Gay Guys' Guide to the Galaxy

[Dylan xX]

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Connor and I agreed that we should try to contribute a little more to the getDare community. Over the last year, we have both received quite a few PMs asking for advice pertaining to homosexual topics. We figured that we could archive all the questions in one thread so people have a place of reference to go to when they have such troubles.

We will be offering any homosexual advice. Any question that remotely makes you think about rainbows, we will answer. Feel free to ask any question from coming out all the way to the real deal.

After you ask your question, give us a maximum of 2 days to answer. Connor and I might both contribute an input (our answers will most likely always be similar). Check back on this thread for your answered question.

Don't hold back,

Dylan and Connor <3

[Dylan xX]

Experimenting:

Question: Okay so after 2 years, I finally found a boy at my school that really wants to try some gay activity. I told him I want to get a blowjob, and he says he'll give me one if he's allowed to fuck me. I despise anal and can't tolerate it at all. I really don't want to do this. Is there any way that I could persuade him to do what I want without having to get fucked?

Answer: This is actually a really valid concern. My guess is you just recently discovered you're gay, and haven't even tried much on your own yet. If you really hate anal, just tell him. I doubt he's going to deny you a blowjob just because you're scared of the pain. On the other hand, you might want to do what he says. I'm assuming that you've tried inserting and didn't like it, but it's a whole different feeling when someone's doing it TO you, feeling around, etc. Whether you'll like it or not, it's a good experience. Also if you ask him to jerk you off while he fucks you, it'll feel much better. I don't suggest manipulating your way out of it. It'd be a mistake. (Answered by Dylan)

M-m-make out scene:

Question: How are you supposed to do this? What should you do during it with your hands and stuff? My friend and I do it, he's experienced, I'm not though.

Answer: I understand where you're coming from completely. When Dylan and I became boyfriends, he had made out with about 15 girls and I had made out with 1. The best way to do it is actually to not think about it and feel free to lose control. Trust me, you won't even notice where your hands are moving. (Answered by Connor)

He pretty much covered it. You really shouldn't be thinking about it. Not only will it be less enjoyable for him, but for you too. Also, I think it'd be really cute if you just told him you're inexperienced and ask him to guide you through it. Only things you really shouldn't do: Don't open your eyes if your lips are touching his, and don't twist your head too much. I doubt you'd do either one of those, but it just makes it awkward. (Answered by Dylan)

Masturbation tips/Experimenting

Question: How can I jerk off with my straight friend?

Answer: This question pertains more to experimenting. First, make sure he's actually straight. It's not incredibly hard to deny being gay/bi. If you think you can tolerate straight porn, it's really simple. When he's at your house, just continuously whine about how you need to jack. He'll probably say "Then go do it" or "Eww"; in that case, just ignore it and whine 15 minutes after. Keep doing this until he says he does too. Many straight guys don't mind jacking off with other straight guys, so it won't be any different with you. If he doesn't say he needs to as well, just ask him casually "Are you as horny as I am?". If not, then well, sorry. (Answered by Dylan)

[Dylan xX]

Finding a boyfriend:

Question: I have found a few cute boys at my school and They have friends who they always act gay with, Like grabbing butts, ETC. I Dont know if their gay or at least bi. I want them to like notice me and we could be friends and beyond. But next year I do start high school and was wondering how and spot a gay/Bi guy that's interested in me?

Answer: I guess it all comes down to you breaking out of your comfort zone and just being blatant. I think that if you aren't friends with them at all, there's no point in trying to flirt. I would go to any one of your friends that you have suspicion about, and kind of slowly make it obvious that you're gay/bi/whatever you are. Once they get curious about you, they'll be the one chasing you. Now, about how to spot a gay/bi guy. There's another question about that, so check that question for an answer :P. (Answered by Connor)

Masturbation tips:

Question: How can you make masturbating feel a lot like sex. Like what can I use?

Answer: I use to ask EVERYONE this question too. I could link you to a site that shows you how to do it, but I'll explain it instead. The technique is called "The Vagina", but it feels just like ass poundin' too.

