How to treat blue balls (aka Kavaliersschmerzen)?

Manarus · 05-14-2021, 02:43 PM

Hi there! I am seeking advice regarding a really troublesome question I carry around for years without finding a proper solution:

How can I actually treat blue balls (in Germany we call that also "Kavaliersschmerzen") WITHOUT cumming?

For those who are unfamiliar with blue balls, I describe it first (then you also will understand why the Germans call it this way):
When you are in the presence of a sexually attractive girl, and there is some sexual activity going on, like heavy cuddling or similar, but it doesn't lead to sex or petting with an orgasm at the end, at some point your balls really start to hurt (mostly after the girl left). For me this pain is really heavy and unbearable. If I don't do anything against it, I am not able to do anything other than lying on the couch and suffering. So what I do instead is: I go to some private location and masturbate until I cum. Sometimes it isn't so easy to cum with this pain in the balls, and the orgasm really isn't joyful. But I feel the great relief after the orgasm, and within minutes the pain in the balls goes completely away.

Now I hear you asking: You've found a solution to the problem, why would you like to have another one? Well, the problem is: What should I do when I am in an orgasm denial period, but I spend a nice evening with my girlfriend / my Dom / a playpartner, etc..., and I experience this pain? (I even experienced blue balls when I am alone and playing / chatting on getDare, however these situations are quite rare. Mostly another person is involved when I have blue balls.) The pain is really bad and goes against one of my limits: Affecting my real life too much (the pain won't fade away for hours, and in these hours I cannot do anything really). So what I do is I orgasm, but since I am in a denial period, I feel really really bad and weak, and I don't want to violate against the denial like this.

So I wonder, am I the only one who is affected so badly by blue balls, or did you already experience something similar? And is there another way of treating the pain quickly (in a matter of a couple of minutes) without cumming?

I am very thankful for any kind of advice

FrostbittenSoul · 05-14-2021, 02:49 PM

Some times a cold shower helps me ... but not always ... depends on how bad it is ...

Manarus · 05-14-2021, 02:51 PM

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Originally Posted by FrostbittenSoul

Some times a cold shower helps me ... but not always ... depends on how bad it is ...

Wow, that was a quick answer

Thank you! I'll definitely try that next time.
Cold shower especially focusing on your dick and balls, or a cold full body shower in general?

FrostbittenSoul · 05-14-2021, 02:54 PM

Just a cold shower in general helps me ... but if you want to focus on your cock and balls ... go got it ... find out what works best for you my friend ...

knocturnal01 · 05-15-2021, 06:44 AM

I try to massage them whenever it happens to me. One in each hand and with gentle pressure rub them with your thumbs. It's supposed to increase your circulation, blue balls is caused by pressure from what I understand. Alternatively, I have used an ice pack and that helps, but is someehat unpleasant.

Manarus · 05-17-2021, 09:53 AM

Thank you! That is already a good starting point. I will experiment with your suggestions

