I am halfway through my visit in Ontario and it isn't going well.

Don't get me wrong, I have really enjoyed spending time with my younger brother. Him and I are really close and he is so busy that we don't get to talk much when I am away , so it has been so nice to spend a little time with him. But he also works a lot and we only get a few hours a day. I have also been spending time with my best friend and her son and fiance (who also happens to be my cousin). And of course my 13 year...

I have been reflecting a lot lately about the past year. It is too easy to focus on the negative and hard things that happened, however it is so important to remember all the positive and lovely things. So many things have happened this past year. There have been so many ups and a few downs, but the ups are what I want to celebrate:

*I started planning my wedding to the most amazing...

My pet recently suggested that I post a blog on my views and feelings surrounding punishments, both giving and receiving.


First of all, I want to stress that there is a huge different between a punishment and a funishment.


Punishment
I believe that punishments are something that should be avoided. A punishment should be something that is a consequence for breaking a rule, or being “bad”. It should consist of something that the punishee doesn’t like,...

Somebody recently asked me how I balance our D/s relationship with being in love. It really got me thinking, and I thought I would try to write about it a bit.


When Asslvr and I first met, we met on getDare and started to play online. We seemed to have a strong connection and a great D/s dynamic. We had daily rules, weekly routines and regular playtime, as well as lots of time to just be in contact with each other and talking about kinky and non kinky things. We talked a lot!...

This is now my second Christmas here in Alberta with my love. Christmas has always been one of my favorite times of the year, and I grew up with lots of different traditions. Of course traditions change over time, but I guess it is a bit sad that I feel like I have almost none of those traditions left.

We used to always go visit my grandma on Christmas Eve. It would be a huge Christmas dinner with all of my cousins and aunts and uncles. We would have dinner and then open presents. As...

On Christmas day evening, I will be travelling back to Ontario to visit my family. I will be there for 2 weeks. I am both excited and dreading this trip. I have been struggling with a lot of anxiety surrounding it and I thought it might help to put it down here ...

Positive feelings
I am excited to see my mom, brother, cousin and best friend. I am really excited to be able to do some wedding activities with my best friend as she recently got engaged and I am finalizing some of...

Techies blog about consent and the thin line between consent and abuse was very well said. It also struck a cord for me and as I started to type my comment I realized how long it was and decided to post it as a blog of my own.q

First I grew up being emotionally and verbally abused by my father. When I left his house with my mom at 16, it was the most freeing day of my life and I still consider it the best day of my life.

I worked at a shelter for abused woman and children...