How to treat blue balls (aka Kavaliersschmerzen)?

[Manarus]

Hi there! I am seeking advice regarding a really troublesome question I carry around for years without finding a proper solution:

How can I actually treat blue balls (in Germany we call that also "Kavaliersschmerzen") WITHOUT cumming?

For those who are unfamiliar with blue balls, I describe it first (then you also will understand why the Germans call it this way):
When you are in the presence of a sexually attractive girl, and there is some sexual activity going on, like heavy cuddling or similar, but it doesn't lead to sex or petting with an orgasm at the end, at some point your balls really start to hurt (mostly after the girl left). For me this pain is really heavy and unbearable. If I don't do anything against it, I am not able to do anything other than lying on the couch and suffering. So what I do instead is: I go to some private location and masturbate until I cum. Sometimes it isn't so easy to cum with this pain in the balls, and the orgasm really isn't joyful. But I feel the great relief after the orgasm, and within minutes the pain in the balls goes completely away.

Now I hear you asking: You've found a solution to the problem, why would you like to have another one? Well, the problem is: What should I do when I am in an orgasm denial period, but I spend a nice evening with my girlfriend / my Dom / a playpartner, etc..., and I experience this pain? (I even experienced blue balls when I am alone and playing / chatting on getDare, however these situations are quite rare. Mostly another person is involved when I have blue balls.) The pain is really bad and goes against one of my limits: Affecting my real life too much (the pain won't fade away for hours, and in these hours I cannot do anything really). So what I do is I orgasm, but since I am in a denial period, I feel really really bad and weak, and I don't want to violate against the denial like this.

So I wonder, am I the only one who is affected so badly by blue balls, or did you already experience something similar? And is there another way of treating the pain quickly (in a matter of a couple of minutes) without cumming?

I am very thankful for any kind of advice