Publicly humiliate me please?

[Bebe_Gurl]

My boyfriend, sir, has approved the following rules given to me over pm. He often feels I am trying to emasculate him with my vivid vocabulary and wants to put me in a tight dress and in my place. These were given to me by getsare userz this morning and insists I abide by them and promotes the assignment of corresponding punishments to failures:
For every day you have a cum, write your boyfriend a letter/email begging him to pin you down and rape your asshole. Tell him that it's actually better that you don't enjoy it, because using his fucktoy is all about his pleasure, and that you'll be better able to serve him, either because you wont be distracted by your pleasure, or because you'll have a chance to show off how much pain you willingly undergo to please him. Beg him to fuck your ass until he is tired no matter how much you sob and cry, then grab your hair and force your mouth and throat to clean up the shit and blood. Tell him you should be punished for being a hypocrite of a feminist for even suggesting that you deserve to be raped, even if he decides not to. You don't have to send it, just write it.

*note on this, he just this week confessed to me how much he actually wants to use my ass but how after 6 years of me being a respectable woman dating he though he could never do to me. He wants to strech me out with toys he watches me but for myself in order to prepare my virgin little hole for his big cock. What kind of time schedule should we make? How many plugs should we buy? Should I do anything for sir at the sex store when we buy them? How long should it take to cycle through the butt plugs he's going to make me wear? How long should I wear them for? So many questions a slut like me just don't know the answer to!

Whenever you are not at school/work, and i'll be nice and add family events, you must use "like", "um", "you know", "uhh", or "sorry" in every sentence. Every. Single. One. This will help you learn that you are decorative, and your "smarts" only matter how useful you are to your owner.

This is a thing I'm trying to work on as I often use words that he doesn't know and it makes him nervous. This would make him feel more like men should. If I ever expected not to die alone I don't know why I read so much in the first place

[JustAGuy192105]

Reading is a good point. If you truly want to become a bimbo, that must be limited and perhaps even eliminated. You're no longer allowed to read novels or anything else of the sort. You may only read things like cookbooks which are befitting for a woman or erotic literature with submissive females

[Bebe_Gurl]

Originally Posted by JustAGuy192105

You haven't had much help with your ass, it appears. Because your boyfriend doesn't enjoy fucking you there, having it tight is useless. Instead, focus on stretching it out. Each night from now on, wear the dildo in your ass. If you forget a night, the next night you must wear it and the morning following that you must clean it with your mouth.

Furthermore, whenever you address a man, you must adress him as sir, except your BF who you will call Master.

I agree. He actually does want to fuck my ass. I was just a stupid slut. But the fact is I ripped myself in half last week trying for my boyfriend...


- or, I guess master. My question is, how can I strech myself without ripping myself because now that I know he wants that hole I want to give it to him. Thank you sir for enlightening a stupid slut on how to please a man. I've been so blind.

Also, sir. I am from the south and master loves the odda of making me do that and feeling like a kid again.

[Bebe_Gurl]

Originally Posted by JustAGuy192105

Reading is a good point. If you truly want to become a bimbo, that must be limited and perhaps even eliminated. You're no longer allowed to read novels or anything else of the sort. You may only read things like cookbooks which are befitting for a woman or erotic literature with submissive females

He would probably love this. Shall I stop reading anything I am not ordered to by a man? Or perhaps for every play I write I have to read x amount of something stupid and girly to fill my mind up? I know my intellect makes him uncomfortable. Which is the opposite of what I want. I want to please him.

[JustAGuy192105]

One good way for you to work up sizes in your ass is with markers. Add markers until your ass hurts, and then sleep with them in. Over time, your ass will start to stretch. Make sure to use plenty of lube to prevent tearing, but all of it should come from your pussy or mouth. After all, it's one of the few things your fuckholes are good for

[JustAGuy192105]

Originally Posted by Bebe_Gurl

He would probably love this. Shall I stop reading anything I am not ordered to by a man? Or perhaps for every play I write I have to read x amount of something stupid and girly to fill my mind up? I know my intellect makes him uncomfortable. Which is the opposite of what I want. I want to plawease him.

That's a good idea. Any time you read anything that isn't one of the categories I mentioned, have your bf give permission. It's important that he controls your life, even when it comes to things such as your school

[neutrois]

honestly, I love your kinky enthusiasm but it seems like this is becoming self destructive... You should not do this 24/7 until you understand how it makes you feel. I don't think you should let your boyfriend's insecurities drive your sexual self esteem...or your vocabulary. gross.

