How did you know?

Damned · 02-08-2010, 07:06 AM

How did you know if you were submissive, dominant, or even a switch?

I'll go first. ;D
I'm a submissive, really. I figured that out a little while ago, when I found out I liked to follow /some/ rules, for dares.
So, how did you find out? =P

Nick · 02-08-2010, 08:23 AM

I found out I was a switch after trying to be a master at times and a slave at times. There were just certain times that i liked being a sub or a dom and it changed often. So yeah, pretty easy.

softeyes · 02-08-2010, 08:26 AM

hmm, i'm a submissive, i guess i've always known.. i always seem to "follow" people and want to make them happy.. i have a more dominant side that shows at times, but really i just want to be put in my place.

sadly not owned at the moment..

jayson-22-m-uk · 02-08-2010, 08:49 AM

im really turned on by kinky stuff, sub or dom it doesnt matter to me :P so i guess im a switch... not into any of the extreme dom/sub stuff tho

Damned · 02-08-2010, 08:59 AM

Hehe. I guess I'm kinda like Softy. I understand where you're coming from.

BettyBoop · 02-08-2010, 09:55 AM

I'm not even sure if I am any of them, but I've always liked to be in charge.
Even when I was little I liked to be in charge and I always played Queen
I guess I like to be the boss.

RoyalMadameE · 02-11-2010, 01:15 AM

My ex girlfriend was a Mistress and she got me into being a submissive but it didn't appeal to me as much as being in control did.

Once I got the chance to be a Domme I never looked back lol

rhode64 · 02-11-2010, 02:30 AM

I am a bit of both but definitly more dom and a very sadistic dom at that (bdsm and such things really turn me on and have fantasies of rape snuff etc) but they are just fantasy .

Nerthus · 02-11-2010, 03:50 AM

I am submissive, it really turns me on when others control me during sex. I think I have always known that.

Woof · 02-11-2010, 04:36 AM

Dom mostly,but once in a while,when i feel like it,sub o.o

jackfromnyc · 02-11-2010, 05:25 PM

I'm basically dom. I don't have an innate desire to dominate people, but I know that I take charge in situations. I learned this early on. As many people on here know now, Jess and I spent a lot of time together. I was the one always making decisions and deciding what we would play.

When we were old enough to have friends over, they just seemed to follow what I said. I like the feeling of being dom.

I would very much like to have a sub girlfriend. It's not like I want to really dominate her or boss her around. Its more like I want to take care of someone and make sure all their needs are met. There is much more pressure to be a dom than to be a sub. As a dom, you need to make sure that you protect your sub gf and make sure she's happy.

elfalco · 02-23-2010, 08:38 AM

I'm a dom mostly.
I always liked to organise things and let people enjoy it. That's also how my previous 'relationships' were It is always important both parties enjoy what they are doing. Like the great Hannibal said: "I love it when a plan comes together"
I like being in control and people always end up doing what I tell them.

Very recently I became interested in the submissive side. I have been looking at some experience there, just out of curiosity. Would not call myself a switch yet, but I might be.

Shibari · 05-07-2014, 05:44 AM

Its something ive learned about myself, that actually.. Wait,I like otders thrown at me, i have a fettish to be under someones authority and Dominance. How ever I have had the chance of Dominating someone (just a short taster) and realised I enjoy Domming too! So there for I'm turning towards a switch!

Komodo Jones · 05-07-2014, 07:15 AM

When I started out this lifestyle I was a pure submissive. However several years in I was being neglected by my Mistress at the time, so I decided on a whim to try my hand at dominating someone. My first taste at dominance was pretty successful and I enjoyed it. From that point on I identified myself as a switch. However, since I did start out as a sub that's what I've always leaned more towards so I guess to be more accurate I am a switch with submissive tendencies.

Sharp Shooter · 05-08-2014, 01:27 PM

When I was very young, less than 10 years old, I remember friends of my mother commenting that I was very bossy. Years later, in a new school (just moved to a new home), some of the "tough kids" tried pushing me around. That didn't get them where they hoped it would go. From then on, nobody tried to push me around and I set a course that was pretty independent. I discovered that didn't need peer approval. In fact, I didn't think very much of my peers, especially when I understood how revered the "elite" were without deserving such treatment.

