How to make amends ?

pluky · 08-11-2023, 10:48 PM

How to make up for it as a Sub when you've hurt a Dom's feelings unintentionally by being clumsy and stupid and ignorant ?

It's usually hard enough with normal people, but the Sub position makes it feel much more guilty, much more powerless 🙁

Maybe should have posted in like advice section, sorry.

Matt262 · 08-11-2023, 11:14 PM

Have a deep conversation about what exactly happened and why it happened. Ask what they felt and what was the cause of it. This way you can insure it never happens again while showing your dom you care a lot about them. Dom Drops are a thing aswell and i had to talk about my Dom about it. While it was uncomfortable in the moment it greatly helped us in the long run.

So as long as you talk about it in a serious manner you and your dom will be able to overcome this.

Lyb · 08-12-2023, 01:18 AM

I hope a dom perspective is welcome too.

Personally I really need to believe the sub understands why I was hurt. It's more important than a punishment or anything else. Especially since you seem to describe a situation where no punishment will be worse than the guilt.

But anyway my point, which joins the post above, is that if I believe my sub understood why I'm hurt and how I got impacted it will be easier for me to move on because I will trust it is unlikely to happen again. And believing the sub understood my pov his beyond a simple I'm sorry

08-11-2023, 10:48 PM	#1
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08-11-2023, 11:14 PM	#2
Matt262 Member Join Date: Jan 2023 Location: Germany Posts: 33 Blog Entries: 1	Talk about it Have a deep conversation about what exactly happened and why it happened. Ask what they felt and what was the cause of it. This way you can insure it never happens again while showing your dom you care a lot about them. Dom Drops are a thing aswell and i had to talk about my Dom about it. While it was uncomfortable in the moment it greatly helped us in the long run. So as long as you talk about it in a serious manner you and your dom will be able to overcome this. __________________ Safewords are traffic lights, dont ignore them Kik is MattTheOne262

08-12-2023, 01:18 AM	#3
Lyb getDare Addict Join Date: Sep 2015 Posts: 2,384 Blog Entries: 6	I hope a dom perspective is welcome too. Personally I really need to believe the sub understands why I was hurt. It's more important than a punishment or anything else. Especially since you seem to describe a situation where no punishment will be worse than the guilt. But anyway my point, which joins the post above, is that if I believe my sub understood why I'm hurt and how I got impacted it will be easier for me to move on because I will trust it is unlikely to happen again. And believing the sub understood my pov his beyond a simple I'm sorry __________________ Nice to meet you, Feel free to pm me to get dared or if you're looking for a Master. (Women only) Currently looking for women to hypnotise Girls looking for rules: http://www.getdare.com/bbs/showthread.php?t=303522 kik: lyb.lyb Wickr: lyblyb