Question for Ladies

LordCaspen · 10-31-2009, 09:16 PM

Ladies,

For the longest time conventional wisdom has posited that all men, and especially straight men, get a lot of pleasure from watching lesbian sex, even where getting personally involved is a complete non-starter, as in porn.

Conventional wisdom has typically gone on to say that the reverse is hardly ever true -- men engaged in buttsecks or even kissing has tended to be a complete turnoff to women.

At this moment, I'm calling the assumption total bullshit. Something about horny good-looking guys getting busy, no matter that it's their doing it with each other, is a pretty powerful turnon, at least for straight women.

Am I wrong? And if so, how far wrong am I? Is it a thing where you, as a woman, would never watch it live, but could find porn kind of a turnon? Is kissing and fondling okay, but oral or penetration are icky? Or is it pretty much all a go ... ?

Comeintotheparlor · 10-31-2009, 09:26 PM

the reverse is not true for me...

LordCaspen · 10-31-2009, 11:13 PM

Comeintotheparlor,

Could you elaborate a little on that? What exposure have you had? What is the nature of your non-attraction? Is it moral revulsion, it's evil? Do you think gays are not sexually attractive? I imagine that I've missed the mark, but it's hard to speculate.

What can you tell me?

Comeintotheparlor · 11-01-2009, 12:48 AM

Opps, I meant it is true lol.

I'm pansexual, so it's hardly my place find any orientation weird. I think it's sorta ... well I dunno. If i had to put it down to something i suppose it would be because it's to do with the unobtainable. you know, how people want what they can't have. But, saying that, I do think there is more to why I like it.The people who don't like it, don't like it because they are conditioned to not like it. Sure, people aren't as homophobic as before, but alot of people grew up being told it was wrong. so they might consciously be okay with it, but subconsciously, they are still at odds with it.

Nature also comes into play. Men naturally lean toward polygamy and females toward monogamy. if you look into the history of polygamy, 9 times out of ten, there will be one man, and multiple women. So, lesbian's fulfil this desire in men. And the opposite is true. Women were used to being with one man, and thus the idea of two men is not inviting.

This is also my theory about why lesbians are generally more accepted then gays. But take my opinion with a grain of salt, because I'm only 17 and this is just bit's and pieces I've read or heard about linked up in some semi conclusive way. This doesn't take into account why straight men find gay men threatening. I have no idea for that.

cat · 11-01-2009, 01:09 AM

I find it very hot if I consider the guys good looking (I guess guys are the same about lesbians).

I would watch live if someone would give me the opportunity (

) and have watched gay porn videos a few times.

Penetration I'm ok with, but I prefer to watch any and all of the other stuff.

I think this became a turn on for me after watching a film called 'Maurice' and of course from 'Queer as Folk' too.

xtacygirl · 11-02-2009, 12:24 PM

Yes. I've seen gay porn and enjoyed it. If it was two strait men doing it, I would like it even better.

LordCaspen · 11-02-2009, 03:15 PM

Xtacygirl,

I share your sentiments about its being hotter with straight guys. I suspect it's related to the extra level of tension; the stakes are higher, with nearly-equal and opposing deep-seated sensibilities aroil. On the one hand, fierce and wanton lust for pleasure, and on the other, a slightly neurotic conviction that doing it with another guy makes him weak and shameful.

Do you agree?

BettyBoop · 11-03-2009, 12:52 AM

I don't find it a turn on, not in the slightest. Not sure why. I just don't.

LordCaspen · 11-03-2009, 05:14 AM

BettyBoop,

What experience have you had with it?

BettyBoop · 11-03-2009, 10:29 AM

My friend finds it funny to play random things on her laptop when we're at her house. Meh.
And I just don't really like porn. But especially that.

jess_i_kka · 11-03-2009, 10:55 AM

Not a fan of porn at all. Maybe its just me.

Adorable · 11-14-2009, 04:32 PM

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Originally Posted by LordCaspen

Ladies,

For the longest time conventional wisdom has posited that all men, and especially straight men, get a lot of pleasure from watching lesbian sex, even where getting personally involved is a complete non-starter, as in porn.

Conventional wisdom has typically gone on to say that the reverse is hardly ever true -- men engaged in buttsecks or even kissing has tended to be a complete turnoff to women.

At this moment, I'm calling the assumption total bullshit. Something about horny good-looking guys getting busy, no matter that it's their doing it with each other, is a pretty powerful turnon, at least for straight women.

Am I wrong? And if so, how far wrong am I? Is it a thing where you, as a woman, would never watch it live, but could find porn kind of a turnon? Is kissing and fondling okay, but oral or penetration are icky? Or is it pretty much all a go ... ?

I like it all

, Gay men are a turn on to me. Alot of girls i know like it too the just dont say it is... Acctualy me and a freind practicly announced to the whole class gay boys kissing was sooo cute back when i was in 7th grade years ago :P

Sara Nadine · 11-14-2009, 05:23 PM

Meh. It's just not my cup of tea.

