Hey I need advice

[Slavegirl427]

so I am a slave and this is both mine and my masters first master/slave relationship so far things have been going well and I really enjoy being controlled. I always do what is asked of me and want to please him. He recently asked me to take and send him some certain pictures he didn't say when he wanted them by but I had told him I would try to do it when I got home from a night out witch he had given me permission to go to. When I got home it was late. I texted him and asked if he wanted them now or tomorrow he was sleeping and didn't respond so I didn't send them. Today I also had plans witch I also had permission to go. When I got home I took a shower got myself all sexy and sent the pics. I asked for feedback witch I know I am not entitled to but still being at the beginning stages of the slave master relationship (but have been fucking for years) I like because I want to please him best I can and I feel feedback helps with that. I was told that feedback is only for a slave that is on time I am incredibly frustrated I felt I did everything right I am trying my best to please him and this just makes it feel in vain. I would like advice for both slaves and masters.

[PlagueBringer]

From a master's point of view, I'd say that this dude is just being a dick. If he never gave you an actual time of due, then you are in the clear and he should give you presents for getting them to him as soon as you did.

[Master_Kevin]

It sounds like there could be some fault on both sides. The word "try" should not be used by a submissive. He should have also clarified that was the date to be completed.

Was that a fitting punishment? I would say no as feedback is required for both. Especially in a first time D/s relationship.

[Slavegirl427]

Originally Posted by Master_Kevin

It sounds like there could be some fault on both sides. The word "try" should not be used by a submissive. He should have also clarified that was the date to be completed.

Was that a fitting punishment? I would say no as feedback is required for both. Especially in a first time D/s relationship.

I would never use "try" if he asked me to do something but I was just trying to tell him when I might could do it because he know wayyy in advance I had a bust weekend witch he had given me permission to do no it's not fitting at all im super frustrated and about to just give up

[justJane]

Originally Posted by Master_Kevin

It sounds like there could be some fault on both sides. The word "try" should not be used by a submissive. He should have also clarified that was the date to be completed.

Was that a fitting punishment? I would say no as feedback is required for both. Especially in a first time D/s relationship.

I strongly disagree with this. When I am someone's sub, if my dom tells me to do something I'm not sure that I can, I will most definitely say try. Also, if time is an issue, then yes, it is absolutely legitimate to say try.

Slavegirl427 - I agree with PlagueBringer that it sounds like he is just being a dick. It's understandable to be frustrated and want to give up. Good luck to you!

[Sharp Shooter]

Third vote that he's being a dick. You said that this is both his and your first relationship of this type. More than you, he is definitely making rookie mistakes. He should be reinforcing your positive behavior, not playing petty "I am master; you are slave" moves.

On a side note, before you send anything that could potentially come back to "bite you in the butt", I hope you establish a very solid relationship outside of any scene. Remember, the Internet is "forever".

Good luck!

[MercilessDomme]

Personally I would never withhold feedback. The less feedback, the less well the relationship will work. Also, I disagree with him - feedback is the only thing to which a slave is entitled.

[centurion01]

Originally Posted by Slavegirl427

so I am a slave and this is both mine and my masters first master/slave relationship so far things have been going well and I really enjoy being controlled. I always do what is asked of me and want to please him. He recently asked me to take and send him some certain pictures he didn't say when he wanted them by but I had told him I would try to do it when I got home from a night out witch he had given me permission to go to. When I got home it was late. I texted him and asked if he wanted them now or tomorrow he was sleeping and didn't respond so I didn't send them. Today I also had plans witch I also had permission to go. When I got home I took a shower got myself all sexy and sent the pics. I asked for feedback witch I know I am not entitled to but still being at the beginning stages of the slave master relationship (but have been fucking for years) I like because I want to please him best I can and I feel feedback helps with that. I was told that feedback is only for a slave that is on time I am incredibly frustrated I felt I did everything right I am trying my best to please him and this just makes it feel in vain. I would like advice for both slaves and masters.

A sub never submits to a Dom.
A Dom does not own a sub.

A Dom is allowed by the sub to be their Dom.
A sub is entitled to feed back.

Since he is a new dom, allow him some errors,
Tell him he's being a dick, if he didn't reply to a question and doesn't allow feedback then how can you get better to give yourself to him.

Tell him if he wants to be the lucky Dom to have asub then he better start reading about how to treat sub's correctly, how to Dom, and how a sub Dom relationship works.

Out him on a no play for a few days if he's at all interested in you he'll accept this, chat as two people, get to know each other a bit, this will strengthen your relationship to each other.

Also, pictures should be earned from a sub, not demanded.
If he does right to please you offer... Or else tell him no

[centurion01]

Originally Posted by Master_Kevin

It sounds like there could be some fault on both sides. The word "try" should not be used by a submissive. He should have also clarified that was the date to be completed.

Was that a fitting punishment? I would say no as feedback is required for both. Especially in a first time D/s relationship.

Try shouldn't be used what a joke.
Can tell you don't have a clue what your talking about.

[Punisher37]

If there was a deadline he should have told you what it was.

Feedback is very important, especially if you are both new.

[DrakenM]

Originally Posted by Punisher37

If there was a deadline he should have told you what it was.

Feedback is very important, especially if you are both new.

First of all

"I am a slave and this is both mine and my masters first master/slave relationship"

I think this is the most important line of all and lets not be harsh here. It is more of inexperience as centurion01 implied

If your Dom had researched prior to training you then I think he should filter certain things he sees online and draw the line between fantasy and real life. Real life means there is commitments and those had to be factored in.

" He recently asked me to take and send him some certain pictures he didn't say when he wanted them by but I had told him I would try to do it when I got home from a night out witch he had given me permission to go to."

I am pretty sure that in his mind he didn't expect to wait for too long (depending on how patience he is) and being inexperience he also did not know that it is better to be clear then try to be nice.

Right now I am assuming since you like to be controlled you also wished to be told what to do instead of deciding what to do (A Total Assumption). If that is the case in all D/s or M/s relationship communication is key.

If he refuses to listen to what you have to say now is the time to pull out the safeword and have a proper discussion. If not problems will only escalate.

"I asked for feedback witch I know I am not entitled to" this is very subjective and i'm not the one to say who is right or who is wrong. BUT if this was discussed beforehand and you agreed to it then your statement hold true. If this is your assumption then it would be better if you guys talk it out.

Every D/s or M/s has different dynamics and it all depends heavily on communication

"I am incredibly frustrated"

Back to basic, "communication"

I'm not gonna talk about try since many has stated their views on it, and I am inclined to agree to the masses for this