I third this! I couldn't have said it any better myself.

Thank you for putting the time and effort into that post. I am sure it haz a answered many questions =)

I second that! I love this as well!

It is always intriguing to hear others' love stories and your story is amazing! It gives me hope that this website is more than fakes, rude/arrogant people, and underage, horny kids! That seems to be the only thing you see when you search the threads on here, that is why I enjoy reading the blogs on here. It gives this website a personal touch!

I've been experiencing the same difficulty in my relationship but ours is slightly different than yours. We've never really experimented with BDSM until now but the lack of time makes things difficult and we have found ourselves marking certain nights down on the calendar as play date nights as well! We don't really assume roles, as in submissive and dominant in our play time, but we often play around with bondage and usually one takes control and teases the other.

As Ice Maiden said, I wish you two nothing but absolute happiness together!

Love,
~Lia

Well... the good thing about missing Asslvr and home is that you have indeed found your home now. I still haven't found my home (and I do mean HOME, not just a place to live) so I do envy you.

Also I really think you deserve some time off work and some time to relax. I hope you will find some rest and have a great time there regardless!

Our Christmas traditions always involved family. My family is divorced, so sometimes we would stay with dad, or stay home with mom. Every other holiday was this way. The traditions from there were different. We always celebrated Christmas day with one and then celebrated with the other after the holidays. We were raised not to be too materialistic, so the trip itself was a present, and then also things we really needed like clothes during the school year. The traditions varied between them. At my dads we didn't eat until noon when we would have the big holiday meal for the day. We would open presents when everyone was awake. At mom's we all woke up early and the adults made coffee. My sister and I had two hats, one of us would be Santa's helper and pass the presents out, the other would collect all the wrapping paper at the end and put it in a garbage bag. At mom's we would invite people over for dinner and dessert. My memories of the food.. Everyone pretty much has to be rolled out the door because they stuff themselves silly. We always cooked to feed an army at mom's.
At Dad's we sometimes went out to see a movie in the theaters and then home to enjoy our gifts before bed.

I am not surrounded by family this year, but I do have friends. My family is a few hours ahead of me in time differences. I too am trying to figure out my own traditions this year. I put my tree up with a Christmas movie and my puppy was excited as its his first Christmas. We go driving around with the windows down at night to look at the pretty Christmas lights and the Life sized inflatable snowmen and Santa Clauses. The puppy loves this, he hangs his head out slightly with his tongue out.

This year i celebrate the Christmas holiday by myself, but I already have plans to call my family. I can't wait to hear what they are doing this year..

Happy Holidays to you Butterfly.

"But the fact is, it is really hard to see the big picture while you are a part of it and a lot of the time, you need somebody to help you see what you are blinded to. "

You hit the nail on the head right here. I'm very glad you noticed and got out of that relationship even if it was 6 years too late.

Well if I may add my 2 cents to this topic.I always proceed with caution or do not respond at all to the many posts on here where the person is refering to themselves as useless,subhuman,beneath everyone.They go on to ask for abuse and to be talked to in subhuman words.
I never know in these posts,especially being online so you cant really know the person at the start,is this person someone who has lived a life of abuse and I would be contributing to this or is it just a kink of thiers in an otherwise healthy life.
Im never sure if I should jump in or feel bad for the person who posted so I just stay away.

You made a response to my blog?! I'm so happy you were willing to do this. I love getting this type of thing out in the open. Thank you so much for sharing your experiences and your perspective

That's my impression as well.
to be honest, the salami doesn't even look that bad

As far as I know it's a great deal that it gets much smaller at the end and bends, but basically, due to some extreme ass-stretching fans, with a lot of training over time you don't believe what objects can made fit into your ass.

Also, "The Cowboy" at the end... serious question, can somebody REALLY fit that whole thing in their ass? Do you have to be like 8 feet tall to have that much room? That looks insane! I don't know anatomy enough to know if that is a serious thing or completely a prank like object. If you've done this, or something similar in size, please let me know, I'm genuinely not sure if it is possible or not.

"Like they are making some kind of ass soup."
Pretty sure that's happening now, by somebody on this site.

Great video. Although, many of those fruits and vegetables work very well, so why not. The point is, be careful with your butt. You only have one.

It's a very funny video and a great and funny presentation!

