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Do dominant women really exist?
I keep asking myself if dominant women really exist. Love is everywhere and yet so easily eludes us when we need it most. Every woman I've ever been with has worn an elaborate mask tailored just for me. Should I just lower my standards and take the first cute thing I see? It feels like strong, intelligent, kinky, and stable women are extinct. Something that others have but that I never will. I feel that maybe I'm holding out for a creature that died out millions of years ago.
I'm stable, have an awesome and interesting job, and get along well in social situations. Hell, a lot of people I run into even find me interesting. Where do you find interesting, intelligent, open-minded, kinky, and strong women? I run into potentials occasionally but never have had the opportunity to get to know them better. Is it wrong not to want another submissive or confused kitten? I just want a loving girl who takes what she wants and isn't rubber.
I've found a couple of girls here in Southern California who were close. I've seen glimpses of what I'm looking for but like Nessie or an ET have so far stayed mysteries. It's just a long journey to an unknown destination.
As I write this there has to be girl in California sitting at her computer in Southern California looking for companionship and a boy to love. Maybe not.
I'm stable, have an awesome and interesting job, and get along well in social situations. Hell, a lot of people I run into even find me interesting. Where do you find interesting, intelligent, open-minded, kinky, and strong women? I run into potentials occasionally but never have had the opportunity to get to know them better. Is it wrong not to want another submissive or confused kitten? I just want a loving girl who takes what she wants and isn't rubber.
I've found a couple of girls here in Southern California who were close. I've seen glimpses of what I'm looking for but like Nessie or an ET have so far stayed mysteries. It's just a long journey to an unknown destination.
As I write this there has to be girl in California sitting at her computer in Southern California looking for companionship and a boy to love. Maybe not.
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don't you mean dominant? i thought dominate was a verb...
Posted 09-11-2010 at 07:54 PM by metalchick -
Posted 09-11-2010 at 08:33 PM by depp -
Posted 09-11-2010 at 08:41 PM by Tiger -
They exist, but getting everything you want in one package is difficult no matter what sort of companion you want. They're just bloody rare and it takes a lot of time to hunt one down :s
Posted 09-11-2010 at 09:35 PM by Leopard -
And I've found that most women who are like the woman you describe... don't flash it about.
Personally, to me it feels like every man wants a quiet submissive "normal" girl. In circumstances where I do act like my total self... it's only girls who show interest in having relationship with me. Oh wells. (:
P.S. to Tiger: Everyone has a different definition of cute. (:Posted 09-11-2010 at 10:27 PM by sweetsong -
nevermind ......
Posted 09-11-2010 at 10:36 PM by metalchick -
As far as I can tell, and from my experiences, there aren't really that many. At least, like yourself, no women near me are exactly like that - Nice that we have the same tastes in women, huh? - or even remotely close to the most important one for me; Stable, which I take to mean emotionally capable of taking a blow and picking themselves up again without having to phone a friend for answers (Not that I mean physically hit or anything).
It's not even that I think either of us are after, "Dominant," as in, "Yes, Mistress," but a woman that doesn't just fold and throw in her cards at the slightest chance of things going poorly would be magnificent. Kinkiness, cuteness.. Everybody has their kinks and everyone is cute in their own way. It depends on whether their kinks are in-line with yours, and whether you perceive their cuteness.
My best advice? Go for one of the requirements, as the chances of finding two... It will never happen. The perfect anybody; boyfriend, girlfriend, lover, bed-buddy - they don't exist. You need to find the qualities about a person, and accept them, without lamenting for the things that they seem to lack.
But most of all, keep in mind that men are meant to be the core of a relationship. Men are the ones who are meant to enable things to run smoothly, like the bones of your own body, men are meant to give the strength for the relationship to move. Women are meant to be the tenderness, the emotion, and the.. Pizazz! They make the relationship exciting and interesting, but without the bones to support them, they're jelly. Skin scars easily (Emotional damage!) but that means that the bones don't have to worry about it, being shielded by the skin, so long as the skin can depend on the bones. Ha. I think that's a nice analogy; I do hope it isn't being a little too sexist (Well.. it is. But honestly).
Also hoping that I've been able to help you a little! Good luck with love - You'll need it.Posted 09-12-2010 at 12:07 AM by Kusumura
Updated 09-12-2010 at 12:10 AM by Kusumura -
I'd have to agree with Depp stating that most women are on the more submissive side.
And most of the ones going for the dominating side are so bitchy that I wouldn't been able to keep up living with them.
But I'm sure there's girls out there that know what they want, go for that, don't let them be distracted what men feel they should do. Direct their lifes in the way they want it to go. A bit more on the dominant side, but in a nice and dedicated way. Hmm, I think I want that!Posted 09-12-2010 at 12:27 AM by deschut -
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Quote:Also hoping that I've been able to help you a little! Good luck with love - You'll need it.Posted 09-12-2010 at 12:29 AM by LilAngel
Updated 09-12-2010 at 12:31 AM by LilAngel -
Quote:But most of all, keep in mind that men are meant to be the core of a relationship. Men are the ones who are meant to enable things to run smoothly, like the bones of your own body, men are meant to give the strength for the relationship to move. Women are meant to be the tenderness, the emotion, and the.. Pizazz! They make the relationship exciting and interesting, but without the bones to support them, they're jelly. Skin scars easily (Emotional damage!) but that means that the bones don't have to worry about it, being shielded by the skin, so long as the skin can depend on the bones. Ha. I think that's a nice analogy; I do hope it isn't being a little too sexist (Well.. it is. But honestly).
What? That's so ridiculously stereotypical. Every relationship is different. Every person is different. There is no "supposed to" definition to a relationship.
The right person for you is out there, but they are unlikely to be listed on your ideal statistics spreadsheet - most great love is found when least expected. Never give up!Posted 09-12-2010 at 12:29 AM by Leopard -
Cute: Am I sexually attracted to the person?
Dominant: Does she enjoy being in control? (not just trying to always please me)
Intelligent: Can I hold a conversation with her about non-superficial things?
Kinky: Does she enjoy sexual adventure?
What makes me sad is that I don't feel like cute, dominant, intelligent, and kinky is too much to put on my list. I've only ever been able to pick three and a half and yet I feel very strongly about all four.
Quote:Originally Posted by LeopardThe right person for you is out there, but they are unlikely to be listed on your ideal statistics spreadsheet - most great love is found when least expected. Never give up!
Quote:Originally Posted by Leopardit takes a lot of time to hunt one down :s
Quote:Originally Posted by deschutBut I'm sure there's girls out there that know what they want, go for that, don't let them be distracted what men feel they should do. Direct their lifes in the way they want it to go. A bit more on the dominant side, but in a nice and dedicated way. Hmm, I think I want that!
This sounds like a dream
Quote:Originally Posted by sweetsongAnd I've found that most women who are like the woman you describe... don't flash it about.
Quote:Originally Posted by LilAngelit also comes from patience, open-mindedness and hard workPosted 09-12-2010 at 01:50 AM by depp -
I think it's pretty clear from your ad / other posts that you have hope and express / promote yourself well in a completely non-whiny way.
Everyone doubts themselves at times, you just need reassuring that sooner or later you'll find someone totally worthwhile for you
Just go with what feels right.Posted 09-12-2010 at 02:01 AM by Leopard -
Posted 09-12-2010 at 06:16 AM by Mere