PUNISHMENTS for boyfriend - Page 2

Lolascenekid · 04-13-2016, 09:00 AM

Really the car is too far if everyone is telling you it is too far you should stop and listen to them, take some time to sit with your boyfriend and have talk with him to work out things that would be going too far like taking his car through blackmail which is extortion and you could get in a lot of trouble for this. Remember he is your boyfriend not your husband, the car is something a married couple that enjoys this stuff would consider.

number1bitch · 04-13-2016, 09:01 AM

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Originally Posted by Wedgiebondagebabe

He should still have the option to say no with out you black mailing him to do it. He is not bound to you for the rest of his life. What if he decides to break up with you? He loses his car because you made him do something? He should still have some free will in the situation to say no if that's not what he wants. It kind of seems like the I'm going to have a baby with you so you can't break up with me type of thing. If he is okay with you getting his car fine, but he should not be blackmailed into doing so. That is too far.

I mentioned to him when he asked for this that there is a high chance il take it too far and blackmail him badly etc and his reply was "you have permission once this starts to take it as far as you wish and no matter how much i beg you dont have to listen to me"

The way i see it is that if that is too far then he should have said so as gave him plenty chances to

Lolascenekid · 04-13-2016, 09:09 AM

i am aware but he's excited probably thinking nothing like getting forced to sign his car over to you, i don't think there is anything wrong with any of the other suggestions but you should reconsider even doing the car at all or go to him and be like "so what if as a result of all the blackmail i get i want you to sign an expensive belonging of yours over to me, how would you feel about that?" it's better to make sure you're both ok with everything happening than getting in a lot of trouble because you took it too far

Wedgiebondagebabe · 04-13-2016, 09:46 AM

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Originally Posted by number1bitch

I mentioned to him when he asked for this that there is a high chance il take it too far and blackmail him badly etc and his reply was "you have permission once this starts to take it as far as you wish and no matter how much i beg you dont have to listen to me"

The way i see it is that if that is too far then he should have said so as gave him plenty chances to

I don't think anyone could ever imagine it as this far. He should still get his free will especially with an object this expensive. Whether he had the chance, he probably doesn't even know how evil you are being. I'm not the only person telling you this is a horrible idea. This is far to extreme. Their is controlling someone's life and then there is this.

number1bitch · 04-13-2016, 01:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Wedgiebondagebabe

He should still have the option to say no with out you black mailing him to do it. He is not bound to you for the rest of his life. What if he decides to break up with you? He loses his car because you made him do something? He should still have some free will in the situation to say no if that's not what he wants. It kind of seems like the I'm going to have a baby with you so you can't break up with me type of thing. If he is okay with you getting his car fine, but he should not be blackmailed into doing so. That is too far.

Ok ok i am listening, i may pretend about the car just to see his reaction at first and take it from there how about that?

Are there any other issues with the rest of the ideas i had above or are they all good?

Wedgiebondagebabe · 04-13-2016, 01:29 PM

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Originally Posted by number1bitch

Ok ok i am listening, i may pretend about the car just to see his reaction at first and take it from there how about that?

Are there any other issues with the rest of the ideas i had above or are they all good?

Thank you. That is a reasonable way to approach this. As long as you give him an out if he is really really extremely uncomfortable, then it is fine. Maybe having a code word set up for things that are too out of hand, that way you could still hear him beg, but he has a way out if he really needs/wants one. Other than that, there is nothing wrong with blackmail as long as you two trust each other and have a strong relationship.

number1bitch · 04-13-2016, 01:30 PM

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Originally Posted by Lolascenekid

i am aware but he's excited probably thinking nothing like getting forced to sign his car over to you, i don't think there is anything wrong with any of the other suggestions but you should reconsider even doing the car at all or go to him and be like "so what if as a result of all the blackmail i get i want you to sign an expensive belonging of yours over to me, how would you feel about that?" it's better to make sure you're both ok with everything happening than getting in a lot of trouble because you took it too far

That is actually a really good idea and i am going to do that to see his reaction, thank you for that advice

If he does not say that's too far though then i will most likely say "ok just remember that you asked for this" and go ahead with that though

Does that sound ok?
Any other suggestions?

Wedgiebondagebabe · 04-13-2016, 01:32 PM

Also, just as a dominant would not give a submissive something that is in their hard limits, make sure you do not pass into his. Otherwise have fun and make sure everything is consensual.

atownesq · 04-13-2016, 01:33 PM

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Originally Posted by number1bitch

Ok ok i am listening, i may pretend about the car just to see his reaction at first and take it from there how about that?

Are there any other issues with the rest of the ideas i had above or are they all good?

The only other idea that I could see might be a problem would be messing around with another guy/girl in front of him. I don't enough about the dynamics of your relationship, but if he's not at all interested in cuckolding I could see where that could be potentially be problematic. I assume you care for him and don't want to lose him or seriously harm him emotionally.

Not necessarily saying you shouldn't do it, but I think you need to know how it will affect him first.

number1bitch · 04-13-2016, 01:35 PM

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Originally Posted by Wedgiebondagebabe

Thank you. That is a reasonable way to approach this. As long as you give him an out if he is really really extremely uncomfortable, then it is fine. Maybe having a code word set up for things that are too out of hand, that way you could still hear him beg, but he has a way out if he really needs/wants one. Other than that, there is nothing wrong with blackmail as long as you two trust each other and have a strong relationship.

I asked him about a code word before and he said he did not want a way out and that if he didn't like something then that's tough, rather him than me

Do you have any suggestions of other things i can do?

Wedgiebondagebabe · 04-13-2016, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by number1bitch

I asked him about a code word before and he said he did not want a way out and that if he didn't like something then that's tough, rather him than me

Do you have any suggestions of other things i can do?