All you need is some sort of lubricant and your hands. Lube up your dominant hand and dick. Grip your penis with the backhand grip. (Google it, viewer discretion advised) Lay down on your side, and then roll over so you're face down. Now thrust in and out of your hands quickly. It takes stamina, but if you do it right for about 10 minutes, you'll have an awesome orgasm. It definitely feels a lot like sex. (Answered by Dylan)

Sexuality advice:

Question: How do you spot a gay person?

Answer: This is an iffy question. It's not always visible. People see me with Connor all the time and still assume I'm straight. Before you go around on a Salem Homo Trial, make sure you note this. DO NOT TAKE THE TONE OF SOMEONE'S VOICE INTO ACCOUNT OF THEIR SEXUALITY. I know many people who talk like total flamers, but are straight as fuck. Basically, just observe how they respond to conversation about straight and gay topics. If they look really uncomfortable during talks about the opposite gender, they're probably gay. I'll post more tips on here eventually, but use this for now. (Answered by Dylan)

[Dylan xX]

Relationship Advice:

Question: Well, I was just sitting in my room when my boyfriend came in and got on top of me. We made out for a while then he took his clothes off. We are only 18 and we talked about waiting and he agreed to it. I got away from him and told him I wanted to wait, that I had a life ahead of us. He got mad and left, now he does not talk to me. What should I do?

Answer: First, I want to say that while I don't see too much of a point in waiting, I respect your decision. It's honestly kind of pathetic that your boyfriend would be mad about such a thing. I think you should be honest and tell him that if he really loves you, he'll respect your decision as well. (Answered by both)


Question: One of my best friends has done some experimenting with one of his friends. My best friend doesn't know that I know, and he also doesn't know I'm bisexual, but he seems like the straightest person I know! I want to tell him about me and see where it takes us, what do you think I should do?

Answer: If he's truly one of your best friends, go for it. You just said that you want to, so I don't see a reason not to. It's not like he's going to say "EWW YOU'RE BI??", because you'd have just as much on him as he has on you. Nothing to lose, so do it! (Answered by Connor)

Sexuality advice:

Question: I've done things with boys before, and I enjoyed it but I couldn't bring myself to do things like giving them blow jobs and going further because it just didn't seem right, but I also feel like I'm really in love with this girl and I have been for nearly a year now, but I can't think about her intimately. I just don't know whether I'm straight gay or bi, because it could just be a stage but I just dunno.

Answer: It might have helped to include info such as what you've done with boys and how old you are. If you're older than 16, it's probably not a phase. Based on the given info, I find it impossible that you could be gay, because a blowjob is pretty much one of the most subtle gay activities. I also find it impossible to be completely straight, because you are only romantically attracted to girls. If you aren't romantically attracted to boys, then you might still be bi-curious. If you are, then you're for sure bi. (Answered by Dylan)

"The real deal":

Question: How do I keep my hole clean? I don't want to gross him out!!!

Answer: Well, I'm assuming when you're inserting, you normally get some icky stuff on the object. Some people are just extremely lucky, and that NEVER happens, Connor and I for example. However I've heard of a few techniques on how to prevent it. The basic way to do it without having to buy anything is quite simple and actually enjoyable: Simply take a shower, and start by cleaning the external part of your butt. Then, take a soapy finger and stick it in. Thrust in and out for about 30 seconds, rinse your finger, and repeat until there are no "leftovers" on your finger. Then put some soap ON (not in) your hole, and let the water push the soap in. Afterwards it supposedly is always squeaky clean. (Answered by Dylan)

Coming out:

Question: I'm bi and really wanna come out because its really aggravating. But where I live everyone and I mean EVERYONE is homophobic. Don't know what to do, even if someone is bi they call them gay and its annoying. What do I do?

Answer: I didn't see the point of the 2nd to last sentence. It's a natural response, 99% of the people at my school will call anyone that touches someone of the same gender, even a brush on the shoulder, gay. I hate discouraging coming out, but be open minded when I say this: I think it'd be a very very bad idea in your condition. Even if it helped you get a boyfriend, you will still receive an unbearable amount of shit for coming out. Besides, if EVERYONE is truly homophobic, then what could you possibly gain from it? If your gut truly tells you to come out, go for it. If you have a ton of doubts, don't. (Answered by Dylan)

[Dylan xX]

Finding a boyfriend:

Question: Ok, so I just confirmed about one of my somewhat friend is gay and I like him and I dont know what to do and so like he's in my gaming class and what do I do?

