03-24-2012, 09:29 AM | #2 |
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Dominant, someone who asserts them self over another, where as I see a master who is someone more controlling, where as a dom tends to keep things to single time basis (aka sessions) A master takes control of elements of another's life, that's where I personly start to define the two, might not be the right way to look at them, but its how I look at them.
Sub/Slave. I see the slave, as someone who not only lets them self's be played with, but literary lets them self's be at the whim of another person in every way (though there are often various limits) but the slave, alows there life to be ruled by the other, where as the sub, takes it in a more off hand manor, not giving up so much control, whiles a sub may give away elements of control, they keep them self's separate. Not exactly the best way to write this out, but, this is my thoughts on the differences. I'm curious to see what others say to this, see what others use to define the types.
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Dom/Master is the same to me, Though a Master tend to get more .. physical.
Sub; As same as a slave beside having limits, But The sub actually get the right to use the 'safe word' Which is a word the owner & the sub agrees on, If the sub couldn't handle more pain/humiliation/anything really. Slave; In the BDSM wise he/she got no limits, Other than the obvious ones. Also he doesn't get the right to use the 'safe word'. P.s There are no 'slaves online' Only subs. (IMO) |
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03-24-2012, 02:28 PM | #5 |
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I'll start with how I see myself as a dominant man. I own a sub so for some that would be seen as a master, but the difference is I don't tend to have a need to own my subs- she is owned because she needs to be owned, not because I require it of her. I am naturally very laid back and give my subs much freedom, don't over assert my wants, but it is clear I am the one in control. Not driven by ego- I don't have anything to prove- but by a wanting for things to be well for my subs.
A master, like a dominant, is also in control, but also tends to be more controlling too. A master's needs are normally paramount in a circumstance. Mistress I can't comment on so much, because almost all of the mistresses I know are pro-dommes and very different rules apply. Submissives are free people who need or crave direction from another person. A slave has no or few freedoms, and those that they do have they have by the grace of their owner. Mike
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03-24-2012, 02:32 PM | #6 |
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I use those terms interchangeably
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He explains that in huge detail... tl;dr: Submissive and Dominant relationships are based, but not always completely, from trust and agreement. Slave and Master relationships are based, but not completely, on trust and obedience. Both have different mindsets and perimeter so that definition is based on the person and their viewer. Usually a sub defines herself as free in mind as well as chained, by mind, believe that though they love their Dom, the Dom doesn't make them who they are. Usually they are accompanied by limits and safe words that set up and stay firm beforehand. Slaves are committed to their Masters (in their minds at least, I've seen some pretty serious subs) more than subs. Their limits are discussed and set up during their time with the Master, the relationship is bond by a sort of invisible (or actual) set of terms and the slave has a strong belief they are their to serve, as desired.
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Not experience enough in Domme(-ing?) so have another quote!
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03-25-2012, 03:17 AM | #9 |
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It seems to me that even the differences are different to different people, lol, if that makes any sense at all.
For me it's about the basic nature of the relationship,please bear in mind these are just my personal take on it. Doms/Dommes and subs have a relationship which is based on Bdsm practices and sex. In other words Without Bdsm and all that it involves there would be no Doms/Dommes and subs. Masters/Mistresses and slaves have a different basis for their relationship. It is based on control. Now to be fair there is almost always an interest in and practice of bdsm as well, but the relationship doesn't absolutely require it. I have known Master/slave relationships which involve no sex at all, though they are unusual. Obviously there is a great deal more to both types of relationship than this, but I belive this is the core difference, though of course not everyone would agree |
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This has not been my experience.
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03-25-2012, 06:58 PM | #11 |
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I view Dom/Master and Sub/Slave as the same thing.
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03-25-2012, 09:14 PM | #12 |
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You can't compartmentalize them.
It's like saying, "I like bondage" or "I like to be humiliated". Well, both of those are very broad ideas that could literally mean anything the person wants. I'm going to be pretentious and quote Alexis de Tocqueville, a random guy in history that was quoted to me in a video game, but whose words are no less profound. Tocqueville said: "General ideas are no proof of the strength, but rather of the insufficiency of the human intellect." I'm going to contradict Tocqueville here and say he's wrong. I would say complex ideas are proof of the insufficiency of the human intellect. Those people who try to rationalize, intellectualize, quantify, compartmentalize, are usually the ones who understand the least. It's easy to get confused, as some people here might be, when you try too hard to understand subjective ideas objectively. In other words: When you know who you are, things don't require rigid definitions. Definitions might even become interchangeable. But that's why people ask these questions, right? They're searching for who they are and how they fit in. The remedy for this is to just do and not worry about what it is you're doing. Feel your way through, logic and rationale can only get you so far. |
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My english is a little crummy sometimes but I think you're actually just repeating what Tocqueville said?
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My point wasn't actually to contradict Tocqueville, but to take what he said out of context to illustrate another point. It's all in the lesson. |
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03-26-2012, 11:42 PM | #15 |
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It seems to me that dom/sub are more generalized terms for parties in a relationship based on dominance than master/slave. The latter seem to express an extreme type of submission that is not altogether voluntary and more extreme. Then again in a BDSM context partners might like to exaggerate their play with these terms.
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