Complaining slave.

QueenC29 · 10-10-2018, 02:59 PM

My slave complained during his last punishment, trying to ask me to do part of it at a later date. Also asking for detailed messages of future punishments for his pleasure, to masterbate. How do i regain his focus and keep him in his place?
Any punishment ideas to stop him from doing this again?

Happy Me · 10-10-2018, 03:31 PM

Have a clear, direct conversation about it and get both of your goals, likes, and preferred dynamics clear in order to make sure you both stay happy.

Bloxo · 10-10-2018, 03:34 PM

Another punishment that would serve well here would be denial...if he insists on having pleasure, then take it away from him...I bet that would snap him back into line and take things more seriously!

KittenLicks · 10-11-2018, 02:40 AM

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Originally Posted by Happy Me

Have a clear, direct conversation about it and get both of your goals, likes, and preferred dynamics clear in order to make sure you both stay happy.

Pretty much was Happy said, honestly. Conversation is extremely important in any kind of relationship.

Butterfly · 10-11-2018, 09:45 AM

I think it is important to have a conversation, at a time where a punishment is not imminent, about expectations. Your slave is not a mind reader. Having a clear discussion about your expectations when handing out a punishment, or during a play session/scene, or even everyday rule following etc. is very important. They can't be expected to meet your expectations if they aren't clear.

Also have a clear conversation about the consequences for not living up to those expectations is important. That way you are on the same page.

Personally, my sub is allowed to complain until we tell him that enough is enough. At that point, if he continues there will be a consequence, which would typically be making the task/punishment harder or longer in some way.

As was suggested, if you want him to focus on something other than his pleasure, denial could be something that is used as a punishment. But it really depends on what his likes/dislikes/limits are.

10-10-2018, 02:59 PM	#1
QueenC29 Baby Member Join Date: Oct 2018 Posts: 1	Complaining slave. My slave complained during his last punishment, trying to ask me to do part of it at a later date. Also asking for detailed messages of future punishments for his pleasure, to masterbate. How do i regain his focus and keep him in his place? Any punishment ideas to stop him from doing this again?

10-10-2018, 03:31 PM	#2
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Bloxo getDare Devil Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: UK/Poland Posts: 1,464 Blog Entries: 69	Another punishment that would serve well here would be denial...if he insists on having pleasure, then take it away from him...I bet that would snap him back into line and take things more seriously! __________________ 40/m/UK/PL/switch - more dominant Likes/Dislikes/Limits/Toys PM DARES! I'm straight and will only take Dares from Girls, please bear this in mind when writing to me. Please be genuine, be fun and have a good heart...with a sadistic streak hehe...6 inches Curious about me or Poland? check out my Youtube!

10-11-2018, 09:45 AM	#5
Butterfly A Butterfly Princess <3 Join Date: Jul 2014 Location: Alberta, Canada Posts: 4,666 Blog Entries: 515	I think it is important to have a conversation, at a time where a punishment is not imminent, about expectations. Your slave is not a mind reader. Having a clear discussion about your expectations when handing out a punishment, or during a play session/scene, or even everyday rule following etc. is very important. They can't be expected to meet your expectations if they aren't clear. Also have a clear conversation about the consequences for not living up to those expectations is important. That way you are on the same page. Personally, my sub is allowed to complain until we tell him that enough is enough. At that point, if he continues there will be a consequence, which would typically be making the task/punishment harder or longer in some way. As was suggested, if you want him to focus on something other than his pleasure, denial could be something that is used as a punishment. But it really depends on what his likes/dislikes/limits are. __________________ On Hiatus PMs will not be responded to My heart belongs to my Husband: Mr. Devious Being tortured frequently by my Dom SleepySloth Served by my loyal worm Jaro Caring for my little TheBrat Recordings ❤ FAQ ❤ AMA Likes/Limits ❤ Toys Discord: butterfly.cm ❤