Consider this blog post a bit of a ranty open letter to all the people I've seen on the site that are here to get a quick rush, hoping something fun will happen.

I'll likely expand this post in the future, it's an uncollected mess of thoughts about some of my grievances with other people.

1. Chat first, masturbate after

If you're only going to read one bit of this before getting bored, let it be this. This is important.

Most people, myself...

Hello friends and readers,

There's another problem I like to speak about: getting spammed by random people.

I don't mean getting stalked via message after message by the same person, in which case you should contact the mods if blocking that user doesn't solve it.


I think there's not one miracle solution to it. And even if, I don't have it. All I can do is offer my thoughts. People are people, or maybe trolls, especially on the internet. Let's talk...

Hello dear readers,

Another letter from a getDare user reached my office:

With the missing pretext, it's about getting responses to the most polite messages even with an avatar!

While I might have answered that before, I try to address the issue in short:


NEVER message random people!
Never request friendship without further communication.
Never...

So you took together everything it needed, created an account, and just posted what you like to get by us other users here. But, nobody replies. So much nobody, that you start to bump your thread. Once. Twice. Maybe even a dozen times. Still, nobody replies, or at least you don't get the answer you are looking for.

Here's why, just to help you out.
There seems to be no gate...

Hello everyone,

Since sometimes I am in the mood of a constructive, friendly reply to a random PM, I thought I could also share it for others:

Hi new getDare member,

Here is my advice: "those who want respect, give respect". Same is true for thread replies, adds, dares, AMAs, PM dares, blog comments, attention at all.
Give it some time. Join other threads. Comment. Be active. Contribute....

Hi everyone,

At certain times, I have been horny as fuck, especially when in chastity for longer, but also in general it just happens every once in a while. That's great. But, life isn't just sex, or kink, or giving up a certain amount of control, self-degration for the pleasure of others, or waste of time alone. There's also breathing, drinking, sleeping, eating, social life, being sick, being not in the mood at all, or oblegations, ooooooooor ... vacation.

Since I am...

You love giving dares or receiving them? Are you sure you get 100% fun out of it? Here's your check for it.

Half of giving dares as well as half the fun of receiving dares is in the contact with others. Just think about it briefly: what's the difference to doing them just on your own? There are enough kinky roulettes out there with automatic dice, and other automatic task and dare givers, you don't even need your own creativity.

The difference in getting others involved,...