What do *you* do when you get a dare that you can't/won't do?

[OnTheRimOfMyGlass]

I HAVE QUESTIONS

What do you do when you get:
* Dares clearly against your stated limits
* Dares against a limit you didn't have stated
* Dares not against your limits but that otherwise show that the dare-giver didn't read your signature (ie, your signature says 'all dares must begin 'I double-dog-dare you to...' and the dare doesn't start that way)
* Dares that don't clash with your signature but just seem totally unrelated to you or the thread (ie, your signature says you're into diapers, mess, and pee, you're posting in a Crossdressing thread, and someone dares you to put clothespins on your nipples)
* Dares that are just plain boring, assuming 'boring stuff' isn't listed as one of your interests ('I dare you to scratch your nose')
* Dares that seem to be unaware of reality ('I dare you to ram your entire fist into your ass with no lube in the next half second')
* Dares that would be realistic except for the 'do right now' thing (ie while you're at your camp counselor summer job with minors, getting 'I dare you to spend the next hour wearing a miniskirt and no underwear')
* Dares that don't actually make any sense ('I dare hu 2 watermellon pineaple until 2sday or hu organ')
* Dares you just don't want to do for some other reason

I am still pretty new and have only been getting dares in the Person Above forum and by PM/Kik. Generally when I've been getting these, if the dare seems interesting or gets me excited, I'll say why I can't do it and ask for a different dare; if it's boring but easy and quick, I'll just do it; if it's logistically complicated because I'm at work, I'll let the person know when I will do it. Otherwise, I'll ignore it and assume it's a spam dare just to get into a Person Above thread.

Anyway, I was curious: what are other people doing with this stuff?

[onipran]

You can just add a line to your signature that you possess the right to disregard any dares you are given by providing valid reason and requesting a new one.

What I believe, Dares give pleasures and or excitement to the dare doers and they should be designed keeping this in mind though they can be given to punish. I don't know why, but punishments within their limits give them pleasure

[OnTheRimOfMyGlass]

Originally Posted by onipran

You can just add a line to your signature that you possess the right to disregard any dares you are given by providing valid reason and requesting a new one.

What I believe, Dares give pleasures and or excitement to the dare doers and they should be designed keeping this in mind though they can be given to punish. I don't know why, but punishments within their limits give them pleasure

Oh totally. But I figure that it's kind of a given that no one is forced to do any dare? And if someone's giving a bad dare because they didn't read my signature, they're still not going to read that part either.

Yeah, I think a lot of it comes down to if the dare-giver is considering why the dare-doer might be doing dares. Which seems like it should be an obvious thing, since personal dares are so much better

[GoogleMaster]

Originally Posted by OnTheRimOfMyGlass

I HAVE QUESTIONS

I'm a Dare Giver and I make that clear in my signature. So when someone offers to dare me in any capacity I usually just decline.

That being said, there are times when I play TorD and also participate in receiving dares. When those times happen, for me part of the fun is to 'interpret' the dare in such a way that I am doing the dare to the letter of the dare if not to the spirit.

For example: I was once dared in a hotel we were staying at to go press the elevator button, naked. Do do this I obviously had to take my clothes off. However, I did also grab an umbrella which I opened in front of my bits as I walked down the long hall.

While to some this makes me a wuss (I am), or a cheat (am not) to me it adds some fun to the dare.

And before everyone accuses me of being a hypocrite, I enjoy it when I give a dare to someone and they use the same mental gymnastics to outsmart me. I forces me to become more clever than them and forces me to consider a better dare-- or at least a better worded dare.

Of course all of that being said some people are stupid and make unreasonable dares or something that is just so wildly out of your limits that they are not even worth answering to. You control the rules of the game you want to play in. Be safe, respect yourself, and always remember: no means no.

Have Fun!

[realwing]

I usually avoid people who might give me dares like that, as I get my dares/tasks mostly from PMs rather than forums. If I do get a dare from someone that is in my limits, I'll just point it out to them and explain why it's part of my limits. If I get given a dare that is particularly unpleasant or something I don't think I could do I would say I'm uncomfortable with it and explain what's wrong.

[Happy Me]

I have only done actual dares on my RToD threads. I did get impossible ones, or ones that were completely unappealing to me, and I would either ask them to revise it, or I would just tell them I wasn't going to do it (and why). I called one guy out, publicly, on my thread, for giving an impossible dare and being totally unwilling to modify it to make it possible (I had asked him via PM.)

Mostly I just play (s/m) with individuals that I have some kind of friendship or relationship with, and that I know are good at designing tasks that are doable and will push my happy buttons.

[Iodine]

Depending on who actually gives them I usually just ignore the dare outright if its like that, if its someone I can tolerate then I tell them im not doing it.

[LitDarkness]

I tell them it's against my limits or impossible depending on which problem(s).

