If you already haven't, go and read
BDSM vs. Abuse and
Dear Sub.lucy: BDSM and Abuse which have inspired me. They are very good, interesting to read and point out some important issues.
I'd like to start with my observation that sexual orientation and preferences might be related to the past experiences, especially while growing up. You can find
several articles on its change. But I need to pin down the most important statements for me:
1. Sexual orientation and preferences...