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09-17-2023, 08:29 AM | #1 |
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25/M - Looking for advice + AMA
Hey friends, wanted to start off by saying I love the community here and site! I used to be on here mostly when I was a teenager many years ago. I loved reading the TorD stories growing up, I would experiment with my friends and simultaneously read these MxM stories that were just as hot about teen boys playing TorD and getting naughty with their friends.
Now years later, I have a loving boyfriend and am happily settled down. But, the kinks I felt reading these stories growing up, and the sexual experimentation I had, weigh on me, I miss the old fantasies I used to live and read about experimenting in groups of guys. These types of stories and fantasies still arouse me more than anything. Any advice from the community? How could I find a way to bring these kinks into my current relationship? Should I just be ignoring them? I see there are a ton of old users that were very active with me years ago, that have grown past their time on this site. Should I also be just growing past this? Or did they just find a way to incorporate these interests in their life? Welcome any advice. In keeping with the forum theme, also feel free to ask me anything!! Happy to talk about my kinks, fetishes, favourite stories, my relationship or anything else!
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09-17-2023, 07:49 PM | #2 |
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I also was on this site a lot as a teen. I would imagine myself as the person doing the dare. As I got older and more comfortable with my sexuality I started actually doing the dares. I have transitioned to mostly looking for people to do things with in person which is why I am not on this site as much as I used to be.
Don't ignore your desires. (Unless illegal) They are a part of who you are. You might find that once you have done a fantasy it no longer is something that you desire. My boyfriend of 2 years and I talk openly about the types of porn and fantasies we read. It helps us know what to do when playing with each other. I'm into a lot more kinky stuff than he is. He has tried it with me but neither of us were really satisfied with the experience. Eventually we decided that I should meet up with other people for bondage play whilst reserving romantic activities for when he is around. We basically treat my kinks like any other hobby. I let him read any of the conversations that I have with playmates if he wants and he always knows before I go play with someone. As for your situation the advice is the same as any other relationship question, share how you feel with your partner. If they make you feel bad for feeling the way you do they probably are not someone to spend your life with.
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09-17-2023, 08:06 PM | #3 |
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Love the response super detailed! While I completely respect relationships where play is open, I don’t think my partner would be comfortable with that. He would probably interested in trying if I brought it up.
Any ideas on how I can incorporate the fantasies I mentioned above? Looking for any clear activity suggestions to direct him into the kinks.
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09-17-2023, 09:49 PM | #4 |
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Could you give more details about the fantasies that you like? The only thing I saw in your post was that you like reading about 2+ males playing truth or dare and experimenting with each other. What were the dares/situations that really turned you on?
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09-17-2023, 09:55 PM | #5 |
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For sure! You’re spot on with the first example. That type of group play, TorD, experimentation. Any advice on how you create a fantasy like that with a partner?
Other kinks, love bondage, tickling, massages, piss and cum denial. Anything else in my likes. These are probably easier to do 1-on-1
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09-17-2023, 10:34 PM | #6 |
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I'd probably start with activities just the two of you. Once he warms to the idea you can suggest finding someone to join you.
If you don't know how to bring up the subject of one of the kinks you could put on a movie that happens to include it then ask if he would like to try what the characters are doing. For bondage you could pick up a few 15 foot sections of rope from Canadian Tire. Either leave them out where he will ask about them or be practicing knots on your own when he comes over. When you are ready to find more people to play TorD with you could attend a local munch to meet people in a non-sexual context. FetLife is a good site for discovering them.
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