This sounds like the most amazing wedding and I will most definitely be there. So perfect in every way.

I'm also so very honored to be the Man of Honor, but doesn't that mean I'm technically a bridesmaid? Don't get me wrong...I'm all for hanging out with 7 bridesmaids at a kinky wedding, but am rather lacking in both g-string panties and red see through lace anythings. *logs on to Amazon*

May your marriage start out as awesome as your wedding, and get more awesome with each passing day.

Hugs and kisses and spanks and edges to you both!

Everyone has given good advice already, so I'll just add a little bit.

When AM and I first started exploring this together I felt SO silly and wouldn't let myself go and just allow that part of me out, so he set me a task to do.

He linked me a site with pictures to colour online and told me to choose one and colour it with no other distractions. When I was done he asked me are you 6? 7? 8? etc and my answer was to be bigger or smaller, and answer without thinking.

That was the first step we took to exploring ddlg and it helped me not feel so silly as he had chose the task FOR me, I didn't have to ask or do it alone.

He started to put me to bed every night before he went to bed and either talk or read to me before he did so he settled me down and helped me sleep better. And he asked continously how I felt, if there was anything I would like to try, did I want co call him daddy?

The first time I called him daddy I felt so silly and blushy and stupid and weird...but it got easier. It felt more natural (much like Master, come to think about it.) and came more easily and soon there wasn't any prompting on his part before he was bombarded with daddy daddy daddy!!! when I was excited or had to tell him about something.

I was so sure he would think I was strange, that he wouldn't like that part of me...but he did! He loves that part of me and I'm sure Asslvr will love that part of you too.

It's not a separate part but it's YOU, and he loves you. Allllll of you!

It's scary and strange at first but it becomes natural very fast and it's adorable and cute and Asslvr loves when you're cute!

I will send AM to you when he's around as well, he taught me sooo much in this regard and he's much better at explaining than me.

Love you <3

This made me smile so much.

For me, it was about having a safe space to explore being a little. Wardell provided that for me, for which I am very grateful. I also have certain spaces, like a spare room, where I designate it more of an...interruption-free place where I don't have to worry about what anyone thinks, where I can get away from all responsibilities, etc., and just let myself be for a while.

It was most helpful for me to start with calling Wardell 'Daddy', and we'd just add in a little step here and there. But, our dynamic never included ageplay per se. So I think the only other suggestion I can give is to maybe plan an activity together that allows you to let your little side out. Like, Saturday afternoon you're going to have a tea party, or you're going to wear fuzzy pj's and watch a Disney movie and colour one night together, or something that lets you indulge and express your little side. You don't necessarily have to dive right into the deep end. Choose something that intrigues you, that makes that little side of you jump up and down, and carve out a time for it.

And it might be scary at first to show someone else that part of you, it always is for me with pretty much anything, but it's so wonderful when they respond well. Cling to that. You know asslvr has loved every bit of you that you've ever shown him, this won't be any different.

I hope you have the best time exploring. It's wonderful, you're going to love it more and more, I'm sure.

I love watching kinky movies. Kink.com is definitely a good choice, or device bondage and stuff like that. Rough is ok, but no rehearsed unrealistic stuff. It ruins a good scene.
Sometimes the scene is great but the actress is being all pouty, duck faced, squealing all the time while looking "seductively" into the camera. They're usually of the ahem, plasticky sort.

At those times I think: just put a gag in already, that might improve things.

I do watch porn sometimes but I am also very picky to what I like and most doesn't turn me on. Just vanilla fucking doesn't turn me on. And I hate porn with a lot of talking or moaning.

I do love bdsm and femdom in particular. I love a guy being totally helpless and teased getting a handjob, footjob and or blowjob. Obviously, I also like foot fetish porn and also anal and lesbian.

But I rarely have the patience for longer clips. I actually prefer pictures over videos.

Boy,....
To me it feels so sad if people hide themselves, try to do the norm.
To fit in society it is good to behave in a respecting way to others. But that for sure does not mean that you have to lie to yourself. My advice,... Be little,... Be yourself,... Stop withholding your environment from seeing the true you. Have respect and be social to your environment, but dont imitate it just because you assume being a carbon copy of it is the only right way to fit in.
In reality,... The odd people make the party.