Vent: I do what I want!
This is going to be a vent post. I just need to get it out and didn't really have anywhere else.
I am so so sick of people in my local community and people I know telling me what I am, what I am not, and what I can or cannot have in a relationship.
"You are not a slave, you are a submissive."
"You are not a submissive, you are a slave."
"Because you are a submissive, you can't have a TPE"
"You can't have high protocol and JUST be a submissive."
"If you want a Dominant that's experienced, you need to let go of your issues with age gaps"
"If you want a Master, you need to go through training first. No Master wants an untrained slave."
"You are either a submissive or a slave. There is no spectrum and no in-between."
All of these things have been said to me by people I know, people I'm friends with, and people that I live with.
What I wanna know is....Where's this rule book they are getting this from? I wanna throw it at 'em!
In all seriousness, I hate going through the process of figuring out my own identity.
I am so so sick of people in my local community and people I know telling me what I am, what I am not, and what I can or cannot have in a relationship.
"You are not a slave, you are a submissive."
"You are not a submissive, you are a slave."
"Because you are a submissive, you can't have a TPE"
"You can't have high protocol and JUST be a submissive."
"If you want a Dominant that's experienced, you need to let go of your issues with age gaps"
"If you want a Master, you need to go through training first. No Master wants an untrained slave."
"You are either a submissive or a slave. There is no spectrum and no in-between."
All of these things have been said to me by people I know, people I'm friends with, and people that I live with.
What I wanna know is....Where's this rule book they are getting this from? I wanna throw it at 'em!
In all seriousness, I hate going through the process of figuring out my own identity.
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I think the most important thing is that you’re comfortable with what you’re doing and how it satisfies you. Hopefully as part of that you find someone you’re compatible with and shares the same viewpoint.
I think everyone will have different opinions on what is allegedly right or wrong, but as long as something works for you then who cares?
I pretty much gave up worrying what other people thought a long time ago about this kinda thing as it got distracting and negative.
Sometimes the lines between slave and submissive get a little blurred. Some doms want a trained sub, others prefer inexperienced subs they can mould themselves.
It’s all a matter of preference, not right or wrong.Posted 11-18-2020 at 01:20 AM by Masterwants -
Quote:I think the most important thing is that you’re comfortable with what you’re doing and how it satisfies you. Hopefully as part of that you find someone you’re compatible with and shares the same viewpoint.
I think everyone will have different opinions on what is allegedly right or wrong, but as long as something works for you then who cares?
I pretty much gave up worrying what other people thought a long time ago about this kinda thing as it got distracting and negative.
Sometimes the lines between slave and submissive get a little blurred. Some doms want a trained sub, others prefer inexperienced subs they can mould themselves.
It’s all a matter of preference, not right or wrong.
I'm currently attempting to gain perspective from reputable people in my community that are closer to my age.Posted 11-18-2020 at 10:16 AM by MysticalMadness -
Posted 11-18-2020 at 10:32 PM by Butterfly -
Posted 11-19-2020 at 01:04 AM by Masterwants