Pluky wonders

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Originally Posted by pluky

In TPE and 24/7 dynamics, how do people deal with bad days and life issues ? Let's say a pet dies, a job is lost, etc ... I don't feel like people talk about this that much, it's as if we're sold an illusion where life doesn't happen and you can just enjoy fantasies every day ?

Originally Posted by FrostbittenSoul

I have the safeword "Pause" to deal with things like this. Then the word "Resume" is used to restore the dynamic.

For the most part, I prefer to handle events like this with flexibility and communication within the dynamic, providing adjustments as needed especially if my sub advises me how they are feeling with a YELLOW safeword.

And where that is not possible I do exactly the same thing with pausing, normally as an extension of the RED safeword that always puts the dynamic on pause and GREEN as a universal all-clear safeword to resume.

With one sub however, I've used GREY as a specific safeword for a partial pause of the dynamic while retaining just a very minimal set of core rules. It is intended specifically for situations like this where there is no issue or problem within the dynamic itself that needs addressing like can be the case with RED.

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