Over the years I have developed a list of things to watch out for, red flags if you will. Signs that you should run away and not waste your time in a relationship. Most of these points are aimed at signs that might happen at the beginning of a relationship.

Of course not everybody who is rude or scary or a waste of tine will show one of these signs and it isn't foolproof, so if somebody shows one of these signs maybe they are a good person/sub/dom etc. But generally speaking, if you see...

There are two kinds of people in this world, those that jump into a cold body of water head first, and those that dip their toe in, and then slowly take one step at a time until they are all the way in.

There are advantages and disadvantages to both:

When you jump in head first, it can sometimes be a shock to your system, but it goes away really quickly and you get to start to enjoy yourself a lot quicker. However, if it is too much of a shock to your system (ie. if it...

I am not a slut, a whore, a bitch, a c**t ... I am also not a slave. and will not answer to such. I am a sub and you may call me Butterfly.

Recently I read a blog post where the writer referred to all subs as sluts. He said something along the lines of "I try my best and you sluts just ruin it". That is a gross generalization. Not all subs are sluts!

Not all subs/slaves like being called names.

Sure, degradation and humiliation are common kinks,...

Most people have limits, and so they should. Even if they are only basic things like: death! Everybody has limits. Limits are different from person to person. For one person it could be a limit to cause permanent damage, whereas another person could be open to body modifications. Limits are your own personal boundaries and only YOU can decide what your limits are.

Why a limit is a limit?

One of the first things people do when they join getDare is create a blog post with...

Before I start my rant, I just thought I would share that the incident that caused me to rant about this topic today was had NOTHING to do with getDare. Although I have seen some instances of "bullying" or people being mean to each other on this site, it is not the focus of my rant.


Growing up I was never really bullied at school. This has always surprised me because I was always overweight, never wore designer labels, was always...

Recently there have been some people fighting in my life. It seems to be around the topic of my love.

You see, a few months ago, Princess.Ashley negotiated with Asslvr so that she could share me. She wanted me all to herself forever and ever. Asslvr was very nice to offer to share, and although Princess didn't want to share, she finally gave in. They decided that they could share. I think the percentages were something like 75% of my love goes to Princess, 24% goes to Asslvr and then...

I really really really really really really (times infinity) want a puppy.

I really think it is a good idea.

I want to name him meatball. We already have a spaghetti and a fettucine, but who wants pasta with meat!

He could play with the kitties and tire them out so they aren't so much trouble.

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