[nicelyvillainous]

Yeah, I'm going to weigh in on Neutrois' side as well. There are many doms out there who appreciate bright, independent, occasionally bratty subs. You shouldn't be looking for ways to lessen yourself to make him feel better, you should be reminding him of all the reasons you love and depend on him and worship him.
A "man" should make a sub crave being his bitch, but make her feel safe and treasured to be his woman as well.
The vocabulary rule I agree is extreme to be permanent, but I suggested it for you because you explicitly wanted something that would make you feel dumb and humiliated, and have mentioned that you tend to throw being smarter in his face. It was, as a suggestion, intended more as a corrective measure to make you more aware of your speech choices in relaxed social environments (and again, I explicitly excluded work and family, because you should speak in a well educated manner there). I also share a weakness for using wonkspeech and jargon in environments where it isn't called for, but I try to adjust my speech to the comfort level of those around me and don't really have ego tied into being smarter than most of the people I interact with, because I know that 99% of them excel in other areas I am weak in. I expected that to rule to expire in a few weeks, and honestly be an excuse to "punish" you for a good bit before that.
But yeah, don't be afraid to use college level words, I'm sure he's smarter than a box of rocks if you are dating him (interestingly an interest in kink is highly linked to intelligence), and has just been learning other things than vocabulary. He shouldn't be embarrassed (and you shouldn't act like it's wrong) to not know what, say, ameliorate means, any more than you would to not know who won the 2005 World Series or Stanley cup, how many mm thick you brake pads should be before being replaced, or how to wire a light fixture into an outlet safely and to code (none of which are thing I know either).
If you want something more as a challenge and less of a bimbofocation rule, I would suggest having him give you a letter you are not allowed to use in your speech for the day (again, except for work/family/friends who aren't aware/ok with your kinks)

For anal, basically remember that you are stretching a muscle (2 really), and don't expect to do it in a week, any more than you expect to be able to do a flip in the air and land in a split after a week. If there's blood, take two weeks + to let it heal.
There are two sphincters, the outer one you control, the inner one is subconscious. So gently toying it with a thin plug/toy to tire it out for 20/30 minutes before switching to a slightly bigger size is a good plan. Also, general practice getting your asshole played with and stimulated will help you relax it.
Trying to stretch a tense muscle doesn't work. Picture trying to force someone to do the splits by pressing on their shoulders: you have to fight it's strength to get it to where it is open enough to be stretched, and generally you either don't get to the target zone, or you get there, the muscle loses strength, you stretch it too far at once and it tears. You want to do it a little at a time, get it to relax, and then push it enough that it is a little uncomfortable but NOT hurting. As a bonus, with something blunt tipped (which most anal toys will be because pointy things inside your ass are bad) if you push hard you bruise the tender skin around the sphincter (which will be painful and cause aching when you use it for the next week or two, but not dangerous like broken skin in that area is. Bruises are the "goal" of rough/painful anal, when you roughly fuck a girl without gently and slowly getting her warmed up first. But again, you only do this once she has been stretching long enough that she's in no danger of tearing. Like how a lot of dancers/gymnasts can do splits if they do them slowly, but some are stretched enough that they can just drop into them with no warmup and have it be uncomfortable stretch and not painful)
Take a look at the toilet the next time you take a dump. The size of your poop is how much your asshole can ALREADY stretch IF you can relax and not clench up.

Again, there are two main solutions to good anal.
1.) spend an hour or two using each size of toy for 15-20 minutes slowly and gently with lots of lube, slowly getting the muscles too tired to resist. This is part of the point of having a girl wear a butt plug, her anal muscles are generally a little tired from holding it in and it shifting as she walks and sits. It starts out as an uncomfortable stretch, but then the muscles relax around it. If this is done slightly quickly/roughly but still with care, this can still result in an unpleasant/painful experience with no real risk of harm, if the goal is to make the sub feel like she is/was being used/raped roughly and brutally. Be careful with negotiation/aftercare with this.
2.) regularly play with your subs asshole so she doesn't tense up when something touches it. Massage it or rim it for a bit before putting a finger in, then work up to two or three fingers to get it to relax and not try to tense when something bigger is slowly pushed in. This can be faster, 10-15 minutes, but requires a strong relationship of trust with your sub, not just that you won't get carried away and do damage, but also that you know what you are doing and they can relax. To help build that it often helps to have a few sessions of making her cum with a plug in, rubbing her clit while fingering her ass, etc. so she gets used to the idea that if she relaxes it doesn't hurt and she can enjoy it.

