How angry do you feel when a Sub disobeys/breaks a rule

pluky · 12-04-2023, 06:56 AM

It's a poll but you can elaborate.

phteheven · 12-04-2023, 03:08 PM

I think there are multiple answers to this, depending on why she was disobedient.

If she's just being bratty it doesn't really bother me, I'm not a heavy punishment kind of guy and some banter is all part of the game to me, and in those cases we basically both know things are gonna end where I want them to end anyway.

But if it's not just being bratty, but motivated by other factors, I look to myself first. Was what I asked unreasonable for some reason I didn't take into account? Did I get closer to a limit than I intended?

The Dom/Sub relationship is, to me, largely defined by mutual trust, and when that trust is put into question, I'm inclined to figure out why.

Either way, I do my best to never get actually mad. It's all play, and when it stops being that, getting mad will be the least helpful response.

briefsorboxers · 12-04-2023, 03:25 PM

It depends. If they are giving a wink wink/nug nug that they are being bratty and want to be punished, or they are honestly trying but can't for some reason follow the directions that is fine/fun.

However if they are not really trying at all I start to get annoyed. I usually put a lot of effort into being a dom when I am and I expect the some effort from my subs in return. Hard to play the game when there is only one player.

Randy Magnum · 12-05-2023, 12:39 AM

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Originally Posted by briefsorboxers

It depends. If they are giving a wink wink/nug nug that they are being bratty and want to be punished, or they are honestly trying but can't for some reason follow the directions that is fine/fun.

However if they are not really trying at all I start to get annoyed. I usually put a lot of effort into being a dom when I am and I expect the some effort from my subs in return. Hard to play the game when there is only one player.

Yep this 100%,

Being bratty is fun,

if they can't follow the task but tried then I usually don't feel annoyed and the task is reworked (depending on reason) so it can be achieved.

No effort to complete the task is a waste of time for everyone

View Poll Results: How angry are you at your Sub when rules are broken ?
Very mad and disappointed	2	14.29%
Slightly annoyed	4	28.57%
It doesn't really bother me but, even if I might have to be strict and punish it	7	50.00%
I actually like it, it gives me an opportunity at being more severe, and punishing	4	28.57%
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12-04-2023, 06:56 AM	#1
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12-04-2023, 03:08 PM	#2
phteheven Member Join Date: Feb 2020 Posts: 40	I think there are multiple answers to this, depending on why she was disobedient. If she's just being bratty it doesn't really bother me, I'm not a heavy punishment kind of guy and some banter is all part of the game to me, and in those cases we basically both know things are gonna end where I want them to end anyway. But if it's not just being bratty, but motivated by other factors, I look to myself first. Was what I asked unreasonable for some reason I didn't take into account? Did I get closer to a limit than I intended? The Dom/Sub relationship is, to me, largely defined by mutual trust, and when that trust is put into question, I'm inclined to figure out why. Either way, I do my best to never get actually mad. It's all play, and when it stops being that, getting mad will be the least helpful response. __________________ 34/m/straight/dom Probably more vanilla than you, tbh

12-04-2023, 03:25 PM	#3
briefsorboxers getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Oct 2013 Posts: 486	It depends. If they are giving a wink wink/nug nug that they are being bratty and want to be punished, or they are honestly trying but can't for some reason follow the directions that is fine/fun. However if they are not really trying at all I start to get annoyed. I usually put a lot of effort into being a dom when I am and I expect the some effort from my subs in return. Hard to play the game when there is only one player. __________________ 40 \| male \| gay Loves Underwear, Hidden Public, Masturbation, Games, Punishment Semi-Public, Messy underwear (food etc), Diapers, Anal, Limits Scat, Permanent, cross dress, Family, Illegal, Full-Public, Face, Pics