02-01-2016, 12:49 AM | #16 | |||
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I acknowledge talk-back may be more of a problem for females, or perhaps any of the "popular members" you mention, but whenever it's happened to me, I've just ignored or blocked them, depending on the site (I've never needed to investigate such functions on this one!) But, by ignoring someone's initial reply, isn't there an equal risk of being pestered? Maybe not; but I'm so old-fashioned that the first couple of times my ad replies met with silence, I wrote again in the genuine belief a breakdown of technology was more likely than one of courtesy. Quote:
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02-01-2016, 04:33 AM | #17 | |
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Well, I'm sure you can appreciate that each sub's situation is unique. It's the same for each Dom's, and so I can't honestly say anything for certain; I don't know about your approach or the kinds of people you contact. In my personal experience (dealing with both people I've contacted and people who've contacted me), I find it extremely common that if someone has found a partner, they will cease contact on the site altogether. This is especially true for responses to ads that have been around for quite some time. Perhaps it's to no fault of the correspondent (maybe an old ad got bumped or whatever) but, and I speak only own experience and no one else's, I rarely, rarely message back someone who has responded to my ad after a certain amount of time of already having found a partner (I mean I've been in a relationship for 8 months since my last ad and am still getting responses). Usually I'll turn down sub-par responses for up to a week. I will turn away people who send earnest and well-thought-out messages for two to three weeks before I run out of steam. And that is just an example. There are many reasons why a person wouldn't respond. For me, work, school, and familial responsibilities alone will result in an unapologetic lack of correspondence. Sometimes, there's just something off about a person and I don't care to speak with them, whether they see something wrong or not. But that's just me. Many others have their reasons, as well. Don't get me wrong; there are so, so many people on this site who simply do not care to extend let-down messages for no other reason than that they are not obligated to. But if you apply that thought to all people, you run the risk of becoming very bitter and others finding you unappealing or entitled (to their response). The simple fact remains that while people could find the time to respond to those they reject, they don't have to. Many have what they feel is a good reason not to. And that's okay. Believing it's anything but okay, accusing people of lack of courtesy, will simply set you up for failure (and is a major downfall for a large number of individuals on this site).
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02-01-2016, 06:21 AM | #18 |
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To avoid prolonging this and sounding tiresomely detailed, I've deleted most of this post and will just say that, while I'm sure your points are absolutely valid for you and many others on this site, I've good reasons to believe they don't apply in my case.
I'll conclude with the ironic observation that your surfeit of responses and my dearth of them invoke Oscar Wilde's famous remark: "There is only one thing in life worse than being talked about, and that is not being talked about." Last edited by Words; 02-01-2016 at 10:35 AM. |
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