Some girls Really like anal, most girls cum harder with something for their ass to squeeze when they cum because it makes the pelvic floor contractions more intense, whether or not they actually like anal, and some girls dislike/hate anal but find it hot to be used in a way they dislike either because they feel very submissive serving, or they love having it proven to them that their desires don't matter (and often enjoy the idea of anal only as a punishment). And some subby girls just hate anal (usually because of bad experiences, which can be fixed if they want to try with gentleness and care and approaching slowly, but sometimes they just don't like it) and never want to do it, and THAT'S OK. Your fetish does not have to be my fetish. A major benefit of the openness of the BDSM community is that it is nonjudgmental, and it's ok if you don't want to do EVERY single fetish your dom likes. So you can still be a good girl by offering to kneel and service him while he watches porn with that theme, or it may be a desire of his but something he can easily live without because no one is perfect and you are wonderful in other ways. Or even if your dom decided he needs that and you decide you can't provide it, you can always find another sub to play with and tag them in.
Also, Even rough anal should be done carefully, with plenty of lube, and should at worst be as painful/leave your asshole as sore as a solid handspanking. There should not be tearing/bleeding, and if noticed you should stop and let it rest or risk major damage/infection from fissures. RACK applies though, so YMMV.

Oh and also sharpies are common teenage anal toys because they can't get better and the y are roughly the right shape, available, and fairly smooth. But things that slip in instead of come out can turn sideways and get stuck and cause a blockage. So anal toys should always have either a base too big to slip in and get lost or a firm grip on them at all times.
You would be safer with something like a frozen banana, extra firm gelatin, or cucumber spears because most edible organic matter will slowly breakdown and get soft and bendy and be able to get pushed out. Still risky though, do not suggest (except gelatin which does break down super quick, and can be cast in shapes, and is already nice and slippery)
Oh also, rubbery/squishy toys will be more comfortable, because if your ass does squeeze them they have a little give. Like catching a thrown baseball or an apple will make your hand hurt, but an orange wont because it has a little give. The downside is a lot of squishy sectors are made to the cheapest specs, so the slowly dissolve into mildly toxic sludge. Silicone is pretty good, although lots of manufacturers lie about what actually is silicone, tons of independent tester blogs online. Another popular option is finding dog toys in the right size, because those are regulated by FDA and nontoxic rubber. Downside is rubber is generally non-shareable because it's porous. However, the high end KONG solid rubber toys are top rack dishwasher safe, which is a pretty good cleaning method @ heat to kill germs.
So again, YMMV.

Final thought. Having dated a girl who wanted to change herself to please me, it was a little. It frustrating to be ignored when I said "there are some habits I may want you to learn or lose, but your personality is the girl I fell in love with, I like it, stop trying to change in ways that you think I would like, it's warping and hurting the girl I love trying to fit inside the gift box you're trying to make for me.
Also, personally part of the attraction bimbofocation occasionally holds for me is forcing a girl who is comfortable in yoga pants to wear a slutty dress and be uncomfortable to please me. If I always do it it becomes normal and stops being uncomfortable and humiliating. I can also enjoy, for lack of a better word, tomboyifocation. E.g. One twisted way of making your girl feel submissive as humiliated that I've heard of and considered trying is to tell them that they may ONLY shave when you give them permission. Enjoy their humiliation and begging for mercy when you suggest taking them dancing in a miniskirt with stubbly pits and Sasquatch legs.

