*This is not original, I stole the idea from an image I found and have just adapted it

In this Castle
We believe in once upon a time
Here, Ohana means family
and a dream is a wish your heart makes.
We whistle while we work
and paint with all the colors of the wind.
We Believe an elephant can fly
and know our way to never land.
We travel to whole new worlds on magic carpet rides
and we just can't wait to be king!
We

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8. They disappear unexpectedly and without explanation for long periods of time
Everybody has real life things going on. You may work, or go to school. You have family and friend obligations, a social life, hobbies, etc. And emergencies happen. But if somebody is regularly disappearing during a play session without warning, or not getting in contact for days at a time without any notice, that is a red flag.

I think it is pretty common for people...

Over the years I have developed a list of things to watch out for, red flags if you will. Signs that you should run away and not waste your time in a relationship. Most of these points are aimed at signs that might happen at the beginning of a relationship.

Of course not everybody who is rude or scary or a waste of tine will show one of these signs and it isn't foolproof, so if somebody shows one of these signs maybe they are a good person/sub/dom etc. But generally speaking, if you see...

There are two kinds of people in this world, those that jump into a cold body of water head first, and those that dip their toe in, and then slowly take one step at a time until they are all the way in.

There are advantages and disadvantages to both:

When you jump in head first, it can sometimes be a shock to your system, but it goes away really quickly and you get to start to enjoy yourself a lot quicker. However, if it is too much of a shock to your system (ie. if it...

I am not a slut, a whore, a bitch, a c**t ... I am also not a slave. and will not answer to such. I am a sub and you may call me Butterfly.

Recently I read a blog post where the writer referred to all subs as sluts. He said something along the lines of "I try my best and you sluts just ruin it". That is a gross generalization. Not all subs are sluts!

Not all subs/slaves like being called names.

Sure, degradation and humiliation are common kinks,...

Most people have limits, and so they should. Even if they are only basic things like: death! Everybody has limits. Limits are different from person to person. For one person it could be a limit to cause permanent damage, whereas another person could be open to body modifications. Limits are your own personal boundaries and only YOU can decide what your limits are.

Why a limit is a limit?

One of the first things people do when they join getDare is create a blog post with...

Before I start my rant, I just thought I would share that the incident that caused me to rant about this topic today was had NOTHING to do with getDare. Although I have seen some instances of "bullying" or people being mean to each other on this site, it is not the focus of my rant.


Growing up I was never really bullied at school. This has always surprised me because I was always overweight, never wore designer labels, was always...