BDSM truths! (Questions!!)

[Shibari]

Here's some awesomely nosey questions! Answer with 100% honesty!!!

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?

3)would you ever explore your limits?

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone

5a) Anything you've regret?

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?

[DanHenceworth]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
about 4 years

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
online would be four years, closet bdsm for 3 and a half but never public

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
4

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
yes definitely

3)would you ever explore your limits?
i doubt my limits that dont want to do, but some of my limits are there because i cannot do them due to living situations, i would try them if the situation changed

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
not that i know off

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
i cant really think of anything big to be honest

5a) Anything you've regret?
not really

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
only really done online play and closet play, but i imagine real play with a dom would be amazing

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
mainly submissive

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
not to a friend, maybe to a girlfriend if she seemed to like some little things to do with the lifestyle

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
no they do not and no i really dont wish to tell them either

[fat_bi_slut]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
Since I was 14 years old. After I had found out about it through a porn site I noticed that I really enjoyed everything about it.

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
Online - since I was 14 years old. I have never had a real-life BDSM relationship.

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
I'd say about a 5 because I have such long experience with it online, but I haven't had a real-life BDSM relationship which means I still have quite a lot to learn.

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
Definitely. It's amazing.

3)would you ever explore your limits?
I have pretty much done that since I was 14. Don't have many limits left, and I think they will always be limits

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
Getting sexually dominated and humiliated by family members, being raped by a lot of guys, being forced to take part in a scat porno, getting fucked by a dog or a horse.

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
Poo and pee in the bathtub and then smear it all over my body and face while masturbating

5a) Anything you've regret?
No, not really. My worst nightmare is if my friends or family found out, but I have been lucky so far.

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
I have only experienced online play and I really enjoy that. However I think I would enjoy real play more.

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
I am definitely submissive.

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
No, because I don't want them to know that I like it. I might recomment it to an online friend though

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
No, my friends don't know about the kinky stuff. I won't tell them, but I really want to. It would be so amazing if they were into it aswell

[pet monkey]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
Depends on what you mean by 'involved'. Even before I knew what BDSM was I was experimenting with ways to tie myself to the bed. (Back in the days of footie pajamas and bunk beds)

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
I have just recently had the opportunity to start an online relationship with a domme, so, not counting some trial play time, only a couple of days now. In real life, none, other than self bondage experiences.

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced Somewhere on the low end of the spectrum... 3 or MAYBE 4

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink? YES PLEASE!

3)would you ever explore your limits?
I don't think I'd explore my limits really, but probably my dislikes

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
None i can think of...

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
Nothing springs to mind

5a) Anything you've regret?
As far as this question goes? No, no regrets

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
Well, I don't think I have the experience to answer this question honestly, I've only started with some online play, and it is awesome. But I'd love to try some real play too.

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
submissive for sure

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
I wonder how that conversation would go:

Me: "Hey, you ever feel like you need to be controlled, or to control someone?"
Them: "What?"
Me: "You know like tie someone up, or be tied up or spankings.. that sort of thing."
Then: "Dude, have you been drinking the crazy sauce again?"

9) Do your friends know you're into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
I once tried to tell a friend about it, and while he didn't dismiss me out of hand the situation quickly turned uncomfortable for me to continue discussing it. I have a friend I'd really love to share everything with now, but, 'Once bitten, twice shy'

[EmmaLang]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
Since I was 14

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
For real since I was 14.

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
I would have to say a 10, I have done so much.

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
I want to experience it all, I love pain and torture so much.


3)would you ever explore your limits?
I have not yet found a limit, anything goes so I have no limit.

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
Family, Animals, Snuff.

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
I have done so much it is hard to say, fucked strangers, tramps, gang banged, pissed on and let guys beat me up etc.

5a) Anything you've regret?
Only regret no starting earlier in life.

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
Real for sure.

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
Sub

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
If they were the right person yes.

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
Most of my friends know yes, they have seen me or heard about what I do. I am ok with people knowing.

[masochisticpuppy]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
10 years in real life, 13 online (including the real life years)

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced 10

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink? the thing that I haven't experienced that I would like to is an interrogation scene.

3)would you ever explore your limits?
nope, they are there for a reason

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what? i am into daddy/boy(or girl) roleplay... if that counts.

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
to me: someone put acupuncture needles all over my body and then electrocuted them with a violet wand...
to someone else: i'm not sure really...

5a) Anything you've regret? yes, but nothing i can change

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
real play

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
switch

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
yep

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
yes they all know...

[Sapphire]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
About five years
1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
Online, five years, Real life, mmm, about three
2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
like a five
2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?

3)would you ever explore your limits?
Not unless ordered to.
4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
Eh, being forced by a stranger.
5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
I masturbated for my master while my dorm roommate was awake and on her computer. I think I hid it pretty well.
5a) Anything you've regret?
Not really
6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
Both
7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
Submissive
8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
If they came to me asking about it, yes.
9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
I have only ever told one friend I was into BDSM. Weeks later he said "I just never imagined you into the latex suits and all and I face palmed. The BDSM world is so flat for those who don't participate in it. They don't realize how many layers upon layers there are, and a lot of people simply judge it. So, I probably wont be telling very many more friends .

[Juicey Jessica]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM?
Since I was 18

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
Both are the same

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
Probably a 5

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
Yes

3) Would you ever explore your limits?
Maybe in the right situation

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
Not really

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone?
I don't know

5a) Anything you've regret?
No

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
Real play

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure?
Switch but leaning submissive

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
It depends on the friend

9) Do your friends know you're into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
Some of them know, Some of them don't. I'm fine with this.

