25/M - Looking for advice + AMA

[Josh.white97]

Hey friends, wanted to start off by saying I love the community here and site! I used to be on here mostly when I was a teenager many years ago. I loved reading the TorD stories growing up, I would experiment with my friends and simultaneously read these MxM stories that were just as hot about teen boys playing TorD and getting naughty with their friends.

Now years later, I have a loving boyfriend and am happily settled down. But, the kinks I felt reading these stories growing up, and the sexual experimentation I had, weigh on me, I miss the old fantasies I used to live and read about experimenting in groups of guys. These types of stories and fantasies still arouse me more than anything.

Any advice from the community? How could I find a way to bring these kinks into my current relationship? Should I just be ignoring them?

I see there are a ton of old users that were very active with me years ago, that have grown past their time on this site. Should I also be just growing past this? Or did they just find a way to incorporate these interests in their life? Welcome any advice.

In keeping with the forum theme, also feel free to ask me anything!! Happy to talk about my kinks, fetishes, favourite stories, my relationship or anything else!

[BoundBoy69]

I also was on this site a lot as a teen. I would imagine myself as the person doing the dare. As I got older and more comfortable with my sexuality I started actually doing the dares. I have transitioned to mostly looking for people to do things with in person which is why I am not on this site as much as I used to be.

Don't ignore your desires. (Unless illegal) They are a part of who you are. You might find that once you have done a fantasy it no longer is something that you desire.

My boyfriend of 2 years and I talk openly about the types of porn and fantasies we read. It helps us know what to do when playing with each other.

I'm into a lot more kinky stuff than he is. He has tried it with me but neither of us were really satisfied with the experience. Eventually we decided that I should meet up with other people for bondage play whilst reserving romantic activities for when he is around.

We basically treat my kinks like any other hobby. I let him read any of the conversations that I have with playmates if he wants and he always knows before I go play with someone.

As for your situation the advice is the same as any other relationship question, share how you feel with your partner. If they make you feel bad for feeling the way you do they probably are not someone to spend your life with.

[Josh.white97]

Love the response super detailed! While I completely respect relationships where play is open, I don’t think my partner would be comfortable with that. He would probably interested in trying if I brought it up.

Any ideas on how I can incorporate the fantasies I mentioned above? Looking for any clear activity suggestions to direct him into the kinks.

[BoundBoy69]

Could you give more details about the fantasies that you like? The only thing I saw in your post was that you like reading about 2+ males playing truth or dare and experimenting with each other. What were the dares/situations that really turned you on?

[Josh.white97]

For sure! You’re spot on with the first example. That type of group play, TorD, experimentation. Any advice on how you create a fantasy like that with a partner?

Other kinks, love bondage, tickling, massages, piss and cum denial. Anything else in my likes. These are probably easier to do 1-on-1

[BoundBoy69]

I'd probably start with activities just the two of you. Once he warms to the idea you can suggest finding someone to join you.

If you don't know how to bring up the subject of one of the kinks you could put on a movie that happens to include it then ask if he would like to try what the characters are doing.

For bondage you could pick up a few 15 foot sections of rope from Canadian Tire. Either leave them out where he will ask about them or be practicing knots on your own when he comes over.

When you are ready to find more people to play TorD with you could attend a local munch to meet people in a non-sexual context. FetLife is a good site for discovering them.

[BoundBoy69]

Oh another idea for TorD is for both of you to write down a bunch of dares and put them in a hat. Then there is a chance of getting your own. You are bound to get some you like that way.

You can also have him read some of your favorite stories.

[Darkmoonwolf]

What is the most favorite dare you have done thus far?

[Josh.white97]

Originally Posted by Darkmoonwolf

What is the most favorite dare you have done thus far?

Having to cum with someone’s dirty underwear on my face. Love sniffing and undies

[Josh.white97]

Originally Posted by BoundBoy69

Oh another idea for TorD is for both of you to write down a bunch of dares and put them in a hat. Then there is a chance of getting your own. You are bound to get some you like that way.

You can also have him read some of your favorite stories.

This is all so helpful! I’ll PM you

[Demon Thief]

I'll start by saying BoundBoy's advice is good. Those are definitely some things you can do with your boyfriend.

What's the most embarrassing dare you've ever done?

[Josh.white97]

Thanks Demon Thief, your story is one that I was referencing, so your advice is super appreciated!

Hmm that’s a hard one. I guess this is embarrassing because I wasn’t out at the time.. but I was at a sleepover when I was young, maybe 13, and I was dared to give one of my friends (who I had a massive crush on) a massage. I started on his back and moved down to his hips, my other friends were yelling that the date included everywhere! So I slowly moved down and rubbed his butt, at that point my cock shot up and I was hard as a rock.. the fantasy didn’t last long until my friends starting saying “dude is this turning you on, wtf!!” And then I argued I just had a random boner come out of nowhere and then I stopped and went back to where I was sitting. I felt so embarrassed… but they all definitely forgot cause I still know those guys today.

[Demon Thief]

That's pretty interesting, so here's a follow-up question:

How did the guy you were crushing on react to the massage?

[Josh.white97]

He was pretty chill about it. I think he was just your average straight guy who was trying to be a part of the fun. I think he was fine with it but it didn’t do anything for him.

You might be interested in this though - many years later , when we were maybe 19? After he knew i was gay, we had a random night hanging out in my basement where he asked if I wanted to feel his pecs (he had been working out a lot during that time) and so I did and started running my hands all over his torso, pecs, abs. It was a great night and one of the horniest I had ever been. I don’t think it was sexual for him, but he wanted some validation.. and I definitely got what I wanted We haven’t done anything like that since then, and we were still friends up until maybe two years ago? I’m 25 now for reference to all these events.

I was also 14-18 when I was reading all your stories. I think the 13 year old experience sparked my interest and led me to this site

[Demon Thief]

So what is your favorite fetish?