Master and slave communication

sunshine1 · 09-09-2017, 10:12 AM

I'm a sub who has had many masters, many of which have "ghosted" on me. That is to say that they suddenly stop replying and/or even looking at your messages.

I know that we all have lives. We get busy, have things come up, etc. I try to communicate with my master daily at the bare minimum and let him know if I am suddenly busy or going to be busy. Is it unfair of me to expect the same in return?

How long would you wait if your master/slave was not replying to you? I typically give them a message after a day saying they have 24 hours to send some sort of response, even a simple "hi." But I'm wondering if I am being too attached or too generous. So I'd like to hear others' opinions on how often you thing a master/slave should communicate, and when would you consider the relationship terminated if they don't reply?

StrangeJohn · 09-09-2017, 10:34 AM

In general I would send a message and give some days (maybe 3, 4 or up to a week) as it may happen that the other person is busy, has connection problems or whatever.
It also depends on how long have you been talking with him, if you just met him or you have been talking for a week or more.
You can also check if he has been online since you last messaged him, if he has been online and haven't responded to you it's quite probable that he isn't interested and you shouldn't even expect a reply from him.

gamerdom · 09-09-2017, 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by StrangeJohn

In general I would send a message and give some days (maybe 3, 4 or up to a week) as it may happen that the other person is busy, has connection problems or whatever.
It also depends on how long have you been talking with him, if you just met him or you have been talking for a week or more.
You can also check if he has been online since you last messaged him, if he has been online and haven't responded to you it's quite probable that he isn't interested and you shouldn't even expect a reply from him.

This.

I've had subs actually end up in the hospital on day two of me knowing them, so I tend to give my subs a bit longer than 24 hours.

sunshine1 · 09-09-2017, 11:51 AM

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Originally Posted by StrangeJohn

In general I would send a message and give some days (maybe 3, 4 or up to a week) as it may happen that the other person is busy, has connection problems or whatever.
It also depends on how long have you been talking with him, if you just met him or you have been talking for a week or more.
You can also check if he has been online since you last messaged him, if he has been online and haven't responded to you it's quite probable that he isn't interested and you shouldn't even expect a reply from him.

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Originally Posted by gamerdom

This.

I've had subs actually end up in the hospital on day two of me knowing them, so I tend to give my subs a bit longer than 24 hours.

Thanks for both of your replies. Patience is not one of my strong points. I do check to see if they have been online or not. I have had more than one master from getdare ghost on me and the next day they post up a new "slave wanted" advertisement. That's part of why I came up with my 24 hour waiting and 24 hour "no-reply test" if you will.

Though now that you mention it, in an emergency, they wouldn't necessarily think to contact you. So perhaps I should give a little more leeway.

Krakin · 09-16-2017, 05:21 PM

With a recent Dom that ghosted on me. After 3 days I sent a message informing that I have suspended my rules as I don't want to give that much power to someone who isn't going to talk to me. I then informed him if it reaches 7 days that I will start to look again. I have an idea of what might of happened but I don't know for sure.

Sometimes, people have stuff come up and have other priorities. That is okay, but it is okay that you would want to be kept in the loop. At minimum, told that it is going to be a couple of weeks before I get back to you... but this is true of every relationship. communication is key and should be from both sides.

-Alexis

Grand.Master691 · 09-17-2017, 12:45 AM

I've been thinking about all this a lot. And no one can make me believe that someone , whether dom or sub, could be that busy and not have 10 minutes of his precious life and text the other person involved. Even if you don't type fast, you can say a lot in 10 minutes. What this is about is a sheer negligence of you as a partner in a D/s relationship. If anyone keeps you waiting without a proper explanation, don't waste your time and move on.

09-09-2017, 10:12 AM	#1
sunshine1 Member Join Date: Aug 2012 Location: Ohio Posts: 39	Master and slave communication I'm a sub who has had many masters, many of which have "ghosted" on me. That is to say that they suddenly stop replying and/or even looking at your messages. I know that we all have lives. We get busy, have things come up, etc. I try to communicate with my master daily at the bare minimum and let him know if I am suddenly busy or going to be busy. Is it unfair of me to expect the same in return? How long would you wait if your master/slave was not replying to you? I typically give them a message after a day saying they have 24 hours to send some sort of response, even a simple "hi." But I'm wondering if I am being too attached or too generous. So I'd like to hear others' opinions on how often you thing a master/slave should communicate, and when would you consider the relationship terminated if they don't reply? __________________ likes: degradation, edging, wedgies, mild pain, cum control, bondage, light cbt, chastity, nipple torture, crossdressing and being in undies. Dislikes (will do but prefer not to): toilet control, writing lines, sleeping dares, sounding. Interested in trying: pup-play, diapers, sissification limits (WILL NOT DO): no sharing of media without permission, public (hidden public is fine), scat, blood, watersports

09-09-2017, 10:34 AM	#2
StrangeJohn Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2011 Location: Europe Posts: 135	In general I would send a message and give some days (maybe 3, 4 or up to a week) as it may happen that the other person is busy, has connection problems or whatever. It also depends on how long have you been talking with him, if you just met him or you have been talking for a week or more. You can also check if he has been online since you last messaged him, if he has been online and haven't responded to you it's quite probable that he isn't interested and you shouldn't even expect a reply from him. __________________ M / Dom / 30 Looking for a female sub

09-16-2017, 05:21 PM	#5
Krakin Account Banned Join Date: Jul 2016 Location: United States Posts: 291 Blog Entries: 8	With a recent Dom that ghosted on me. After 3 days I sent a message informing that I have suspended my rules as I don't want to give that much power to someone who isn't going to talk to me. I then informed him if it reaches 7 days that I will start to look again. I have an idea of what might of happened but I don't know for sure. Sometimes, people have stuff come up and have other priorities. That is okay, but it is okay that you would want to be kept in the loop. At minimum, told that it is going to be a couple of weeks before I get back to you... but this is true of every relationship. communication is key and should be from both sides. -Alexis __________________ 30 \|\| bigender \|\| Pansexual \|\| Little Sissy My Name Is Alexis 2-Week Trial Period with Grand.Master691 Loves: Feminization, Cumplay, Edging Likes: ice, anal (light and medium), oral, orgasm control limits\|PM dare list\|My items

09-17-2017, 12:45 AM	#6
Grand.Master691 Senior Member Join Date: May 2016 Location: Where angels fear to tread! Posts: 165 Blog Entries: 6	I've been thinking about all this a lot. And no one can make me believe that someone , whether dom or sub, could be that busy and not have 10 minutes of his precious life and text the other person involved. Even if you don't type fast, you can say a lot in 10 minutes. What this is about is a sheer negligence of you as a partner in a D/s relationship. If anyone keeps you waiting without a proper explanation, don't waste your time and move on. __________________ Break my heart and I'll break your neck!