Over the years I have developed a list of things to watch out for, red flags if you will. Signs that you should run away and not waste your time in a relationship. Most of these points are aimed at signs that might happen at the beginning of a relationship.

Of course not everybody who is rude or scary or a waste of tine will show one of these signs and it isn't foolproof, so if somebody shows one of these signs maybe they are a good person/sub/dom etc. But generally speaking, if you see...

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8. They disappear unexpectedly and without explanation for long periods of time
Everybody has real life things going on. You may work, or go to school. You have family and friend obligations, a social life, hobbies, etc. And emergencies happen. But if somebody is regularly disappearing during a play session without warning, or not getting in contact for days at a time without any notice, that is a red flag.

I think it is pretty common for people...

Eyes bigger than the mouth. Do you know that moment when you desire more than is good for you, when you bit off more than you can chew, or when something surprisingly turns out to be quite different than you thought? Happens all too often, to all of us. It's fine.

Today I encountered several current and past bigger examples of this issue, here on getDare: People, who started quite ambitious, nearly as much as to make me worry by their planned burden, only to be more or less clearly...

*Disclaimer: These reviews are my own opinion. I do not work for any company who sells these toys. I do not profit in anyway. They are simply my opinions and experiences. I also do not speak to the safety of any particular toy and am not responsible for your safety when you use a particular toy. I also do not promise that you will have a similar experience to mine. If your opinion or experience is different from mine, please share it in the comments as I am only one person and the more people who comment,...

*Disclaimer: These reviews are my own opinion. I do not work for any company who sells these toys. I do not profit in anyway. They are simply my opinions and experiences. I also do not speak to the safety of any particular toy and am not responsible for your safety when you use a particular toy. I also do not promise that you will have a similar experience to mine. If your opinion or experience is different from mine, please share it in the comments as I am only one person and the more people who comment,...

This week was the anniversary of a few different milestones for Asslvr and I.

On June 19, 2014, Asslvr responded to my ad. Fate brought us together as I was off work because I was sick and he had to bring his mom to a doctors appointment. I had decided on the spur of the moment to write an ad looking for a Dom. Being a female sub, I was flooded with responses. It was very intimidating and overwhelming. As I looked through the first 30 responses I received, I almost wanted to give up because...

One of my all time favorite rules, one that started with Asslvr way WAY back, was having to ask permission to go pee.

Before that, I had a Dom who didn't make me ask to pee, but I had a condition that when I went pee, I wasn't allowed to wipe. I hated this rule, and back then I didn't realize I was allowed to complain. It made me feel dirty and embarrassed in a bad way. I even ended up getting a kidney infection because I held my pee so often.

So when Asslvr suggested...