10-31-2009, 09:16 PM	#1
LordCaspen getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 261	Question for Ladies Ladies, For the longest time conventional wisdom has posited that all men, and especially straight men, get a lot of pleasure from watching lesbian sex, even where getting personally involved is a complete non-starter, as in porn. Conventional wisdom has typically gone on to say that the reverse is hardly ever true -- men engaged in buttsecks or even kissing has tended to be a complete turnoff to women. At this moment, I'm calling the assumption total bullshit. Something about horny good-looking guys getting busy, no matter that it's their doing it with each other, is a pretty powerful turnon, at least for straight women. Am I wrong? And if so, how far wrong am I? Is it a thing where you, as a woman, would never watch it live, but could find porn kind of a turnon? Is kissing and fondling okay, but oral or penetration are icky? Or is it pretty much all a go ... ?

10-31-2009, 09:26 PM	#2
Comeintotheparlor getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 380 Blog Entries: 5	the reverse is not true for me... __________________ Spoiler: Likes ice, control (or lack there of) pain, anal, pee Dislikes: long dares wedgies limits: very public( including family & freinds), messy, scat,

10-31-2009, 11:13 PM	#3
LordCaspen getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 261	Okay Comeintotheparlor, Could you elaborate a little on that? What exposure have you had? What is the nature of your non-attraction? Is it moral revulsion, it's evil? Do you think gays are not sexually attractive? I imagine that I've missed the mark, but it's hard to speculate. What can you tell me?

11-01-2009, 12:48 AM	#4
Comeintotheparlor getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Australia Posts: 380 Blog Entries: 5	Opps, I meant it is true lol. I'm pansexual, so it's hardly my place find any orientation weird. I think it's sorta ... well I dunno. If i had to put it down to something i suppose it would be because it's to do with the unobtainable. you know, how people want what they can't have. But, saying that, I do think there is more to why I like it.The people who don't like it, don't like it because they are conditioned to not like it. Sure, people aren't as homophobic as before, but alot of people grew up being told it was wrong. so they might consciously be okay with it, but subconsciously, they are still at odds with it. Nature also comes into play. Men naturally lean toward polygamy and females toward monogamy. if you look into the history of polygamy, 9 times out of ten, there will be one man, and multiple women. So, lesbian's fulfil this desire in men. And the opposite is true. Women were used to being with one man, and thus the idea of two men is not inviting. This is also my theory about why lesbians are generally more accepted then gays. But take my opinion with a grain of salt, because I'm only 17 and this is just bit's and pieces I've read or heard about linked up in some semi conclusive way. This doesn't take into account why straight men find gay men threatening. I have no idea for that. __________________ Spoiler: Likes ice, control (or lack there of) pain, anal, pee Dislikes: long dares wedgies limits: very public( including family & freinds), messy, scat, Last edited by Comeintotheparlor; 11-01-2009 at 12:53 AM.

11-01-2009, 01:09 AM	#5
cat Junior Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: South, UK Posts: 20 Blog Entries: 1	I find it very hot if I consider the guys good looking (I guess guys are the same about lesbians). I would watch live if someone would give me the opportunity () and have watched gay porn videos a few times. Penetration I'm ok with, but I prefer to watch any and all of the other stuff. I think this became a turn on for me after watching a film called 'Maurice' and of course from 'Queer as Folk' too.

11-02-2009, 12:24 PM	#6
xtacygirl Member Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Oregon Posts: 99	Yes. I've seen gay porn and enjoyed it. If it was two strait men doing it, I would like it even better. __________________ Likes: outside, semipublic, flashing, slightly embarrassing, risky dares, watersports, and beastiality. Limits: poop, pain, and permanent PM me dares if you want.

11-02-2009, 03:15 PM	#7
LordCaspen getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 261	Why? Xtacygirl, I share your sentiments about its being hotter with straight guys. I suspect it's related to the extra level of tension; the stakes are higher, with nearly-equal and opposing deep-seated sensibilities aroil. On the one hand, fierce and wanton lust for pleasure, and on the other, a slightly neurotic conviction that doing it with another guy makes him weak and shameful. Do you agree?

11-03-2009, 12:52 AM	#8
BettyBoop Angel of Dare Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: England. Posts: 8,249 Blog Entries: 105	I don't find it a turn on, not in the slightest. Not sure why. I just don't. __________________ ★Boop Boop de Boop.★ female, engurrland. Ask me anything, click. My tumblr. 18+ ▼

11-03-2009, 05:14 AM	#9
LordCaspen getDare Sweetheart Join Date: Aug 2007 Posts: 261	Interesting BettyBoop, What experience have you had with it?

11-03-2009, 10:29 AM	#10
BettyBoop Angel of Dare Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: England. Posts: 8,249 Blog Entries: 105	My friend finds it funny to play random things on her laptop when we're at her house. Meh. And I just don't really like porn. But especially that. __________________ ★Boop Boop de Boop.★ female, engurrland. Ask me anything, click. My tumblr. 18+ ▼ Last edited by BettyBoop; 11-03-2009 at 10:56 AM.

11-03-2009, 10:55 AM	#11
jess_i_kka Account Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Long Island, NY Posts: 494 Blog Entries: 2	Not a fan of porn at all. Maybe its just me.

11-14-2009, 05:23 PM	#13
Sara Nadine Senior Member Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: US Posts: 163	Meh. It's just not my cup of tea. __________________ I'm ALWAYS willing to receive dares. PM me! Likes: Blindfolds, bladder control, icy hot, nipple play, masturbation, bondage, anal, ice, pain. ♥♥♥♥♥ Dislikes: Public, chance of being caught, consuming scat, permanent, needles.