06-12-2019, 01:29 AM | #1 |
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How to be a good dominant
As a sub slave navigating the treacherous waters of trying to find a dom online let me tell you what I think makes a good dom.
1. Do not ask for pictures right off the bat unless she is comfortable sending them. If you just want to jack off there is enough free porn on the internet. Asking her to verify is alright. Also, recommend you do the same since it inspires trust. Do not expect to make drastic changes in the first few weeks of the relationship such as leaving job getting piercing etc. Do not address them as Hi slut. Read their likes dislikes. Do not ask them to tell you about themselves ask pointed questions. 2. Your submissive’s well being and health must always be priority 3. You must establish trust with your slave before you attempt to order them around. 4. Always communicate your desires and allow them frequent opportunities to tell you what’s on her mind. 5. Be humble. Being a loud and cocky bastard is unappealing 6. If you are inexperienced at something, say so. They have a right to know — and knowing may have them speak up before they gets accidentally hurt. 7. Alcohol and drugs should not be part of your scene. They impair you judgement and put your sub at risk. So stick to more straightforward fucking when drunk. 8. Aftercare is really important. 9. Give them attention everyday. Even a quick text lets them know she’s in your thoughts 10. Make them tell you their dreams. Set goals for them to achieve. Think of something you love about them — every single day. Put their birthday into your calendar. Get them to tell you their thoughts. 11. Ask her if there is anything they needs help with. Clearly explain what you expect of them. 12. Protect them. If someone is pushing them around, it is your duty to step up and defend them. Create a safe space for them. 13. Respect limits. 14. Support her and be patient. |
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06-12-2019, 01:51 AM | #2 |
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Thank you!
As a subby male I can confirm to every of your words also the other way round.
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06-12-2019, 03:02 AM | #3 |
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Nailed it.
Also when dealing with a sub with low self esteem: Make sure to communicate that you love them regardless. Humiliation, punishments and scolding are fine, but make sure to communicate that they are aimed at their play persona, not the real person. Respect boundaries and insecureties.
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