I've been lucky that most people read my sig or understand if I forgot to add a limit to the list and modify it.

However some just don't reply back or tell me to do it anyway. I don't do them then.

However, thankfully that's a minority.

[catgirl1001a]

I have had the same trouble. But i tend to ignore the dare and reply to the sender immediately and tell them i wont do it for a reason. I was once dared to swallow 4 raw eggs. Eggs make me sick, so i told them they modified it so instead of swallow it was wear the egg. Some times their are those who constantly disrespect limits, if you have a problem block them and tell a moderator. The person doing the dare should always have the final say in doing/ not doing a dare. I always put "respect limits" at the end of a dare chain like the person above threads, though it makes it hard when some one has no likes/limits in their sig.

[naughtylittlegirl]

Regardless of the reason, I just message back, explain why I cannot or deeply do not want to do the task, and politely ask they read my info page (if they haven't already done so) and adjust the task accordingly. Sometimes I suggest an alteration (usually asking, 'What do think about such and such instead?'), unless it's a significant chunk of the task that needs to be changed - then I leave it up to the task-giver.

"Boring" tasks are a whole other deal. If it's just ridiculously unrelated to what I've asked for, then I just reply with "Thank you for the task, but this isn't really my thing." If it's something that puts all the creativity on me, i.e. is something painfully vague and includes no details, I send it back and ask for a little more substance. That's become a pet peeve for me, because I've felt a little taken advantage of by people putting no effort into the task while expecting me to make it interesting, complete it well, and write them a wank-tastic report. I'm not a porn factory.

I haven't gotten too many unrealistic ones, just a few where people didn't realize the natural limits of the human body. Again, quick explanation, and if they're jerks about it, I ignore them. Same goes for the ones that are unreadable - I try to figure it out, and then re-iterate it to confirm, but it depends on how patient I'm feeling that day, to be honest.

Overall, I feel pretty free to negotiate when it comes to tasks. Everything goes by my Dom first too, so often when people find that out they put on their grown-up pants and do a decent job

[Happy Me]

Originally Posted by naughtylittlegirl

Everything goes by my Dom first too, so often when people find that out they put on their grown-up pants and do a decent job

Whahahaa. You are awesome.

[naughtylittlegirl]

Originally Posted by Happy Me

Whahahaa. You are awesome.

Thank you! It is pretty entertaining when certain people realize, oh someone's actually going to be checking up on my homework, or oh she actually has standards But mostly, I've been given really, really good tasks. gD has some fantastic minds.

[FoxFire]

I'd say I don't do 99% of dares/tasks simply because people don't read my signature or they don't put thought or creativity into what they type.

( I do troll those people for fun )


I personally think its worse for guys, since we are the majority on here. As troll guys bump other trolls guys threads hoping for girls.
Or maybe they really enjoy doing 20+ dares a day.


Don't think the majority of people here do all the tasks/dares/whatevers they say they do.

[WAMXdresser]

If I get a dare that goes against blatantly against my limits, then I might PM the person asking for a different dare or a modification of that dare. If it is really outrageous, then I just won't do the dare or even PM the person.

[Kisune Karnon]

* Dares clearly against your stated limits Sometimes I message the person and tell them or ignore it.

* Dares against a limit you didn't have stated I would try to do it if I could or ask the person for something different while explaining the situation

* Dares not against your limits but that otherwise show that the dare-giver didn't read your signature (ie, your signature says 'all dares must begin 'I double-dog-dare you to...' and the dare doesn't start that way) I wouldn't be too petty about specifics unless it breaks the limits.

* Dares that don't clash with your signature but just seem totally unrelated to you or the thread (ie, your signature says you're into diapers, mess, and pee, you're posting in a Crossdressing thread, and someone dares you to put clothespins on your nipples) I usually ignore it or message the person for something relevant or quote them and post about being relevant to the thread.

* Dares that are just plain boring, assuming 'boring stuff' isn't listed as one of your interests ('I dare you to scratch your nose') If it's easy, I'd do it. If it's just crazy, I ignore it.

* Dares that seem to be unaware of reality ('I dare you to ram your entire fist into your ass with no lube in the next half second') Ignore it.

* Dares that would be realistic except for the 'do right now' thing (ie while you're at your camp counselor summer job with minors, getting 'I dare you to spend the next hour wearing a miniskirt and no underwear') I'd just do it when I was able.

* Dares that don't actually make any sense ('I dare hu 2 watermellon pineaple until 2sday or hu organ') Ignore it.

* Dares you just don't want to do for some other reason I'd let the person know usually.



Basically. If it didn't line up with what I liked, broke my limits, didn't fit in the thread or weren't realistic, I ignore it and move on. Sometimes I'd talk to the person depending on the content of the thread. If you don't like it, don't do it. Simple as that.