[JustAGuy192105]

They're probably right about a lot of what they said. If I got a little carried away, I'm sorry. I'm new, so I wasn't sure if this sort of stuff was just normal here, but that isn't an excuse for being to extreme. At the same time, you should so what you want. Make sure you don't go too extreme, but if you enjoy humiliation in this way, go for it. My advice would be to keep 2 seperate spheres of behavior; your bimbo and your real-life self. Use whichever one is appropriate for the situation, but don't let the bimbo become overpowering

[nicelyvillainous]

Oh, and for plug sizes, generally a finger is the smallest size, at abt .5-.75 in in diameter. Go up by about .25-.5 inches in each size, most toys are tapered, so to put them I get in a position where your ass is spread and slowly fuck them in with plenty of lube, gently push them in until there's too much resistance, pull them out halfway then in again, don't push so hard there is pain, stop at gasps or whimpers of mild discomfort, each time you do this the sphincter will get tired out, so it will slowly start going deeper and deeper. There's often a tiny spike of pain when it the sphincter stretches over the bulb and "snaps" shut, pulling the plug into you to quick and stretching the inner sphincter. Butt plugs are the shape they are so your outer sphincter holds it in place to gently stretch the inner one.
Let it sit until your body gets used to it, then you can start stretching by slowly pulling it in and out to stretch you around the thickest part. Once that stops feeling uncomfortable you can move to the next size. Butt plugs also work if you just wear them for 30 mins -1hr before moving to the next size. It is entirely possible to need several stretching sessions to successfully stretch to move up to the next size, because stretching makes you sore you you stop with pain.
The most common size of cockring is 1.5" diameter, I have a very big cock and wear a 1.75", porn cocks get up to 2 or 2.25" but 95% of those are dildos shot so they look real.
See what size he fits, you can pick up rubber washer prints at the hardware store pretty cheap. Have safety scissors to be able to cut them off if he swells and can't get out using ice.

If he has a 1.5" cock, it is up to you whether you want to get a 1.5" or 1.75" plug so he can slide in easily excel when you squeeze down on him, or to stop at a 1.25" or 1.4" diameter size so he is the "next size up" and an uncomfortable stretch which means he'll have to go slow.
Position also matters, you want your knees near your chest and together for the most space available it'll line everything up etc. so it can be on your back in a piledriver position, in a crouched doggy style on the bed, or, probably the best because it gives you most control on speed at first, a seated reverse cowgirl, where he's sitting declined at the edge of a chair/bed with his legs spread and you with a hand on each knee and slowly sitting on it. There is no obligation to go all the way down, and I would suggest you talk to him, because he will be happy to be making progress and not demand that you finish him off with that hole on your first few tries. On your back with on the bed with him standing and your feet on his chest also will help because feeling like you can get him to slow down/back off if you need to safeword will help you relax more so you DON'T need to.

In fact I think I'm going to assign you two a task to do once you are healed and haven't gotten any red stripes while wiping for at least a week. Get on your shoulders with your ass in the air in front of the couch, with your back against it. Have him sit on the couch and play with your ass, with his feet on the ground just above your shoulders so it helps you not slide down. I would suggest that he tell you he's decided not to use more than one finger before he starts, to help you relax, but that is up to him. He should make sure to trim, file smooth, and scrub clean at least that finger (probably the middle finger on his dominant hand), or you can provide service by doing it for him. He should put on tv that he enjoys, and enjoy gently spanking and kissing his girls ass, and absentmindedly rubbing his new hole to play with in circles, pressing his finger against it and tapping on it, rubbing lube into it, slowly pushing lube inside it to the first knuckle over and over, then slowly sinking his finger in and claiming it, and gently pumping it in. He doesn't have to fuck your hole for you to submit it for his pleasure. He may have you play with your clit while he does this, with or without permission to cum, or he may have you kiss and worship his feet, or he may have you wear earplugs and close your eyes and focus on the sensation while he watches his show. Make sure to tell him when you start getting stiff or sore, so he can decide when to stop with all information, and depending on your relationship, clean the mess you made in his finger (likely just lube), either by getting a warm soapy cloth to wipe it clean and sucking him dry, or right away with your mouth.

Seriously though, have a conversation about what he wants from you. I think that he probably just needs to know that you don't look down on him for knowing different things than what you learned in college, and that you have plenty of reasons to respect him even if he isn't eloquent. And I read between the lines that you may have some ego tied into being "smarter" and throwing it in his face on occasion, but the point to address there is arrogance and discourtesy at flaunting vocabulary you don't expect your audience to know. But rules should be designed to remind you to be considerate instead of condescending, not to punish you for being "uppity", if that makes sense. And I suspect he will agree if you discuss it and he isn't adressing the issue while frustrated with you. Of course, I could totally be projecting my baggage history with the reading between the lines.

