What if you're married?

BackBaby · 10-13-2018, 04:39 PM

So I was on this site years ago, had a dare master, had a lot of fun. Then he disappeared and life went on. I popped back on tonight because of some wine and conversation with a friend that brought up old memories.

Has anyone ever had an online dare slave/master stuff while you were married? Or brought it up with your spouse? How did they handle it?

MercilessDomme · 10-13-2018, 06:40 PM

I solve the problem by
1) Not telling him
2) Only 'playing' with girls.

BackBaby · 10-13-2018, 06:49 PM

haha, that's one way to go about it! Although then he'd be mad that I didn't tell him for entirely different reasons

Masterwants · 10-13-2018, 06:52 PM

I think the answer is to not get caught

Happy Me · 10-14-2018, 07:33 PM

When I was married and on here (different user name, way long time ago) I just showed it to my ex wife and we enjoyed it together.

I have known of people who were on here, and unknowingly playing with a married person, and that eventually caused a lot of hurt for all of the people involved.

I have also known quite a few people on here who are married and honest about it with their spouses and it seems to be working out well for them.

Honestly, it is still cheating if you don't talk openly with them about it, no matter the genders involved, or whether or not you ever actually physically touch someone, and any time there is cheating, people are gonna get hurt. I am of the strong opinion that if you are going to cheat on someone, you should probably try to fix things with them first, or break up with them first. It is not a nice thing to do to people, especially if you did not try to communicate your needs to them first.

10-13-2018, 04:39 PM	#1
BackBaby Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2018 Posts: 5	What if you're married? So I was on this site years ago, had a dare master, had a lot of fun. Then he disappeared and life went on. I popped back on tonight because of some wine and conversation with a friend that brought up old memories. Has anyone ever had an online dare slave/master stuff while you were married? Or brought it up with your spouse? How did they handle it?

10-13-2018, 06:40 PM	#2
MercilessDomme Senior Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 111 Blog Entries: 1	I am married I solve the problem by 1) Not telling him 2) Only 'playing' with girls. __________________ I'm not really merciless!. It's just a playname. If I do not reply to your message, it is because I do not consider it to be worthy of a response.

10-14-2018, 07:33 PM	#5
Happy Me Moderator Join Date: Oct 2012 Location: U.S.A. Posts: 2,092 Blog Entries: 15	When I was married and on here (different user name, way long time ago) I just showed it to my ex wife and we enjoyed it together. I have known of people who were on here, and unknowingly playing with a married person, and that eventually caused a lot of hurt for all of the people involved. I have also known quite a few people on here who are married and honest about it with their spouses and it seems to be working out well for them. Honestly, it is still cheating if you don't talk openly with them about it, no matter the genders involved, or whether or not you ever actually physically touch someone, and any time there is cheating, people are gonna get hurt. I am of the strong opinion that if you are going to cheat on someone, you should probably try to fix things with them first, or break up with them first. It is not a nice thing to do to people, especially if you did not try to communicate your needs to them first. __________________ What a beautiful thought it is that some of the best days of our lives haven't happened yet. I’m sick, please be nice.

10-13-2018, 06:49 PM	#3
BackBaby Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2018 Posts: 5	haha, that's one way to go about it! Although then he'd be mad that I didn't tell him for entirely different reasons

10-13-2018, 06:52 PM	#4
Masterwants Distinguished Member Join Date: Aug 2013 Location: UK Posts: 625 Blog Entries: 11	I think the answer is to not get caught