[JulieKEames]

Originally Posted by Shibari

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM About 6 years

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real? Almost all of it was online, but about 1 year in real life

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced Online - 8 or 9, Reallife - 3

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink? Sure

3)would you ever explore your limits? Why not?

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what? I was into what they called Ageplay while online. What's funny is that I was actually underage; I used to have to pretend that I was older during non-play times. A lot of ageplayers pretend to be younger than they are.

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone Nothing real life.

5a) Anything you've regret? Nothing yet

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both? Online was a lot more fun. It was easier than finding a real-life partner that is into kinky stuff

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure While I was mostly sub online, I find myself being more Domme now

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend? Depends on the friend.

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?

I doubt any of them know what I was into then or am into now. There are maybe one or two I think I could tell, because they would understand. And there are one or two I WANT to tell, because I want to play with them or have them play with me, but unfortunately I don't think they would be the ones to understand.

[Consensus]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
I haven't really been involved. However, self-bondage was first attempted at the tender age of 12 and most of my play from as far back as I can recall (about 6-7) had BDSM elements in it.

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
Real-life is as above, online is different - I've cybered twice with BDSM elements. I had a relationship that had BDSM elements infrequently in 2005 but that's it.

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
Not very. 3?

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
Duh, yes.

3)would you ever explore your limits?
In the right situation I'd probably have very few limits because I would trust the Dominant completely.

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
In my experience ALL fantasies are taboo. However, I'm not sure what is meant here so... mostly feminisation and plain bondage.

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
Difficult one to answer. Given the reaction of my SO at the time I'd guess the most shocking activity was going to a club fully dressed with a wig; dirty is... I'm a tad odd with dirt, so nothing and rude would have to be going down on my wife. Yeah, pure vanilla.

5a) Anything you've regret?
I regret everything to some degree or other.

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
I'd prefer real-life but my wife is not interested. Online would be cheating on her.

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
I've been both, so switch.

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
If they asked, yes.

9) Do your friends know you're into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
I haven't told anyone. That said, it's not like I'm good at keeping secrets. My wife knows.

[kyjd]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
for about 5 years

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
about a year for online and about 4 years for real life

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
probably about a 4

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
yes

3)would you ever explore your limits?
yes

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
no

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
nothing really

5a) Anything you've regret?
no not really

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
I prefer both

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
I am a switch leaning more to the submissive side

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
If we were really close yes

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
No they don't know. Yes I would tell them, yes I want to tell them

[MissMaria]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real? I was doing self bondage from the age of 9 and also adding predicaments to the bondage, online it has been the last 2 or 3 years

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink? 3, It is such a vast world and while I have explored a lot of things that is nothing compared to the options.

3)would you ever explore your limits? Yes, I do like to see how far I can go.

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what? Pass

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone

5a) Anything you've regret? No, nothing like that

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both? Both but real more.

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure Switch (but not very dominant and very submissive)

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend? Yes and have

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them? Some of them, yes they do know

[Use_Me]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
Probably about 6 or 7 years.
1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
Online about 6 or 7 years and real life for 3 years.
2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
I'd say around a 4. Still got lots to learn.
3)would you ever explore your limits?
Possibly. If I felt safe enough with a knowledgeable partner.
4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
I have a bit of a rape fantasy. I love humiliation and would love to lose total control to someone and have the do nasty and degrading things to me.
5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
I've had a friend of mine piss on my tits.
5a) Anything you've regret?
Nope.
6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
Real life.
7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
Submissive.
8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
Yup, definitely.
9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
My closest friends know.

[howellnp]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM
Since I was 13
1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
Online: a few years Real: since I was 13
2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced
about a 7
2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
N/A
3)would you ever explore your limits?
sure
4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
incest
5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
I grabbed my cousin's tits and she bagged me
5a) Anything you've regret?
The above answer
6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
real
7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
Dominant
8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
Yes, Most Definitely
9) Do your friends know you're into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
Some of them do. I have told some friends, and I want some to know, but others to be in the dark

[Officelover]

1) How long have you been involved with BDSM?
I first heard about BDSM when I was in seventh or eighth grade... I guess my first stab at an online BDSM relationship was in tenth grade, and my senior year of high school I had a little physical one that never really went very far.

1a) How long for If online? How long for if in real?
I guess six years or so online, maybe a year or two offline?

2) How experienced do you think you are? Out of 10. 1 being no experience and 10 being highly experienced.
I would say I'm a 4 or a 5. Very little real life experience and not even any really long-term online relationships. I have done a lot on my own, and have sort of explored a lot of different fetishes through research and experimentation.

2a) If you've had no experience would you want to experience the world of kink?
I've only had a little, I guess, and I would really, really like to explore it more.

3)would you ever explore your limits?
Yes.

4)Any 'taboo' fantasies? If so what?
I guess scat and blackmail would count here?

5) whats the most shocking/dirty/rude activity you think you've done? Or done to someone
I don't know, I've done a lot of shocking stuff on my own. I like to go on Omegle sometimes and make myself look as pathetic as possible for strangers.

5a) Anything you've regret?
Not really, no.

6) What do you prefer: Online play, in real play, or both?
I would prefer play in real life.

7)Are you Dominant? submissive? Or Switch? Or are you unsure
I am a switch. I fantasize about both roles, often interchangeably, and the one semi-relationship I had in real life was a switch encounter.

8) Would you recommend BDSM to a friend?
Of course, it's a lot of fun.

9) Do your friends know youre into kinky stuff? Would you ever tell them? Do you want to tell them?
A precious few of them do. I would like to tell more of them, the cool hipstery artists that I want to hang out with more haha.