If you are still a fan of the "Sir" rule, I would suggest going even more old school and childlike, and having you address all other men as Mister, while keeping Sir reserved for your master.

[Sacurason]

Yeah after reading the thread I do hope you're doing this just because it turns you on, and not for any actual self-destructive reasons. Please take things slowly to start with, and above all else have fun. It's okay to have intense experiences, but if you ever legitimately stop enjoying yourself, something ain't right.

In that sort of vein, you could maybe have a day or two a week where you are totally subservient to him for the entire 24 hours? Permanent control is a bit extreme to me, but to be a total slave for a day or so every week is pretty good fun.

[nicelyvillainous]

Don't feel bad justaguy, we've all (doms, probably subs too) been there. It's hard to tell when a sub is asking serious questions/tasks and when they are only on her for wank fodder. I usually read through a fair number of their old posts to find where their comfort level is and how far to push it.
I have seen the marker trick done before, and it's fine if done correctly with Most of the market staying out, but mostly it's used for pussy stretching where there isn't the same danger of things getting lost. And a single one, or two or three, where the sub would be holding them firmly is fairly safe. But once you get into large numbers, especially foundg it to yourself @ viewing angle, the risk of pushing one deeper by trying to fit another next to it becomes a little bit noticable, and you start to want to pay attention and warn or look for safer options. I used to be a proponent of stuffing with water balloons/water filled condoms, because water is flexible (mostly pussy), until someone pointed out that when one pops it's like snapping a rubber band and the tip could possiblyy slice something, and even if it doesn't instead of an easy to push out balloon you have rubber scraps which can wedge/auction themselves somewhere and become a bacterial harbor for toxic shock syndrome.
But make an effort to remember that they are also real people and think about the advice you are giving, and don't feel too bad about honest mistakes. It is not entirely your responsibility to give good instructions, subs should critically examine the quality of the dom they are talking to. Caveat emptor, and free advice is worth what you pay for it.

[Bebe_Gurl]

I didn't want social advice I just wanted dares. I got scared away because I didn't feel encouraged

[Bebe_Gurl]

Honestly, I got kind of scared away by a couple of posts at the end. I was getting excited about the idea and being "forced" so to speak to change was ultimately turning me on. Although, I got spooked when I felt people were negatively responding to me. I want to review this thread for rules I can apply to my life. I will then list those and then a following report. I need these kinds of rules, it is right for me and I know this now. I am sorry I was such a frightened little bitch about all this. But I'm just a scared little girl and I need to be told what to do. Accept morally. Please don't do that, I'm really just here for the sex. I won't drop off if no one tells me to turn back. Now I would like to focus more on becoming the slut I deep down know I am inside.

[Bebe_Gurl]

Here are the rules I will implement into my every day life:
- You get to use toilet only 5 times in a day. You can't use toilet for more than 30 seconds at one go. It means you have to hold your pee until you really have to go and then go for 30 seconds, if you are not done in 30 seconds then hold it for the next time. You can use toilet for 4 minutes once in 3 days to shit. If not complete in 4 minutes, then hold for another 3 days.
-Beg him to let you serve him orally and anally DAILY
(And I will beg him daily no matter what’s going on)
Dress more provocative daily push your own boundaries with showing a little more skin daily
You haven't had much help with your ass, it appears. Because your boyfriend doesn't enjoy fucking you there, having it tight is useless. Instead, focus on stretching it out. Each night from now on, wear the dildo in your ass. If you forget a night, the next night you must wear it and the morning following that you must clean it with your mouth.
+ I would like to do this but my ass is so tight I don think i can fit a dildo up there. Is there something smaller I can shove up there to remind me I’m a whore while I sleep?
Furthermore, whenever you address a man, you must adress him as sir, except your BF who you will call Master. — He has amended this and wants me to call him Daddy
Whenever you are not at school/work, and i'll be nice and add family events, you must use "like", "um", "you know", "uhh", or "sorry" in every sentence. Every. Single. One. This will help you learn that you are decorative, and your "smarts" only matter how useful you are to your owner.
I love this rule. As long as it’s away from my everyday, I deserve to feel inferior. It’s fun. More things like this please. I can’t tell you how horny I’ve felt feeling stupider than the street vendor I’m ordering a pretzel from.
Feel free to punish me for running away.