So... I like pretty things. I've always liked pretty things. And when I started getting kinky and looking for toys, I didn't stop liking pretty things.

Actually, I insist on all my toys being pretty. If I'm going to use it on myself, I want to like the look of it. This can occasionally cause problems when I'm shopping. There have been several times that finding an ugly but well-made toy was easier than finding a "decorative" quality item that is still fully functional. (Although...

To all our lovely trolls,

I feel like you are underappreciated. I don't think people realize how much you do for us.

Without you, I might not:

-understand just HOW awesome all of the awesome people here really are. It's always good to have comparisons available.
-have discovered most of the little triggers that activate my FUCK OFF mode.
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This is actually written in response to naughtylittlegirl's blog posts on safety (Part 1 and Part 2). If you haven't read them yet, you should go read them. And if you're somehow reading MY blog, but haven't read hers yet, you must not frequent the blog section. I highly recommend doing so and her blogs in particular. /end advertisement

Being comfortable saying no - again, I'm something of a brat. I say no plenty. It's actually one of the first things I learned to watch for. How does...

is like getting breast implants."

Apparently, it's deceitful. You know, because it gives you an awesome figure that's fake.

I'm not even going to touch on the fact that one is SURGERY and the other is clothing. OR the implied criticism of people who get breast implants.

But, assuming that such things are done or worn with the sole intention of getting more attention by looking better is a bit... ignorant.
Anyhow, this is why I like wearing corsets....

I was listening to the radio in the car with a vanilla friend. One of those "If your girlfriend says no and you keep going, you're a rapist" warnings comes on.

We started talking about how some of the proposed ideas to require written consent are a bit impractical. For the everyday occurence.

And, of course, I say, "Well, you know, consent doesn't JUST apply to 'Can we have sex?' "

Vanilla: What do you mean?!

By now,...

One of my favorite words.

The problem is that I use it in a few different ways.

Sometimes my NO means "You're getting on my nerves. Now get out of my face."

Sometimes my NO means "I'm not comfortable doing that. So stop pushing me." A variation on the above, but still a bit different. I don't like being pushed out of my comfort zone before I'm ready. I need to be the person who makes the decision to step out of it. I do occasionally like...

I had a conversation with another user a while back. And I can't get it out of my head. He approached me and started a conversation. I like conversations. He seemed reasonable enough. I mean, we flirted a bit. But there's nothing wrong with a bit of a flirt, as far as I'm concerned. It doesn't mean we're taking it further than that. So I was a bit surprised when we had a conversation something along the lines of:

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Me: I think I've found a Dom that I really like and feel comfortable with.

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