I've always been confident (at times, bull-headed) but over the years I think I've learned when to turn various traits on and off to get better results. I think that's a key to maturing.

02-08-2010, 07:06 AM	#1
Damned Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Somewhere in Neverland. Posts: 88 Blog Entries: 2	How did you know? How did you know if you were submissive, dominant, or even a switch? I'll go first. ;D I'm a submissive, really. I figured that out a little while ago, when I found out I liked to follow /some/ rules, for dares. So, how did you find out? =P

02-08-2010, 08:23 AM	#2
Nick Distinguished Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Ohio Posts: 835	I found out I was a switch after trying to be a master at times and a slave at times. There were just certain times that i liked being a sub or a dom and it changed often. So yeah, pretty easy. __________________ 32/ Male/ US/ Switch Likes: Underwear, Jockstrap, Embarrassing, Webcam or Pics, Naked, Semi-public, slight risk, strip games, dice dares, wedgies, clothing/cum control, anal, light humiliation Dislikes: Piss, Body Writing, messy Limits:Really public, family, friends, scat, gross, pain. *Impossible:* Crossdressing. I own NO girls clothes. kik: nick.undies Skype: nick.undies SnapChat: SnapNickR

02-08-2010, 08:26 AM	#3
softeyes Account Banned Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: In a land far, far, away.. Posts: 1,930 Blog Entries: 44	hmm, i'm a submissive, i guess i've always known.. i always seem to "follow" people and want to make them happy.. i have a more dominant side that shows at times, but really i just want to be put in my place. sadly not owned at the moment.. __________________ \| 22 \| Clueless sub \| Owned \| Ask a monster \| Tumblr \| Dedicated and Honored kitty/internet mall security officer. =^,.,^=!! =): fingerless gloves, biting, pain, collars, Bulbasaur and SKITTLES. [SIGPIC][/SIGPIC] A vampire, it's like a walrus, but awesome. I am NOT a fairy \| I'm a kitty, yo \|

02-08-2010, 08:49 AM	#4
jayson-22-m-uk Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Posts: 180	im really turned on by kinky stuff, sub or dom it doesnt matter to me :P so i guess im a switch... not into any of the extreme dom/sub stuff tho __________________ msn me idareyou2010 >< @ >< live. >< com but please dont add me if your a single guy on cam looking to play, im not into guys. still haven't figured it all out yet, but so far... Likes: masturbation, games, stripping, sub, groups, RP, more to come.... Limits: anything too public/chance of getting caught... blood, anything more than slight pain, anything with friends/family, extreme, scat, anal

02-08-2010, 09:55 AM	#6
BettyBoop Angel of Dare Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: England. Posts: 8,249 Blog Entries: 105	I'm not even sure if I am any of them, but I've always liked to be in charge. Even when I was little I liked to be in charge and I always played Queen I guess I like to be the boss. __________________ ★Boop Boop de Boop.★ female, engurrland. Ask me anything, click. My tumblr. 18+ ▼ Last edited by BettyBoop; 02-08-2010 at 09:58 AM.

02-08-2010, 08:59 AM	#5
Damned Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Somewhere in Neverland. Posts: 88 Blog Entries: 2	Hehe. I guess I'm kinda like Softy. I understand where you're coming from.

02-11-2010, 01:15 AM	#7
RoyalMadameE Member Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Here, There, everywhere Posts: 46 Blog Entries: 13	My ex girlfriend was a Mistress and she got me into being a submissive but it didn't appeal to me as much as being in control did. Once I got the chance to be a Domme I never looked back lol __________________ I think humans suffer from an identity crisis at some point in their lives. It's A Good Thing I'm A Cat

02-11-2010, 02:30 AM	#8
rhode64 getDare Patriot Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: England south coast Posts: 3,043 Blog Entries: 3	bit of both I am a bit of both but definitly more dom and a very sadistic dom at that (bdsm and such things really turn me on and have fantasies of rape snuff etc) but they are just fantasy .

