Below are my personal safeword rules for online casual play and online D/s relationships as a Dom. I am willing to play with other safewords and safeword rules too, but I thought it would be useful to share these here as my default set.

Anyone who I engage with on getDare may assume I will operate under these rules with them unless otherwise discussed. Obviously I can't make a similar assumption that everyone on getDare has read this, so for casual play without any discussion or ongoing...

Prompted by a friend, I recently spent some time considering what exactly I desire with regards to humiliation. I found it a useful exercise to reflect on this as the process of putting my thoughts into words aids in clarifying them, and I thought I would share it here on my blog.

I've never quite got clear in my head if there is a difference between humiliation and degradation. There is an interesting discussion thread about this here on GD, but it feels to me that people tend to make...

I am a 46 year old, straight male Dom or Master.

I play casually on getDare as a dare and task giver, and generally participate in kink discussion and learning. I rarely (never) accept dares or tasks, but I love giving them out so my likes and limits here are as a Dom, Master, Top, or general Dare Giver.

I have experience with many forms of BDSM kink but my primary kink is submission and control. This means that I am generally willing to take account of your personal kinks and...

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Still open to contact and expressions of future interest, but I am not currently in a position to to explore further.

After mostly lurking on getDare for many years, and dabbling around the edges mostly due to lack of time (now no longer an issue), I am now putting out my first "seeking" ad. Hopefully you are the person I am seeking.


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