Why did you post this in two parts if it is so short?

You said some great things in here. So many people are too hard on themselves. They dismiss the good qualities that are a large part of themselves and focus their sense of value on qualities that they lack. Its always good to look for ways to improve ones self, but as you say, its also important to recognize and respect the person that we are and the skills that we already possess.

I just want to re-iterate what butterfly has said. I applaud you for not getting excessively defensive or bitter about the responses that you got. Well done, MasterDaddy02.

The real issue here, MasterDaddy02? I think it's a lack of self-confidence on your part. This is something you need to work on, as a minor infraction of what you see as respectful conduct should never throw you into those paroxysms of anger (the rant) and revenge (the email).

I'd recommend you review your approach to this whole thing. Think first about adopting a new name that doesn't have 'Master' in it, as that has connotations I'd steer away from. Think about developing a somewhat thicker skin - one that allows you to experience a minor slight such as a sudden withdrawal from chat without immediately arcing up to fire off a chastising email to the sub. Take more of the vagaries of life (in gD at least) with humour. If I were to react like you have to every little thing that goes wrong or seems 'disrespectful', I'd be heading to an early grave.

Take a look at my profile page. In the visitor messages section, butterfly has left an image lampooning my Gandalf avatar. I could easily see that as disrespectful, if my ego was so fragile as to be dented by something like that. Instead, I think it's hilarious. Even if it were meant with disrespect (I know it's not), I'd still find it funny - because it would not do me any actual harm.

And there's the basic message. Lose the aura of self-importance and treat things a little more lightly. You'll find life is more fun that way and less stressful. For you as well as those around you.

@naughtylittlegirl - I'm so glad I'm on your side! The words 'verbal Howitzer' come to mind...

@everyone else - Well said.

I am quite late to the party as many of the girls already ripped you a new one. Basically to everyone on this site they owe you zero respect just because you consider yourself a dom or master or whatever title you feel like putting in front of your name. You have to go out there and earn it for yourself with each and every person you wish to respect you. If you ever feel the need to demand someone respect you, you are doing it completely wrong and should probably go back and read some more on how to be a dom.

I have never once ever told someone respect me or even asked them to address me a certain way. I like to think that I have the respect of many people due to the way I carry myself and interact with people. Ya someone may message me and be annoying but you can take a page out of the girls books and turn it into a troll adventure and make it fun and exciting, or you can be bitter and make yourself look like a fool in front of the whole site. Choose carefully most of us don't have short memories and remember and avoid people that like to make an ass out of themselves on a regular basis or insist they be treated a certain way.

I think it shows a great deal of respect for the people of this community for you to read the comments on your last blog and realize your mistake and then apologize. I hope that you extend that apology directly to the sub that you yelled at for disrespecting you as well.

I think he likes you more than me, Lizzy

Alright, so you admit the titles are wrong. I'm glad you understand that.
Seriously though, read Naughtylittlegirl's comment right above. No reply for what she said?

Alright, so you admit the titles are wrong. I'm glad you understand that.
Seriously though, read Naughtylittlegirl's comment right above. No reply for what she said?

Okay titles aside.
The girl left a conversation without telling you, she had her own reasons and perhaps a good one but you had JUST started talking so she didn't owe you any explanation.

Get over it maybe.

Okay, removing any and all reference to titles and roles, based on your clarifying comment, let me see if I understand you correctly: A woman contacted you on here, which you didn't like. Then while you were replying she logged out of chat unexpectedly, with no explanation. You then took this as a great offense and sent her an email to give her "a piece of your mind."

Now, if I have that all correct, then my first conclusion is you must have difficulty fitting through doorways with that ego. Is it rude to log out of chat without a word? Yes. But not enough to warrant telling them off, at least in polite society, and certainly not enough to want to call them out by name (or username in this case) as you indicated you were tempted to do. Really? This is the hill you're going to die on? If you were in the middle of a session, and she just up and left because she didn't give a damn about you, then yeah, rant away. But as several people have pointed out, you don't know everything that happened on her end, you don't even know this person apart from a few messages exchanged, and even if we assume worst case scenario, all it means is this person might be a bit flaky - move on.



And regarding your claim that your understanding of titles and roles had nothing to do with why you were offended, I direct your attention to this quotation taken directly from your post: "Respect also should of been shown to me, since I am a Master\Dom. That sub, did not do either. Yes, I did email the sub, and gave her a piece of my mind. Since, she should known better and that you cannot disrespect a Master\Dom in that matter." I'm not sure how else we were supposed to interpret that except that you have some pretty well-established ideas regarding how dominants and submissives ought to interact, with which those who have commented so far do not agree. So either that is one massive fucking typo or you, sir, struggle greatly with logic.

You respect your employees because of your relationship and vice versa. People don't automatically deserve respect. It happens over time. What everyone does deserve, in my opinion, is common courtesy. Did this girl show it to you? I would say she didn't, but I'm not privy to your chat session either. You could have said something that scared her.
That being said, the issue that bothered everyone is that you stated that you deserve respect based on your "title" as a Dom. You said, respect that should have been shown to me since I am a master/dom. You go on to say that you cannot disrespect a master/dom
in this way. This is the problem. You shouldn't treat people that way. Not they shouldn't treat a dom that way.
If you didn't mean that, then you shouldn't have put it that way and repeated it over and over again- making your status so very clear.

If they don't call you boss do you fire them?
Because that's your logic here.

A submissive deserves just as much respect for their "title" as any Dominant does, like everyone said, once it is earned.

Sounds to me like this girl leaving that chat was the best thing she could have done.
In fact, she earns my respect just for doing it.

Like Mandi said, you earn a dominant position, you don't assume it. And I'm with everyone above me, respect is earned, not given. People leave private chats suddenly for all sorts of reasons. Maybe her kitchen caught fire, or her cat started choking. Or maybe you demanding respect turned her off and she ran away screaming.

As far as you repetitively pointing out that she contacted you first...that doesn't make her obligated to continue the conversation. It's entirely possible to have a good first impression of someone and want to get to know more, and then once you start talking, to realize you're not compatible or you just flat out don't like them. If that happens, yes it's polite to communicate that you no longer wish to continue the conversation. Polite, but not obligatory.

Ahhh Lizzy and An_Jon.. Thank you!!!!! Yes yes yes.

I have so many problems with this. First, I practice treating everyone with the same common courtesy and politeness whether they are Dom, sub, slave, pet, little, Master, confused as fuck having an identity crisis, or whatever. Until someone does something to me that proves they aren't willing to give me the same courtesy I'm trying to give them, then they are just another person who deserves that level of courtesy from me.

I don't need to say how much I disagree with the "I deserve respect solely because I'm a Master!" mentality because my friends above have already done so. But what I do want to mention is if that is how you think, I'm scared of what your thoughts on the inverse are... Do you believe that because you are a D-type that you have the right to treat anyone who is an s-type with less respect or common courtesy?

Do you think that s-types automatically assume a submissive position to any and all D-types? Because that's dangerous. As obvious as this sounds to me, identifying as a submissive or slave or any variation thereof does not mean "everyone can treat me like I'm less than them". Because the vast majority of s-types I know are 'subordinate' or 'submissive' to only their D-type or to very select people. You EARN that position, you don't assume it.

I am getting more and more irritated as I write this so I'm going to stop there.