Well he sounds like he did not think this through at all. Personally, I like the idea of ice plugs and clothespin dares. If you look online there are tutorials for how to make an ice plug out of a condom and toilet paper tube. You can also use it as a timer so you can put a key on a string in it and then he can't be released until the plug melts.

LitDarkness · 04-13-2016, 01:40 PM

I suggest if you do the blackmail thing, have a way to prove this was consensual. Otherwise, you could get into serious trouble later on. Even then, that's no guarantee you won't get in trouble (worst case scenario, with the law.)

I also suggest, insisting on him having a safe word whether he likes it or not. There's no guarantee, he won't want one later on. And this way, you don't have to stop at every no. Because consent is only consent when one consents.

The safe word is for both your benifits.

Everyone else said everything else I wanted to say.

number1bitch · 04-13-2016, 02:20 PM

We made up a contract thing today and he signed this, i am really excited as this starts soon.

I asked him if there was any limits or anything and he said no so the idea involving other guys/girls will 100% be happening and i will see by his reaction how he copes with it, it will be interesting anyway

I love the idea with the key in the ice plug, not sure how sore that would be for someone though?
I am going to go out for the day with him but ban him from using the toilet and if he cant hold it then well he will just have to let it go in public

Wedgiebondagebabe · 04-13-2016, 02:24 PM

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Originally Posted by number1bitch

We made up a contract thing today and he signed this, i am really excited as this starts soon.

I asked him if there was any limits or anything and he said no so the idea involving other guys/girls will 100% be happening and i will see by his reaction how he copes with it, it will be interesting anyway

I love the idea with the key in the ice plug, not sure how sore that would be for someone though?
I am going to go out for the day with him but ban him from using the toilet and if he cant hold it then well he will just have to let it go in public

You can always have him use diapers. Also did he know your ideas before signing the contract? Is your contact detailed and contain consent to everything you are trying to do? Also make sure that both of you have a contract that each of you signed.

number1bitch · 04-13-2016, 02:58 PM

It has a section where he has requested not to know all of my ideas and that he consents, trust me everything has been covered and has been checked etc

Do not worry as i am not

Trying to think of much more ideas for this though, could do with some help?

Anyone got a list for me?

04-13-2016, 09:00 AM	#16
Lolascenekid Distinguished Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Posts: 611 Blog Entries: 1	Really the car is too far if everyone is telling you it is too far you should stop and listen to them, take some time to sit with your boyfriend and have talk with him to work out things that would be going too far like taking his car through blackmail which is extortion and you could get in a lot of trouble for this. Remember he is your boyfriend not your husband, the car is something a married couple that enjoys this stuff would consider. __________________ Sissy. 24 Likes: cross dressing, bondage, hypnofiles, anal, TOTAL FEMINIZATION, semi-public soft limits: full public (friends) Limits: Scat, full public (family), illegal, cbt, messy (only involving being poop/pee) [SIZE="5"]PM Dares!

04-13-2016, 09:09 AM	#18
Lolascenekid Distinguished Member Join Date: Dec 2013 Posts: 611 Blog Entries: 1	i am aware but he's excited probably thinking nothing like getting forced to sign his car over to you, i don't think there is anything wrong with any of the other suggestions but you should reconsider even doing the car at all or go to him and be like "so what if as a result of all the blackmail i get i want you to sign an expensive belonging of yours over to me, how would you feel about that?" it's better to make sure you're both ok with everything happening than getting in a lot of trouble because you took it too far __________________ Sissy. 24 Likes: cross dressing, bondage, hypnofiles, anal, TOTAL FEMINIZATION, semi-public soft limits: full public (friends) Limits: Scat, full public (family), illegal, cbt, messy (only involving being poop/pee) [SIZE="5"]PM Dares!

04-13-2016, 01:32 PM	#23
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LitDarkness Truth or Dare Zealot Join Date: May 2014 Location: Earth Posts: 6,116 Blog Entries: 289	I suggest if you do the blackmail thing, have a way to prove this was consensual. Otherwise, you could get into serious trouble later on. Even then, that's no guarantee you won't get in trouble (worst case scenario, with the law.) I also suggest, insisting on him having a safe word whether he likes it or not. There's no guarantee, he won't want one later on. And this way, you don't have to stop at every no. Because consent is only consent when one consents. The safe word is for both your benifits. Everyone else said everything else I wanted to say. __________________ M/Novisexual/24/sub Do have female parts. 30/1,603 edges+ 2 more days of denial after edges Make My Denial Harder Denial Diary 6,000th post tasks and reports Likes + Limits Stuff I Can Use for Dares BDSM Test Results PM DARES Stories & Poems Spelling or Grammar Mistake: Let Me Know Help Break My Cursing Habit Live with people and do not own toys. Keep in mind when daring me please. Not your bitch and calling me names or trying to Dom me is probitted. Violators will be declared as idiots.

04-13-2016, 02:20 PM	#28
number1bitch Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2016 Posts: 19	We made up a contract thing today and he signed this, i am really excited as this starts soon. I asked him if there was any limits or anything and he said no so the idea involving other guys/girls will 100% be happening and i will see by his reaction how he copes with it, it will be interesting anyway I love the idea with the key in the ice plug, not sure how sore that would be for someone though? I am going to go out for the day with him but ban him from using the toilet and if he cant hold it then well he will just have to let it go in public

04-13-2016, 02:58 PM	#30
number1bitch Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2016 Posts: 19	It has a section where he has requested not to know all of my ideas and that he consents, trust me everything has been covered and has been checked etc Do not worry as i am not Trying to think of much more ideas for this though, could do with some help? Anyone got a list for me?