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06-01-2011, 12:57 PM | #1 |
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Change the Way Tags Appear in Ads
Okay, so I have a suggestion. This is something that has been brewing around in my head for some time and I never knew just how to put it into words until now.
In the S/M Area where people can post ads for threads. I really do believe it would be necessary to add more tags. I see all the time "I'm 18 years old and a master/mistress." No, you're not. You might have experience from being under the age of 18 from doing it, but that does not mean that you are qualified to be a "master" or a "mistress". What I am suggesting is that there be other tags added. Newbie Dominant Master/Mistress The way to define these would be: Newbie: 0-5 years LEGAL experience Dominant: 5-10 years LEGAL experience Master/Mistress 10+ years LEGAL experience. By legal, I mean being over the CONSENT age (IE: 18 for the US), and participating actively in the community. Yes, that would put many of the 20 somethings into Dominant or the Newbie category, but it would seriously prevent a lot of confusion. I find a lot of times, these people who are new out of the gate who call themselves a Master or a Mistress and have little to no experience actually end up doing more harm than those who have a little bit of experience in the scene. I answer a lot of questions in the S/M Advice collumn and via PMs and E-mail so often that I find that something like this is truly necessary. Please, post your comments, thoughts, and feelings on something like this because I am not the only one, who I know, that feels this way.
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06-01-2011, 01:04 PM | #2 |
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Problem is that there's no way to check it. A 30 year old could come on here and claim they have 10 years of experience and yet have never experienced anything other than a vanilla relationship and have no experience whatsoever.
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06-01-2011, 01:15 PM | #3 |
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Yes, I know I have incorrectly used the master/dominant/dom terms interchangeably. The profile tags are the same way. I think the only choices are "dare master" or "dare slave".
The ranges may need to be a little different. I think it would be hard to find many getDare users, of any age, who have even 1 or 2 years of actual, continuous experience. |
06-01-2011, 01:46 PM | #4 |
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I think the distinction is a good idea, but there is no way to prevent people form lying.
Also, I think the expirence time requirments are a bit unrealistic for this site. Not only will you have MAYBE a handful of people that even make it to "Dominant" and even less that might actually be able to reach "Master/Mistress" level. Everyone else will be considered a newbie. That is kind of pointless if that is what everyone is labeled as. Also, I don't really agree that you have to have 5 years of expirence to know what you're doing and to not hurt someone. If someone has 3 or 4 years of expirence, I would think they would be insulted if they were still labeled as a newbie. They may not perfect, no one is, but they aren't going to be on the same level as some of the idiots on here.
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06-01-2011, 01:59 PM | #5 | |
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Yes. Something like this would be good. At the very least, different tags for slave and submissive because they are two totally different things, and I'm not sure that many know that.
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06-05-2011, 04:17 PM | #6 | |
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On topic: I suspect the experience ranges are too much given the average age and experience present on the site. I would rather see a beginner tag to compliment beginners welcome (I don't remember seeing one, but I can't check at the moment). I'm not opposed to the idea on principle, but I would prefer to use the dominant/master tags as CollaredBlondie described and find a different way to specify experience. I don't think that it's important to try and enforce rules about the use of whatever method may be added to provide this information, just making it available is fine. Neither gender nor age are checked, for example. While we're at it, can we add any alongside dom/sub/switch in the seeking field? Last edited by wsedrf69; 06-05-2011 at 04:25 PM. Reason: Clarification |
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06-01-2011, 01:06 PM | #7 |
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I think this is a really good idea. It really frustrates me when people who have little to no experience go around the place thinking that they have all the god-given knowledge in the world to be seen as a master when they really are nothing more than a heaving stack of testosterone and ego.
It would also make it far easier for members to deduce what to expect and what they are looking at to some extent- especially as some members would prefer a dom/master with a lot more experience rather than a newbie fresh out of the starting blocks. Its also possibly a good idea to have similar changes in tags for the submissive/ slave side of the adverts splitting it into newbie, slave and submissive. A newbie may not know what they want, have little experience and or training in the lifestyle, and submissives and slaves are two entirely different parts of the lifestyle. Something that has been neglected by the site.
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06-01-2011, 02:49 PM | #8 |
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I think this is a great idea. The question is the validity really, how you can check. I suppose it could work just on honesty.
Perhaps people could be assigned a tag if they apply for one? So as opposed to just writing it in themselves they could have one automatically there set to Newbie as default, and apply to a mod or an experienced Dom like you to upgrade? And you can decide whether you believe them or something. Something along those lines anyway, all rather vague.
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06-01-2011, 08:29 PM | #9 |
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I appreciate the feedback, and certainly, I can see the concern being how to trust people and that sort of thing.
Jamness - the applying process through the mods is a fantastic idea. I certainly think it would work nicely that way. Nelly - I can understand where people who might have an issue with the whole "newbie" category with 2 to 3 years under their belt, but that was just an example. Certainly 2 to 3 years is quite a bit of time, but at the same time, they do not have the multitude of experience that someone with 5 to 10 years would have, hence why I suggested the 'newbie' title. It could obviously be split into more categories than this, but as I said, it was just an example. ID. - Very true. It is hard to find those who have continuous experience, but it is not based on continuous, it is more or less a combination of how many years total they have, that sort of thing. CB - Yes, I completely agree. There needs to be a distinction between submissive and slave. Slave1987 - While that is very true, it would also be reliant on users coming back and saying "this person does not seem like they have the experience that they claim" etc etc.
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06-02-2011, 02:10 AM | #10 | |
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If someone was to come into my place of work and after a short period of time told me that I didn't have the experience that I have because I wasn't doing it in a way that they like/would do it themselves I'd be pretty pissed off and, to me, this amounts to the same thing. It seems like this is very similar to the dominant/submissive trust system that is also being suggested. At the very least it has many of the same problems, primarily the fact that it relies on trusting one person over another. |
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06-02-2011, 12:01 PM | #11 | |
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I do not know if you've actually looked at the boards, particularly the ad section. Those who have made it into the top ads, have made it there for a reason and those are people who have either impressed a mod due to the post.
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06-02-2011, 12:58 PM | #12 | |
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In fact given the setting of the forum I'm not surprised by the quality of the ads as most of them seem to just be out for a quick thrill. A female with a poorly written post will almost certainly get 10 times the number of replies that a well written post by a male will get and that being the case why would the female bother to write a long ad when they can instead sort their way through until they find a decent person. This could cause a large number of complaints against this person by the people that are judged and found wanting. Also experience doesn't always relate to talent, someone could have 5 years experience in the life and simply not have experience in the area that they are experimenting with at that moment. |
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06-03-2011, 01:28 AM | #13 | |
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