It's actually a bit ridiculous how much importance I ascribe to avatars and (especially) .sigs!

I think it may be because they sort of take the place of "what you look like" on a forum like this.

First impressions mean more than we like to think that they do!

Another interesting interview. Thanks for writing it.

I loved reading this interview. I do have some questions about your statistics though...

Oh that works! More of this!

*applause*

I absolutely love the interview format you used to get your point across! Funny yet informative. When I get a chance I will have to add this to mine.

You do see alot of losing on purpose around here!! lol

If both players want to lose, then it makes sense that they have to win to lose don’t want people throwing a challenge just to get the dare - so selfish lol.

It's good advice. Regarding rules, I want to be controlled lots. If I feel like I'm free to just do whatever, it's not as much control, to me... That said I do struggle with following everything at times which I can get punished for. But having something boring and easy isn't fun either.

I love this survival guide. At the end of the day, we can't expect to dom or submit to others if we aren't taking care of ourselves. We can't expect playtime either or healthy connections either.

It has taken me some time, but I have finally come closer to acknowledging that I matter a lot and so does my health and happiness. Goals I am reaching for with each day.

I typically don't respond to those without an avatar or a basic description of themselves. It's mostly, I want to know the cover of the story I am about to read.

Indeed, you are right. We are making progress. But for now, since this isn't an ideal world, your guidance definitely helps.

Honestly, I wish that everyone could read this. I adore how you have written these advice blog posts. I'm enjoying reading the whole set. Thank you for taking the time!

These links are amazingly helpful, and the article is even better. Thank you a lot for posting this!

I wish I would have been able to read this when I first joined. It's a lovely read. ^_^ All the links are great as well.

I think you are absolutely right. That's why I strive to be honest and communicate with whomever I am taking dares, tasks, or orders from.

There have been times where I wasn't able to continue. I used to take that very hard. However, the moment, I realized that at the end of the day, it isn't healthy for me to do that, that I need to trust myself, so I can trust others.

At the end of the day, progress and growth aren't always straight lines, and that's okay. ^^

How about - must always sit with your bare bottom on the chair. You will be under the desk for video calls, and can have your pants ready to pull up if required.

"I think, therefore I am" <--- This is the only thing people need to know and understand.

I am Human/Alive/Inteligent

I HAVE a body/Arms/Legs/genitals/organs/etc...

What I have does not define what/who I am
what/who I "am" will change 100's of times a day, depending on who/what I am interacting with.

Personally, for the "Gender" concept, I have settled with a somewhat 55F/45M split. Hence me referring to myself as Sophia I used to hate not "being" Sophia most of my life, but once you begin to understand "life" and how much none of this even matters, then the body is no longer an obstacle

Sorry if I've said too much, I'm currently thinking and planning a blog post on this subject

Solidarity, sister, solidarity! *Raises clenched fist*

Connie

Or like so eloquently described in the blog, if you care about it, communicate with your play partner and ask.

If you dont ask, while having a possible problem with it, I think you lose all of your rights to feel like someone did you wrong.

I think the picture problem is one that I have come across in some posts... Some Dom's and Masters think you are not a girl at all if you are not willing to give pictures because they think we are all fakes that are actually guys looking for guys to Dom them... Or just doing it to irritate the hell out of Dom's and Masters...

I prefer to use your own term for yourself Dr Cass... No gender specified and reminds a person that professions aren't based on gender either...