12-31-2009, 05:09 AM | #1 |
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★ I'm curious.
I was wondering if anyone could help me understand, S/M more, I guess.
There are a lot of threads in the Slave/Master Lounge, I'm not sure which ones of those would actually be helpful. Also, to understand the mindset of a Master/Mistress/Dom, as in to get why they feel the need to be in control of someone else. Also, there are a lot of names, so do the names indicate a difference in the role? Also someone in the chat mentioned needing a "First Aid kit" which got me thinking does pain always have to be a factor? Also what it is that make people decide or know that they are dominant or submissive. Also what exactly does a non-sexual S/M relationship entail? I probably have other questions but I can't think of them at the moment.
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12-31-2009, 05:21 AM | #2 |
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I am too really interested in it all now. Because there's some threads on here that make it seem like it's something I'd definitely not even consider, whereas others get me really intrigued.
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12-31-2009, 05:25 AM | #3 |
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Yes some of the aspects of it I've heard about sound terrible, whereas some are interesting. Maybe I'm looking in the wrong places.
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12-31-2009, 05:54 AM | #4 |
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There are different kinds of slave/master relationships. ^^
Some are rather ruthless where the sadistic dom only wants to inflict as much pain as possible, and the masochistic sub wants to be cut up, pierced, beaten and treated like a worthless doll. It's just what excites them. Others are more gentle, in a way. There's still pain, whether it's as punishment for not doing something right, or as training. But the pain is milder, like a spanking, or clothespins on your nipples (try it with plastic, hook-like clothespins right on the edge... hurts WORSE than hell. o.o), or other punishments that don't hurt you as much. It's not a factor for you, Betty, but some masters/mistresses restrict how much their slave can cum per day, while others force them to cum x times per day to wear them out. A lot of it is basically just a long chain of dares you can't say no to, so it could literally be anything from clothespins on your nipples to crossdressing, unless it's against your limits. Of course, these experiences change with real-life relationships, but the principle is the same. It all just depends on the limits, and the type of person each of the masters/slaves are. That's why so many of them feel dissatisfied in their relationship - they aren't getting the level of abuse/control that they need. Well, that's what I've observed, in any case. Perhaps I'm wrong? |
12-31-2009, 06:49 AM | #5 |
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M/s is not about pain, it is not about sex, it is not about calling yourself a master, it is not about doing dares and it sure is not about punishments.
It is at first a relationship with every aspect of any other relationship. With all the problems and also wonderful things. Two (or more) people are together because they feel sympathetic to each other. And because they share the same interests. The only thing that separates it from any other relationship is that there is an agreement about the slave serving the Master and that he/she has the last word if something needs to be decided. This can start with what to wear and end with if to have kids. It can but it sure doesn't have to mean that everything will be decided by the master or that he/she wont listen to arguments as long as he/she has enough information to make this decision, but in general it means that he/she has "only" the ultimate last word after listening and thinking about every aspect. What comes after that, the things you "see", are purely a matter of preferences. And will be very different from one person to another and also from relationship to relationship. There can be and there are sadistic slaves and masochistic Masters for example...
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12-31-2009, 08:02 AM | #7 |
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That was really interesting, LilAngel.
By the "different names" thing, I think she meant (and if she didn't, I'm quite intrugues) is there any difference between a Master/slave relationship and a Dominant/submissive relationship? Or is it just preferred terms?
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12-31-2009, 08:30 AM | #8 |
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wow, there were many answers.
All I can do is tell you, how it works between me and my slave. So first: I really love her, and like lilAngel said, in the end is she the one, who controls me, but more to that later. The base of our relationship are the same interests, mainly in sexual matters. The thing is, that I let her do things, and out of her reactions, I know if she likes it or not, as she is submissive and I am dominant, I can sometimes not completely understand, why she likes something or not. Those are things I would never do, but it pleasures her very strong. We are doing things, what we did not before, so it is exploring something new together and that is just great, if we like it, we do it again, if not, well... The pain, she likes pain, as it is moderate. The pain simply sensibilizes some parts of her body and the pleasure feels even stronger. So, it is not about pain or hurting her, it is about pleasuring her. And yes, sometimes as a punishment. Well the names, I call her everything - lol. No really, most I just call her "my love" but as it gets in some "situations" she likes it to be named as "slut, ..." that was for example something for me, I had to learn, completely against my education, to call a girl/woman like this! But I get used to it. Of couse only with her. Yes, the first aid kit, I really think, I'll never need one of that, as there is nothing in our relationship, that is that dangerous, I would hate myself, if I would seriously injure her! We talked about the thing, why she knows, she is submissive, she just told me, that she ever knew it, becasue it brought her pleasure, to serve others in every way. So why do I know, that I'm dominant. I just don't like to serve in taht way, it's just something I could not do. Now to the nonsexual relationship: Well between us two, it was first nearly only about the sexual stuff, but as more I knew and loved her, I had the urge, to become a bigger part of her live, outside of the "bedroom", so we decided, that I control more aspects of her live. That is not really working yet, becasue we discuss at the moment how muhc I will control and what are the things possible. Now the thing, why she controls me and not the other way: Well, she has her limits, yes some of them are not limits any more, but if there is something, she really hates, it becomes part of her limits and so she stops me. As I respect her private and social life, which I think iss even more important than our relationsship, she just tells me, if she has time or not. Well, I think I can't completely explain, why she is in charge, but that is simply the way it is. Well, that is all I can say at the moment, I hope I could help you at leat a bit. regards story_freak
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Thanks for all the replies, they helped a lot
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as for your other questions, pain doesn't have to be a factor but it usually is in varying degrees and usage, you don't decide if your a master or slave, it's more like your sexual orientation you just have to figure it out and there isn't anything exactly that a non-sexual one entails, but it's about control, the master gives orders the slave obeys or gets punished, it can be cleans, what to wear, exercises maybe even pet play
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