Denial
Jaro has been in denial for over 70 days currently. It is a new record for him and Icemaiden and I are so so proud of him. There is no way that I could imagine being in his position, and I really do think he is the best, and most loyal sub that a Domme could ask for.

We love to tease our worm. We love to tell him that he can't cum until Christmas, but as much as that thought excites us, he really does deserve the occasional release.

On Sunday, Jaro had finally...

I crave submission. I crave giving up control.

When my life is crazy and chaotic, I need to submit in order to keep myself sane. It is my way to let go of everything and just be. To put my trust in somebody else to take care of me, to make me feel safe, to control me.

Lately I haven't had the opportunity to submit too often. Especially over the last month. We went on a two week trip which left us almost constantly surrounded by family (sleeping in my moms living room which...

There has been a bit of grumbling about the King & Queen election and so I thought I would just try and smooth out some of the concerns.

Isn't it just a popularity contest? Well sure, of course it is. I mean how can it not be. It is all about showing support for your favorite people on getDare.

However, it isn't JUST a popularity contest.

Why did I create it?

Well there were many reasons ...

1. I noticed that the forums were

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We see all the time subs posting how they discovered a limit they didn't know they had, or how a wannabe dom/me tried to get them to break them without their consent. But what about when you hit your Dom's limit? That's rarely discussed but it does happen. Dom's are human too and can have their own limits!

This happened recently to AM and I. I mentioned to him I was curious about gender play, in particular male superiority. It's something I have been curious about for a very long time...

October was supposed to be my subby month. I was hoping to complete some subby tasks, have extra subby play time and really indulge my subby and little sides. However, that plan went to shit when a scary incident at work triggered some things in my past and left me a complete anxiety filled mess.

I walked away from getDare a few weeks ago and went into hiding. This place, one of my favorite escapes, was no longer feeling like a safe haven. Instead, it has become its own source of anxiety....

Hello friends and fellow getDarians.

I have been missing in action lately so for those who have no idea who I am, HOW DARE YOU!! Just kidding of course. I am nobody special.

Let me introduce myself: I am Butterfly! I am magical and silly and bratty.

Jaro is my sub and Mr. Devious is my Husband/Dom.

Now, for the three of you who are wondering...

One of my most loved kinks is spanking and bruises that result from spanking. I would be quite happy to be permanently marked on most of my body if it were feasible. Recently I was involved in a heavy scene with one of my play partners that involved harsh spanking with hands and a belt. I have never really played with belts before, AM used one on me lightly when we met but we couldn't do much due to noise restraints in the place I was staying. So I had no idea what to expect when using it with more force...