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Join the latest fashion of Promises.
Ever tried one of my fap roulettes?
Did you know about PM dares? A nice and gentle way to start playing here.
You can get a lot of PM dares by sending them in the PM dare bashing game.
Join the latest fashion of Promises.
Ever tried one of my fap roulettes?
Did you know about PM dares? A nice and gentle way to start playing here.
You can get a lot of PM dares by sending them in the PM dare bashing game.
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Posted 06-20-2017 at 10:49 AM by CSasha -
Posted 06-20-2017 at 09:20 AM by Jaro -
Posted 06-20-2017 at 03:57 AM by CSasha -
Posted 06-19-2017 at 07:37 AM by little pet -
Tootsies and Smelly: Fantastic PM dares regarding feet and smell
Could also be, but he sent me a PM. If you want to copy anything to your list, then feel totally free, even all if you like.Posted 06-19-2017 at 03:19 AM by CSasha -
Tootsies and Smelly: Fantastic PM dares regarding feet and smell
I thought NoLimitz meant taking PM Dares for his own list... Entschuldigung?Posted 06-19-2017 at 12:10 AM by qmu -
Posted 06-18-2017 at 11:31 PM by CSasha -
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Great post, Cassandra, there are people who really need some guidelines and I hope it will help them in the future.Posted 06-18-2017 at 11:20 PM by Grand.Master691 -
Tootsies and Smelly: Fantastic PM dares regarding feet and smell
Quote:I DON'T do these PM dares myself (until you find them in the lists in my signature ):Posted 06-18-2017 at 11:08 PM by CSasha -
Posted 06-18-2017 at 05:57 PM by qmu -
Posted 06-18-2017 at 05:28 PM by NoLimitz
Updated 06-18-2017 at 05:37 PM by NoLimitz (I'm going too pick two anyway lol) -
To all my haters
Never let negativity from anyone especially strangers get to you negatively feeds on people adds doubts about oneself and consumes you.
People who write or whose attitude is negative are wretched creatures who briefly deserve our potty but not worth spending time with or on.
I love your blogs your sense of humour matches mine and I like your irreverent style keep it up
Mr CharcolPosted 06-17-2017 at 11:04 PM by MrCharcol -
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Nothing better than a little rant, hehe.
I agree. Fortunately, I have experienced a good portion of dare receivers who reply with an industrious report, and guess who I get back to when I feel generous again.Posted 06-14-2017 at 02:26 PM by CSasha -
Give and take
Ok, sorry, I didn't express myself right earlier. I agree that giving tasks is a different skill. What I meant is the mindset, the objective behind giving a task. (Follows experience after following GvB's punishment for more than a month of giving 5 "thoughtful dares" per week.)
I found that I also like giving dares, but it is more about making sure the person doing it enjoys themselves than the actual task giving or getting pleasure from the person doing it. That's what I meant by submissive mindset.
And on the give and take topic of the original post. I know there are people who can come up with crazy original things on the fly. I can't, and it is truly disheartening to take time going through a person likes/dislikes, previous posts, look for references over something she said she enjoys like a game, and trying to fit it all together in a coherent and creative task, and then get nothing, not even an acknowlegment she did even read it. Or sometimes even hate mail because it was not what she wanted to receive =p
*rant over*Posted 06-14-2017 at 10:57 AM by qmu
Updated 06-14-2017 at 11:04 AM by qmu -
Give and take
Hmmm. Some good points. I do think context matters.
I think it can sometimes be somehow unfair for those without to send PM dares, but not always and less likely between persons who know each other.
(I have never "enforced" my statement that givers should have some PMs of their own, btw. I mostly have it as a way to point out [if anyone even sees it] that they probably should have some.)
And making tasks is a different skill set, as Butterfly says. I like letting that cat out of the cage even if it sometimes crosses people's wires in how they think of me. Sorry qmu!
(I'm not a dom-type at work either, I'm a consensus builder. But I can and like to let the tiger out sometimes to make things happen!)Posted 06-14-2017 at 10:47 AM by MarvHarvey -
Posted 06-14-2017 at 10:17 AM by CSasha -
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Quote:Nah, people could always post in your AMA instead
But seriously, I don't see the problem. I always thought if people have compiled a list they like receiving it no matter the source... And they make a good ice breaker.
What I find a little strange that may be relevant to the discussion is that there are people like you or Marv who identify as subs and enjoy giving tasks.
I am always nervous/wary of doing that as I always fear offending the person, or that they won't like it, enjoy it, etc. Maybe it is a submissive mindset of giving tasks? =o
I don't think that it is a prerequisite to be a dom or top to give a task. If somebody has asked for a dare (either through pm dares or another request), or you have offered, I think that as long as your dare is wanted, respectful of limits/likes and creative, it should be well received.
I know that some subs don't like giving dares at all. I also find it is a different skill set. Some people just aren't good at thinking on their feet and coming up with some creative and challenging and fun.
If you are a sub who enjoys giving tasks/dares, I say go for it!Posted 06-14-2017 at 10:00 AM by Butterfly -
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But seriously, I don't see the problem. I always thought if people have compiled a list they like receiving it no matter the source... And they make a good ice breaker.
What I find a little strange that may be relevant to the discussion is that there are people like you or Marv who identify as subs and enjoy giving tasks.
I am always nervous/wary of doing that as I always fear offending the person, or that they won't like it, enjoy it, etc. Maybe it is a submissive mindset of giving tasks? =oPosted 06-14-2017 at 09:53 AM by qmu -
Give and take
I don't like pm dares so I do not have an active list, however I know that people who have pm dares have them because they like to receive them. So I have no problem sending them even though I don't have anywhere for you to "return the favor". If you choose not to do them because I don't have any, that is up to you.
That being said, I don't send pm dares often.Posted 06-14-2017 at 09:48 AM by Butterfly -
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Is that unfair?Posted 06-14-2017 at 09:31 AM by Jaro -
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It's highly interesting to see such a variety of opinions here. I know I didn't have a decent PM dare list by myself quite recently, and I am even not sure if my current list qualifies.Posted 06-14-2017 at 08:35 AM by CSasha -
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Those who don't have useable PM dares of their own should not send PM dares. I have this on my page: "I may choose to decline PM dares from someone who does not have viable PM dares of their own."Posted 06-14-2017 at 07:17 AM by MarvHarvey -
Give and take
Thank you for the many comments. Interesting point with the asking. I should consider not making people do it when I give them dares which include sending PM dares.Posted 06-14-2017 at 01:12 AM by CSasha -
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May I also add how much PM Dares help when creating a custom task for someone? Doesn't matter if they are simple or complex, they do give a basic understanding of what the person likes or is willing to do. The likes/dislikes list helps, but they are usually too general, examples help greatly.Posted 06-13-2017 at 08:55 PM by qmu -
Give and take
Exactly. I can only put so much passion and energy into trying to write interesting and specific tasks (maybe not pm dare related), but I can only do so much especially if someone does not want to return the favor.Posted 06-13-2017 at 08:38 PM by Wedgiebondagebabe