Answer: Well lets face the facts: If you really like him, you're going to end up going for him no matter what. Start off by trying to hang out with him outside of school. It always takes a friendship farther. Make that your priority and don't worry about other things until then. The other option would be to straight up tell him, but that's a bit more risky. (Answered by Connor)

Keeping it a secret:

Question: So, I am completely gay, but I have this really good female friend. Since most people think I'm straight, they often ask if we are dating. I'll reply no, and then they'll ask if we're related. Again I'll say no, and then they just say to start dating and leave. I don't know how to deal with this without actually explaining that I'm gay (Which I'm not ready to do yet). Any suggestions?

Answer: This used to annoy the living fuck out of me, but I found that it was best to NOT deal with it. If you just tell them that you're not looking for someone right now, they should leave you alone. (Answered by Dylan)

Other:

Question: How do you know if someone is "chasing" after you?

Answer: Pretty obvious signs. Catch them staring at you and drooling, blushing when you talk to them, they'll feel uncomfortable when you flirt with them (though that could just be a homophobe). It's a basic thing to figure out, just ask your gut. XD (Answered by both)

[hornyj]

Hey guys can I just say I think this is a great thing you're doing! It's really gonna help lots of people. Much love, Well done!

[Dylan xX]

Originally Posted by hornyj

Hey guys can I just say I think this is a great thing you're doing! It's really gonna help lots of people. Much love, Well done!

Thanks Joshhy <333.

BTW guys, if your question doesn't get answered in 2 days, it's probably because there haven't been more than 3 qs asked. Thanks

[Rickybob]

Is this thread still going on?

[daremaster 1]

Originally Posted by Rickybob

Is this thread still going on?

I thank it is but there hasen't been any other questions for them :/ Im not for sure really

[Rickybob]

ok thanks for the information. the reason I ask is because I asked a question. I really have to learn to be patient

[Dylan xX]

M-m-makeout scene:

Question: So this guy and I make out, and we've talked about giving bj's to each other. But then when we make out we're both nervous to make the first move. What should I do? I want to make the first move, I'm just not sure how to.

Answer: Alright time for my weird ass analogies. Pretend you're afraid of heights and you're standing on the edge of a 30 foot high cliff, and you want to dive in just to prove you're not a chicken. Obviously you're gonna end up doing it, but it's just torture to stand there and look down for hours. It's WAYYYY less painful to just jump without thinking. Same goes for making the first move. If he's not gonna make it, you're gonna have to, so just go for it right off the bat. Make sure he doesn't see it coming. (Answered by Dylan)

Relationship advice:

Question: Do you guys like to snuggle more or do more sexual things when you are together?

Answer: We LOOOOVEEEEEEEEEE snuggling. Most of our time nowadays is spent snuggling, cuddling, kissing, and those kinda mushy moments. In a cuddle to sex time ratio, I'd say it's 70/30 (Answered by both)

Sexuality advice:

Question: I don't know whether I'm gay, bi, or straight? I've always been interested in girls, but the past couple of months I've been more attracted to guys, like I would rather have a boyfriend than a girlfriend. when I think of guys I start to think of us doing "stuff" with each other. I've never done anything with a guy if that helps. so what would I be?

Answer: I'm just gonna be straight forward, it REALLY doesn't sound like you could possibly be straight. If you've never done anything with a guy and you're still puzzled, you're probably bi-curious. It isn't incredibly uncommon. I was only bi-curious for quite a while, until I had a near experience with a girl and hated it. I also realized I never cared for a girlfriend the same way I craved for a boyfriend. You might be emotionally curious as well, and won't really know your sexuality until you find a boy/girl for you. (Answered by Dylan)

Experimenting:

Question: I used to make "bets" with my friend, and they generally ended with some type of bondage or one of us being forced to do something. about 2 years ago we made a bet and the loser was supposed to suck the winners cock. and I won, but while i was trying to get my cock in his mouth, my little brother saw us through the window. and to make it easier to deny (we were both supposed to be straight.), we basically stopped talking, which made me realize that I was bi-curious and I had a crush on him. I would just like to know if he is gay or not, and try to gain our friendship back, as we were really close friends before that happened. What would be a good way for me to try and become friends with him again and find out if he is straight or not? thanks.

