post more than actually getting involved. I do try and get involved when I can in chat though. I think I mainly keep to myself at first, but once I get used to the site and people more I will probably get a lot more involved in posting. __________________ 30/f/US. Lover of dinosaurs and cheese Submissive of Master Balki Likes: humiliation, being controlled, pet play, bondage, spanking, anal, orgasm control/denial, light pain Dislikes: more than light pain, age play, pee/poo control, annoying drivers Limits: family, illegal, permanent Toys: rope, vibes, hitachi, anal plugs, suction dildo, lovense lush

06-18-2011, 04:32 AM	#3
Jacko Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2011 Location: Perth, W.A Posts: 17	By this definition i'd be considered a lurker. When i found this site or any forums i find that im interested in i tend to just read at first until i get a good feel for the people that post. I don't have much knowledge on the area of s/m which is generally what im reading about on this site and im usually someone that only posts when i have something to contribute so with no knowledge i had very little to add. I've learnt a fair bit by being here so who knows maybe i'll start posting more often.

06-18-2011, 05:08 AM	#4
Sasahara getDare Devil Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Canada Posts: 1,404	Pretty much any online community has far more lurkers than people who are active. On Facebook, a 0.5% interaction on a page's posts is a great response, so if 1 in 200 people clicks like or comments, it's considered a success. There are many reasons people lurk- they are nervous about not knowing enough to answer questions, they think they will be ignored or mocked, they just don't want to, etc. I think the reasons for not being more involved will be as many as the number of people who lurk. But rest assured the issue of lurkers is not just one here, but is everywhere on the net!

06-20-2011, 03:44 AM	#5
Duleshna getDare Ladder Join Date: Feb 2010 Posts: 123 Blog Entries: 5	Hmm... I prefer to read rather than write? Lol. I think it's more of shyness than anything else on my part... People have different reason I believe.

06-22-2011, 08:04 AM	#6
trickortrick Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2011 Posts: 11	I pop on here every now and then to see what's up, but for an experienced dom, these forums frankly don't offer TOO much.

06-26-2011, 01:20 PM	#10
Master_M93 Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 92	I don't post much do to a lack of something interesting to say on some of the things posted on this website or I would just be repeating what someone else just said. Therefor I refuse to post until I have something to add to conversation/thread. __________________ Midwest USA/male/30/bi/Switch Likes: orgasm control, pee play, tasks both giving and receiving, Dom/sub, pictures/videos (limited on what I can do), anal, humiliation/degradation Curious: blackmail, forced fem, gaping, anal stretching, cum eating Hard limits: social sucide, scat, bodywriting, illegal

06-26-2011, 02:09 PM	#11
Xwad13 Senior Member Join Date: May 2011 Location: Europe Posts: 128	Well. I personally don't post a lot because I find stupid to write a pretty much common dare of one line. As I write mostly in "Person above..." when I post, I try to be creative and my dares to be suitable with the likes/dislikes with the guy before. I prefer no one to post than to read silly dares. Still, I have some of those, and now I prefer not to post things like that. If I were creative enough I would post my own dares and so. Also, I'm new and I try to keep in pace and learn while posting. __________________ Likes to give : pain, ruined orgasm, cum, clothes pegs, humiliation and degradation, bodywriting, toilet play, piss, shit, enema, body shaming Limits: extreme pain, public, family, blood

06-27-2011, 11:03 PM	#12
EvilBunny Member Join Date: Feb 2011 Posts: 45	As a lurker, I'll tell you why I lurk - I just like to read the boards. I don't have any interest in (publicly) participating in the site's activities. I registered to make it easier to navigate around, and to check out the chat room once or twice. But for the most part, I'm content with watching. And honestly, most of what I would post wouldn't be very constructive anyways (It's not shyness or anything. It's just not very nice.)