RE:Love Is Also Pain!!
Posted 01-22-2015 at 01:53 AM by MasterDaddy02
[B]Love Is Also Pain!
It is often difficult to imagine that there is anything good about pain. The moment we feel it, we look for immediate relief. We take drugs, drown ourselves in alcohol, overeat, oversleep, suppress it, deny it anything to keep from feeling discomfort.
To enter into a relationship is to court pain. This is all the more true when we approach others with preconceptions and expectations. Most want a lover to be our best friend, our cloest confidant, our major source of happiness, an entertainer, someone who is forever understanding and forgiving. We want them to be loyal, exciting and sexy. Unfortunately, people answering those descriptions are usually found only in romance novels or in heaven. They are certainly rare on this earth. Accepting this, we know we are bound to experience the pain that comes from these unfulfilled expectations.
But pain is a great teacher. Just as physical pain can mobilize our defenses and alert us to deeper problems, so can emotional pain. It has the function of awakening us to the realization that there is something wrong in our lives, something that needs attention. If we ignore inner pain, it will surely grow out of control.
When we are as accepting of our pain, sorrow and disappointment as we are of our joys, we will be on our way to becoming real lovers.[B]
It is often difficult to imagine that there is anything good about pain. The moment we feel it, we look for immediate relief. We take drugs, drown ourselves in alcohol, overeat, oversleep, suppress it, deny it anything to keep from feeling discomfort.
To enter into a relationship is to court pain. This is all the more true when we approach others with preconceptions and expectations. Most want a lover to be our best friend, our cloest confidant, our major source of happiness, an entertainer, someone who is forever understanding and forgiving. We want them to be loyal, exciting and sexy. Unfortunately, people answering those descriptions are usually found only in romance novels or in heaven. They are certainly rare on this earth. Accepting this, we know we are bound to experience the pain that comes from these unfulfilled expectations.
But pain is a great teacher. Just as physical pain can mobilize our defenses and alert us to deeper problems, so can emotional pain. It has the function of awakening us to the realization that there is something wrong in our lives, something that needs attention. If we ignore inner pain, it will surely grow out of control.
When we are as accepting of our pain, sorrow and disappointment as we are of our joys, we will be on our way to becoming real lovers.[B]
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