10-03-2016, 12:51 AM | #1 |
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What defines a good master from a mediocre or bad one?
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What do you feel makes a good master? Is it one who demands your submission, or is it one who accepts your submission as a gift? Does a good master punish harshly, or fitting the circumstances of the disobedience? Does a good master build you up to knock you down?
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10-03-2016, 03:07 AM | #2 |
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I think that since people differ so much in their kinks, it's important that a dom and a sub can line up in what they want out of the relationship. A really harsh master might be what someone craves and plays off of, but might be too much for another.
Again, some people are more into a caring master sort of vibe, where others are drawn more to the humiliation and rough treatment. So I think whilst everyone has their specific kinks, a good master is probably flexible enough to try out different approaches and find out what works best for the both of them.
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10-03-2016, 06:43 PM | #4 | |
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10-03-2016, 07:13 PM | #5 |
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This varies from person to person... how can you define a good Master?
The only thing I have to say is that a bad Master is someone who is abusive/non consensual. There's no such thing as a mediocre master... it's a learning process for everyone.
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10-04-2016, 06:42 PM | #7 |
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First, let's start with the fact that it's my belief that the title "Master," in the context of BDSM, is something that is earned through years of experience and/or mentoring wherein one is exposed to the various theories and methods associated with BDSM. With no mastery, there is no master.
Within a relationship, a sub may desire and choose to call their partner their "Master," and that is very much their prerogative, but it doesn't necessarily make that person a Master any more than naming your daughter "Apple" makes her a fruit. That being said...I believe what makes a good master starts with what I believe makes a good person. Communicative, attentive, critically thinking, and patient are good traits to start with. From there, we can identify a plethora of traits that could all amount to a good Master-slave relationship, depending on the needs of the slave in question. A desire to take leadership and responsibility for oneself and one's relationship is key in identifying a Dom-type (and later, a master), though secondary to the aforementioned traits when identifying a good Dom (i.e. wanting to Dom doesn't make you a good Dom - you have to work at it). Mastery of the skills, theories, and techniques relating to BDSM play; an intimate understanding of and relationship with one's own sexual identity; an overall equilibrium within oneself that brings stability to one's goals and social environment; the experience and interpersonal skill required to guide and "mold" a fully grown adult; these are just a few of the qualities found in a good Master. In short, the qualities of a good Master cannot be summed up in a few two-dimensional this-or-that Q&A's. It's a lot deeper than that.
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10-04-2016, 09:17 PM | #8 |
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a Good or mediocre master can be explain in various ways and its all how you look at it. Most people just see as a position of authority over another being or multiple beings. Others see it as an Honor to be ones master such as Master of a Trade ( IE Martial Arts but not the topic ). I Simply see it As Someone who knows what they want, when they want it, how they want it without regards of what the obstacles are because they have the willpower to get what they want, one way or another.
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10-05-2016, 03:00 PM | #9 | |
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10-06-2016, 01:39 AM | #10 |
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Well Rape is Illegal so therefor If Illegal stuff is a Limit for you which it should be for 99% of people they wouldn't be a good master if they don't respect the other. That make it better? :P
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10-10-2016, 11:26 PM | #11 |
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Making my point
Thanks everyone for the replies.
The reason for asking the question was to show that people can have a range of views, none which are more right or wrong than yours. Let us all enjoy each others quirks and just because your Kink isn't mine doesn't make you wrong.
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