I accept

Thank youuuu

@Butterfly That's great to hear. I was primarily referring to what you said here, complaining about being held to a higher standard and saying that you make mistakes just because you're human.

I criticized this because saying that the reason you made a mistake was because you are a human implies that you can't prevent yourself from making same the mistake in the future because in the future you will still be human, it's a way to shift responsibility away from oneself. From your answer it's pretty clear that wasn't your intention so I'm glad to hear that.

Aww, I was hoping this was a post related to the poll you have going.

Despite the click baity title (I do it too so no complaints). honestly, if Jaro did something to offend you, he does exist, talk to him, he is a grown man with an opinion of his own.

And as for spelling and grammar, Jaro's native language is not English, I believe. (He still writes better than most natives though.)

You do a great job helping this community grow and thrive. It is greatly appreciated from all corners and you should be proud of your efforts. No one is perfect but you honestly are a great person and a great mod and even when something goes wrong you handle it with grace and honesty and sincerity.

Thank you

In my personal opinion since you feel entitled to be seen as an "educator" you can't just excuse every mistake you make with: "but I'm only human", educators are expected to learn and teach from their mistakes, not to look for excuses (I don't actually know what mistake you're talking about sorry if it seems too harsh or disproportionate in case it's for something irrelevant). People with power are always held to a higher standard than everyone else because power never comes for free, it always comes with responsibilities, it's why Bill Clinton was impeached for lying under oath while if a pizza delievery man would have done the same no one would have fired him.

I want to mention I really appreciate your efforts to grow the community a lot, regardless of how effective or ineffective they turn out to be. I don't know about which mistake this post is, the only reason I'm being critical is because I think that it's insulting to hear from someone in power that they're okay with making mistakes because they're only human, power comes with responsibilities and that's not the right attitude for someone responsible for other people to have. (How would you feel if a dom had that attitude towards his mistakes that hurt the sub instead of accepting his mistake, apologizing and learning from his mistake for the future?)

I also think that you should be free and not feel guilty about writing about your bad days, mental health, or more extreme forms of play. I do remember people here often criticizing others who engage in play they find "extreme". I think that it's unfortunate that some people will criticize you for that but I also think that it might help others interested in the same type of play feel more comfortable and welcome here.

I nominate RachaelB1997 as queen and she deserves to win

Unfortunately I am going to have to decline my nomination at this time. I have a sick family member and will probably be spending a lot of time caring for her in the near future. Because of that, I would not be able to campaign the way that the nomination deserves. I am SO grateful to have been thought of. THANK YOU!

I'm going to miss you. You post some good stories and more. I wish I didn't see some good people and friends go indefinitely, or driven from this place. Almost 1600 posts and 90 blog entries is impressive. Thank you for the good you have provided on this site. I hope we keep in touch.

For what it's worth, as someone who is new to this site, I have found your threads, blogs, etc. to be super helpful. I see some of the creative threads and ideas you've posted as a great example showing the really diverse and interesting interactions and content that could happen here.

I know, great work, I was just making sure as well.

That's funny an exclamation mark popped up by my quote, even though I didn't put one there

I have narrowed down my decision to your suggestion of getDare Official Royal News Reporter to all the candidates, or nina@'s Campaign Media Manager contingent on her acceptance.

Your suggestion was awesome, I feel like I will decide soon enough.

See, I told you how much you are appreciated. It's wonderful, just like you and the other staff members are All great comments especially sciencegal's.

Thanks for clarifying to the ones that don't know, that mods aren't demigods. Thanks for sharing with everyone your humanness and feelings and letting them understand that you are just like everyone else in addition to volunteering to tending to the site's needs for the good of us all, ensuring it veritable garden full of a wonderfully diverse harvest for everyone, including yourself.

I know you were probably just informing everyone for general awareness. I understand what you just mentioned now, and understood after she mentioned it then, and responded with an apology for wanting a chance to run and win alongside my Domme ~


Anyway, thanks for the great work you and the staff do! It is much appreciated. Keep it up!

Food for thought:
Consider a D/s dynamic. We think of dom(mes) as being these sort of higher powers, people who know exactly what to do and when to do it. But dom(mes) are people too; they make mistakes and they have us do things we may not like. But they generally act with our best interests at heart. Not every decision is a popular one, nor is it necessarily the best way to do it, but nonetheless they try to do their best. We are still able to see them as people as well as dominants. Dominants learn and grow with their submissive, they make mistakes and learn from them to try to be better in the future.

Why then does a mod get a different light? A mod is just an authority figure, much like a dom(me) is, but for whatever reason they aren’t allowed to make mistakes, to be human (I am speaking in the general sense, not of anything specific). When any decision is made, regardless of what is being decided, there are 3 sides: those who agree with the decision, those who do not like the decision for whatever reason, and those who really don’t care. No matter what, you are always going to have people falling into each category. You cannot please everyone, that’s a fact. I think people need to understand that part of being an authority figure, whether it’s a mod, a dom(me), or anything in between, you are tasked with making decisions that impact people other than yourself. As the authority figure you do your best to make a decision, using rational thinking and reasonability. Does that mean it’s the best decision possible? No. Does that mean a better solution doesn’t exist? No. But it does mean that you tried your best and people need to respect that regardless of which of the 3 categories they fall into. Of course people are free to express their opinion on a decision regardless of which category they fall into and to raise concerns about the decision made. But at the end of the day we all need to accept the fact that we will not agree with every single decision made by others.

I am sorry that so much burden is placed on your and the other mods shoulders. It sort of takes away the fun of the site at times, creating a feeling like you can only be a mod and not a general user of the site, unable to participate in whatever threads you desire. I do hope that your spirits lift soon though

@Mr. Devious: Sorry, I didn't know. Thanks for pointing it out.

At no point or at any time did any mod say that her app was against any rule, she was not asked to remove it, she was not told to remove it. Lola simply pointed out a similarity between the two blogs. It was littlepet's choice to remove it for her own reasons. So please don't put that on the mods.

I think you are a wonderful person, Butterfly, and you are a wonderful mod. That includes making mistake. How is the quote again? "Mistakes only happen by people who actually work." or so.

Yes, I have some beef with some moderation decisions made here on getDare, in detail moderating away story blog entries, the special desicions about the recent King and Queen (I too appreciate the idea and effort but I also get Sam's point), and disallowing links to free apps (maybe I miss the very good reasons for that). It took me some time to collect these, and to be fair I didn't complain on or ask for the reasons for all of them. Especially taken these into account, still many many thanks for doing the moderator job, Butterfly (and also thanks to all other moderators here). You can never make it fit for everybody. It's hard to make decision everyday, often up so much on interpretation of vague rules. That can be very tricky. I highly appreciate your job, decisions, and openess to discuss and revise made decisions. I think there's a lot going on in discussions between you moderators behind the curtains. It's a lot of time, effort, and nerves we don't get to see. Many many thanks for those.

I had no beef at all with when you banned me since you were all open to explain it and I got the good reasons for it.

I just want to add that I understand this feeling of things building up, and reaching a breaking point, extremely well, as it literally happened in real life just a week ago to where I had already upped and left and was considering just jumping on the first train that pulled in, and going.

Thankfully some friends talked sense into me.

And thankfully you can vent it here in a more controlled and constructive way.

A lot of the time people only consider the last thing that happened as relevant to why something happened after. Ignoring that there could be weeks, months or even years of build up in the past that has slowly been there in the background.