02-11-2010, 03:50 AM	#9
Nerthus Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: UK Posts: 2	I am submissive, it really turns me on when others control me during sex. I think I have always known that.

02-11-2010, 04:36 AM	#10
Woof getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Singapore and Liverpool. Posts: 408 Blog Entries: 38	Dom mostly,but once in a while,when i feel like it,sub o.o __________________ Female/20/SG&UK I enjoy interesting conversations.

02-11-2010, 05:25 PM	#11
jackfromnyc Account Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Posts: 232	I'm basically dom. I don't have an innate desire to dominate people, but I know that I take charge in situations. I learned this early on. As many people on here know now, Jess and I spent a lot of time together. I was the one always making decisions and deciding what we would play. When we were old enough to have friends over, they just seemed to follow what I said. I like the feeling of being dom. I would very much like to have a sub girlfriend. It's not like I want to really dominate her or boss her around. Its more like I want to take care of someone and make sure all their needs are met. There is much more pressure to be a dom than to be a sub. As a dom, you need to make sure that you protect your sub gf and make sure she's happy.

02-23-2010, 08:38 AM	#12
elfalco Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Belgium or the netherlands, who knows Posts: 20	I'm a dom mostly. I always liked to organise things and let people enjoy it. That's also how my previous 'relationships' were It is always important both parties enjoy what they are doing. Like the great Hannibal said: "I love it when a plan comes together" I like being in control and people always end up doing what I tell them. Very recently I became interested in the submissive side. I have been looking at some experience there, just out of curiosity. Would not call myself a switch yet, but I might be.

05-07-2014, 05:44 AM	#13
Shibari getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Dec 2013 Location: England Posts: 399 Blog Entries: 10	Its something ive learned about myself, that actually.. Wait,I like otders thrown at me, i have a fettish to be under someones authority and Dominance. How ever I have had the chance of Dominating someone (just a short taster) and realised I enjoy Domming too! So there for I'm turning towards a switch! __________________ Submissive freak . Rope, Shibari/kinbaku. I kiss my enemies lips, while I dance in the flames of the devil, worship the Dominant that guides while I suffer at His feet.

05-07-2014, 07:15 AM	#14
Komodo Jones getDare Succubus Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: in your fantasies...it's ok you can admit it Posts: 1,755 Blog Entries: 97	When I started out this lifestyle I was a pure submissive. However several years in I was being neglected by my Mistress at the time, so I decided on a whim to try my hand at dominating someone. My first taste at dominance was pretty successful and I enjoyed it. From that point on I identified myself as a switch. However, since I did start out as a sub that's what I've always leaned more towards so I guess to be more accurate I am a switch with submissive tendencies. __________________ KJ 38/male/partially bi/switch D/s Status: Protector, Dom and Daddy of pixie.dust I love meeting new, nice, smart people. I communicate through Discord mainly. What are my limits/likes/supplies? Click here! Check Out my Literary Works Targeting the Ignored [Fiction] Some Stuff I've Done (Non-Fiction)

05-08-2014, 01:27 PM	#15
Sharp Shooter getDare Succubus Join Date: Feb 2013 Location: So Calif where the water meets the sand. GMT -7 Posts: 1,789 Blog Entries: 1	When I was very young, less than 10 years old, I remember friends of my mother commenting that I was very bossy. Years later, in a new school (just moved to a new home), some of the "tough kids" tried pushing me around. That didn't get them where they hoped it would go. From then on, nobody tried to push me around and I set a course that was pretty independent. I discovered that didn't need peer approval. In fact, I didn't think very much of my peers, especially when I understood how revered the "elite" were without deserving such treatment. I've always been confident (at times, bull-headed) but over the years I think I've learned when to turn various traits on and off to get better results. I think that's a key to maturing. __________________ *** Never argue with an idiot. He'll bring you down to his level and beat you with experience. Ask Me Anything Mature, dominant Male in search of a very special woman for a very unique journey. See my GD ad for more information.