Should Subs express their feelings freely ?

[pluky]

Or should they be more careful about the way they express their Sub drop and various negative emotions that can happen, because it might make the Doms feel guilty or lead them to have a Dom drop ?

[PrincessJessica]

Yes they should share their feelings as they're essential for a dom to know and guide their decisions for the submissive. From a dominant point of view one of the things I really "get off on" is hearing about the emotional effect of tasks given and feeling that connection with the submissive. I'd be somewhat disappointed if they were holding back to not hurt my feelings.

[Ebennett]

Subs should definitely express their emotions. While avoiding Dom drop is important, that can be done by just saying that you don't blame the Dom for anything that went wrong and telling them you think they did a good job. It's very important that the Dom know what was good and what wasn't especially if you'll ever have more sessions together so they can learn and adjust. Each sub has different preferences, so without honest feedback, it's very hard to tailor sessions to subs preferences

[MasterMartin]

What makes you feel they should not express them? Did you have a Dom telling you so?

A Sub always should tell her feelings. Especially while in a session as for the dynamic it is most important to understand what the other part feels in this very moment and to understand if all goes as planned

[pluky]

Originally Posted by MasterMartin

What makes you feel they should not express them? Did you have a Dom telling you so?

No never, usually the opposite, but personally I felt guilty more than once, when thinking of how expressing my post session negative emotions might impact the other side.

[SirDenial]

I feel they should definitely express their feelings. As a Dom while I can enjoy the control and submission given, it always comes with the responsibility to take care of the submissive, including emotionally. If something is wrong, I want to know so I can work on that, and if something has made them happy I want to know so I can incorporate it more.
This also includes aspects outside of the sub/Dom dynamic as we are both people and should feel free to communicate with each other about these things.

[Azyliux]

I add to the universal chorus singing that a Dom needs feedback to know where his sub is at, especially after any kind of session that might cause significant sub drop and aftercare is needed. A sub holding back to manage her Dom's feelings would concern me a little.

[Dave1996]

So the open communication is really key, and subs absolutely should express feelings freely, especially if they have any sort of concerns, as that's how the feedback loop works. Otherwise, as the dom, you're almost set up for failure, I feel, especially as both parties might be second guessing themselves.

[MissyK]

Originally Posted by pluky

Or should they be more careful about the way they express their Sub drop and various negative emotions that can happen, because it might make the Doms feel guilty or lead them to have a Dom drop ?

I won't play with someone if they won't communicate with me. It's makes them dangerous to play with imo. If my partner is dropping and they lie and tell me they're okay, or try to mitigate it, that's taking away my informed consent