05-14-2021, 02:43 PM	#1
Manarus Distinguished Member Join Date: May 2017 Location: Bavaria (Germany) Posts: 695 Blog Entries: 38	How to treat blue balls (aka Kavaliersschmerzen)? Hi there! I am seeking advice regarding a really troublesome question I carry around for years without finding a proper solution: How can I actually treat blue balls (in Germany we call that also "Kavaliersschmerzen") WITHOUT cumming? For those who are unfamiliar with blue balls, I describe it first (then you also will understand why the Germans call it this way): When you are in the presence of a sexually attractive girl, and there is some sexual activity going on, like heavy cuddling or similar, but it doesn't lead to sex or petting with an orgasm at the end, at some point your balls really start to hurt (mostly after the girl left). For me this pain is really heavy and unbearable. If I don't do anything against it, I am not able to do anything other than lying on the couch and suffering. So what I do instead is: I go to some private location and masturbate until I cum. Sometimes it isn't so easy to cum with this pain in the balls, and the orgasm really isn't joyful. But I feel the great relief after the orgasm, and within minutes the pain in the balls goes completely away. Now I hear you asking: You've found a solution to the problem, why would you like to have another one? Well, the problem is: What should I do when I am in an orgasm denial period, but I spend a nice evening with my girlfriend / my Dom / a playpartner, etc..., and I experience this pain? (I even experienced blue balls when I am alone and playing / chatting on getDare, however these situations are quite rare. Mostly another person is involved when I have blue balls.) The pain is really bad and goes against one of my limits: Affecting my real life too much (the pain won't fade away for hours, and in these hours I cannot do anything really). So what I do is I orgasm, but since I am in a denial period, I feel really really bad and weak, and I don't want to violate against the denial like this. So I wonder, am I the only one who is affected so badly by blue balls, or did you already experience something similar? And is there another way of treating the pain quickly (in a matter of a couple of minutes) without cumming? I am very thankful for any kind of advice __________________ Likes: Bondage, Spanking, mild Pain, Pee, Anal, Outdoor, Wax/Ice, Positions, Pet, Hidden Be careful: Long Term, Denial/forced Orgasm, Cum Eating, Poo, Heavy Pain, Rules, Bladder Control Limits: Permanent, Blood, Non-Consensual, Public, Shaving, Sissification, Time Wasting Toys: Ropes, Whips, Clothpins, Plugs, ... See my full Likes, Dislikes, Limits & my Toys Current Rules and TODOs PM Dares!

05-15-2021, 06:44 AM	#5
knocturnal01 Senior Member Join Date: May 2015 Location: USA Posts: 147 Blog Entries: 5	I try to massage them whenever it happens to me. One in each hand and with gentle pressure rub them with your thumbs. It's supposed to increase your circulation, blue balls is caused by pressure from what I understand. Alternatively, I have used an ice pack and that helps, but is someehat unpleasant. __________________ ☆𝓚𝓝𝓸𝓬𝓽𝓾𝓻𝓷𝓪𝓵𝟎𝟏☆ ☆𝐌/𝐁𝐢/𝐒𝐮𝐛☆ ☆𝐋𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐬, 𝐃𝐢𝐬𝐥𝐢𝐤𝐞𝐬, 𝐋𝐢𝐦𝐢𝐭𝐬, 𝐓𝐨𝐲𝐬☆ http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=79502 ☆𝐌𝐲 𝐏𝐌 𝐝𝐚𝐫𝐞𝐬:☆ http://www.getdare.com/bbs/blog.php?b=80399 ☆𝐂𝐮𝐫𝐫𝐞𝐧𝐭𝐥𝐲 𝐢𝐧 𝐜𝐡𝐚𝐬𝐭𝐢𝐭𝐲!☆

05-17-2021, 09:53 AM	#6
Manarus Distinguished Member Join Date: May 2017 Location: Bavaria (Germany) Posts: 695 Blog Entries: 38	Thank you! That is already a good starting point. I will experiment with your suggestions __________________ Likes: Bondage, Spanking, mild Pain, Pee, Anal, Outdoor, Wax/Ice, Positions, Pet, Hidden Be careful: Long Term, Denial/forced Orgasm, Cum Eating, Poo, Heavy Pain, Rules, Bladder Control Limits: Permanent, Blood, Non-Consensual, Public, Shaving, Sissification, Time Wasting Toys: Ropes, Whips, Clothpins, Plugs, ... See my full Likes, Dislikes, Limits & my Toys Current Rules and TODOs PM Dares!

05-14-2021, 02:49 PM	#2
FrostbittenSoul Dungeon Master Join Date: Jul 2020 Location: Canada Posts: 973	Some times a cold shower helps me ... but not always ... depends on how bad it is ...

05-14-2021, 02:54 PM	#4
FrostbittenSoul Dungeon Master Join Date: Jul 2020 Location: Canada Posts: 973	Just a cold shower in general helps me ... but if you want to focus on your cock and balls ... go got it ... find out what works best for you my friend ...