Answer: Focus on becoming friends again first. That's key. I don't know if you still live close or go to his school, but just a nice text saying "I miss hanging out with you" might actually make his day and re-initiate yall's friendship. When a friendship starts building up after a break, both sides of the party are usually a lot nicer to the other then they used to be. You might have a nice time window to tell him about yourself, or just straight up ask him about his sexuality. (Answered by Dylan)

READ ME

I'm really sorry about the wait guys, first of all. First two days back in school have been really iffy, but I wanted to inform you about form related stuff.

If your question was not answered, there are two possibilities of what might've happened

1) Your question was too general or impossible to answer. (Ex: Foreplay tips, help?; Am I gay?)

2) 2 questions were deleted because dumbass Dylan pushed the wrong button. I'm really sorry for the inconvenience. I believe question 1 had something to do with finding a boyfriend, but not sure about the 2nd.



-Dylsterr

[Dylan xX]

Finding a boyfriend:

Question: So I want to know is when your looking for a boyfriend and if there is someone you like how can you find out if they are gay and like you if they are gay (Without making it obvious that you are)? Thanks

Answer: I hate giving this answer to people, but usually someone that you just "know" is bi/gay, is straight. It's happened to me too many times. I wish there was just a basic answer to give, but look for the obvious things. EX: They're constantly obsessing over you.

However if you want to try to get a friend to tell you himself, you can try letting him see some sort of gay support (Either you talking about supporting your gay friend, or just wear a purple wristband or something). This occasionally works.(Answered by Dylan)

Question: How do you find the right moment to ask someone about their sexuality and tell them about your own? I believe this guy is bi but I'm not completely sure and can never find the right moment to ask or tell him?

Answer: Not sure what you'd consider a prime moment, but the LEAST AWKWARD moment is when you're both hyper and you just "accidentally" let it slip. If you ask him "Are you seriously not straight?", whenever it is, the typical gay/bi guy will immediately deny it and often get mad. So just don't ask him, either wait for him to tell you or tell him first.(Answered by Dylan)

Relationship advice:

Question: Do you think that first relationships necessarily need to be serious, or just for fun? I think it should be for experimenting but I don't want to go too fast.

Answer: Really really really good question. Personally, we think that you should just not think about it and be open to whichever direction the relationship is going in. If your first instinct screams "Nothing serious", then just have fun and experiment. Connor was my first boyfriend and I was his first boyfriend. The only real difference was the amount of girlfriends we each had before. If you mean first relationship ever, I wouldn't take it that seriously, just don't let not taking relationships serious enough become a habit.(Answered by both)

Masturbation tips:

Question: When I stick things up my ass, I always seem to have "stuff" on it. How can I stop this?

Answer: Already answered ->

Originally Posted by Dylan xX

"The real deal":

Question: How do I keep my hole clean? I don't want to gross him out!!!

Answer: Well, I'm assuming when you're inserting, you normally get some icky stuff on the object. Some people are just extremely lucky, and that NEVER happens, Connor and I for example. However I've heard of a few techniques on how to prevent it. The basic way to do it without having to buy anything is quite simple and actually enjoyable: Simply take a shower, and start by cleaning the external part of your butt. Then, take a soapy finger and stick it in. Thrust in and out for about 30 seconds, rinse your finger, and repeat until there are no "leftovers" on your finger. Then put some soap ON (not in) your hole, and let the water push the soap in. Afterwards it supposedly is always squeaky clean. (Answered by Dylan)

[Dylan xX]

Guys, this isn't dead. I'm sorry your question hasn't been answered, but I'm taking a little bit of a break from this thread till I get Teestrake Academy up.

God bless,

Dylsterr <3