First time and more questions about sex!

[blackmamba]

Unfortunately I am still a virgin however I believe once the quarantine is over due to corona virus I may finally lose the v-card! Due to our boredom me and my girlfriend have been talking about it and even came up with a game where we put all the things we joked about doing on paper and picking them randomly out of a bottle. Some of the things include sticking a pen up my ass and restraining one of us with fuck tape (our business idea that is basically re-branded duck tape(yes I know this is probably already a thing but we do not care)). All this has convinced me it may actually happen soon after quarantine and I may finally have sex.

Because of this I have a few questions about your first time and general questions about sex.

1) Age

2) Sex

3) What age did you lose your virginity?

4) Who with?

5) How did it happen?

6) How long did it last?

7) Where you nervous about doing it before you did?

8) Was the person you had sex with also a virgin?

9) Did you talk about it afterwards?

10) Did you play music whilst you did it?

11) What position(s) did you try?

12) Did you/they cum inside them/you or pull out?

13) Whats your favourite position?

14) How often do you have sex?

15) How long does it usually last?

16) How long do you want sex to last?

17) Are you ever left unsatisfied about how long someone lasted?

18) Did you say anything to them?

19) Do you have any tips on how to last longer?

20) Any tips for my first time (when it eventually happens)?

Thanks for you're help

[Kaitlyn1386]

1) Age29

2) Sex Female

3) What age did you lose your virginity?14

4) Who with?he was the Highschool QB/Hunk. Most popular guy.

5) How did it happen?I was shocked he was showing interest in. Every girl had a crush on him. One day he offered me a ride home. we stopped by his place. Talked and started making out and it happened

6) How long did it last?Maybe 2mins once he got his penis inside of me.

7) Where you nervous about doing it before you did?very nervous

8) Was the person you had sex with also a virgin?no he wasnt

9) Did you talk about it afterward?not really

10) Did you play music whilst you did it?Yes there was rock music playing

11) What position(s) did you try?Missionary

12) Did you/they cum inside them/you or pull out?I didn't not orgasm but he barely made it out before coming on me.

13) What's your favorite position?on my back with my legs spread

14) How often do you have sex?It varies. Maybe 2-3 times a week. Sometimes more or less

15) How long does it usually last?The whole thing-- may be an hour

16) How long do you want sex to last?Till I am so tired I can't be fucked anymore

17) Are you ever left unsatisfied about how long someone lasted?Yes,my first time especially

18) Did you say anything to them?I did.

19) Do you have any tips on how to last longer?Nope

20) Any tips for my first time (when it eventually happens)?Make sure it is someone who cares about you!

[HarryPotter]

1) Age Over 25

2) Sex Male

3) What age did you lose your virginity? 16

4) Who with? Girlfriend at the time

5) How did it happen? Drunken fumble at a houseparty

6) How long did it last? Not long

7) Where you nervous about doing it before you did? Very

8) Was the person you had sex with also a virgin? Yes

9) Did you talk about it afterwards? Yes

10) Did you play music whilst you did it? No

11) What position(s) did you try? Missionary

12) Did you/they cum inside them/you or pull out? Inside but I wore a condom

13) Whats your favourite position? Doggy

14) How often do you have sex? Rarely these days

15) How long does it usually last? Depends upon the moment - 2/3 mins to 40/50 mins

16) How long do you want sex to last? See above

17) Are you ever left unsatisfied about how long someone lasted? No - see above

18) Did you say anything to them? Always talk before, during and afterwards

19) Do you have any tips on how to last longer? Extend the foreplay

20) Any tips for my first time (when it eventually happens)? Enjoy the moment - you'll remember it forever whether it's good or bad

Thanks for you're help

[sakurafan1217]

All the above questions are irrelevant.
Here is the truth, you're over thinking it.
It's nerve racking and you're gonna suck your first time.
You have to give yourself permission to have bad sex until you get good.
Keep it simple missionary or doggy.
Dont worry about lasting long or pleasing her, do you and after maybe play with her for a while if she is into it.
Another tip, if u think or know you when the day might come dont jerk off for a few days.
Dont wait, if she is down then do for it dont think.

I struggled with this when I was your age and I ended up being in my head for a few more years. Just do it and dont look back.
"A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step."

Best of luck

[Cstelle]

Originally Posted by sakurafan1217

All the above questions are irrelevant.
Here is the truth, you're over thinking it.

Yeah, I agree with Sakurafan. But I've been bingeing on Star Trek: Next Generation so my first thought is, "We are Borg". And because that's not nice, here's another version of the truth:

The first few times are likely to be a mess. (An effing wonderful one, to be sure, but still... a mess. Because afterwards you keep thinking about stuff like how it could have been better, or wondering whether you should have done something different, or worrying about... feedback...?)

But the mess keeps getting better, and better. And it has nothing to do with skills and shit. Well, it has all! to do with skills and shit, but the skills and shit involved are not the ones you think they are (like: selecting the right moment, music, whatever). And they certainly have nothing to do with the stuff in porn flicks! (The porn flick stuff is mostly painful, awkward, smelly, uncomfortable - and entirely choreographed for the camera! It's not for the participants!)

Vanilla or kink, good sex is about mutuality. (One person can not decide that a moment is right! Or that anal is fun. It takes two to tango!) This is true whether you are two, three or fourteen in bed, whether cross beams and whips are part of it or not, or even if it's mostly the stockings and high heels that make the world go around.

Our friend suggested you are overthinking it. I guess I would say: it doesn't matter what you do, it'll still be a mess. (But a bloody wonderful one!) The good thing about this mess is, that we've been flying blind for millions of years, but for some strange reason we keep landing safe. The co-pilot(s), see! Sex is not a solo flight - until it is. But that's between the bishop/monkey and me.

But this makes me think... Could someone with some life experience and general thoughtfulness maybe start a real thread about First Times? It could be about all kinds of first times...?

[Angelman410]

1) 44

2) M

3) 21

4) Girlfriend

5) We planned it as we grew closer.

6) less than a minute

7) Where you nervous about doing it before you did? Yes!

8) Was the person you had sex with also a virgin? She said she was. LOL

9) Did you talk about it afterwards? No

10) Did you play music whilst you did it? No

11) What position(s) did you try? Missonary only

12) Did you/they cum inside them/you or pull out? Came inside her (she was on the pill)

13) Whats your favourite position? Her on top

14) How often do you have sex? 1-2x / month

15) How long does it usually last? An hour or so of misc. sexual activity.

16) How long do you want sex to last? See #15

17) Are you ever left unsatisfied about how long someone lasted? Yes (me)

18) Did you say anything to them? N/A

19) Do you have any tips on how to last longer? She sucks him off and come quickly, then he pleasure her with foreplay until he's ready to go again. He'll probably last longer the second time.

20) Any tips for my first time (when it eventually happens)? Understand that it is going to be quick, and not nearly as pleasurable as it will be down the road!

[blackmamba]

Thanks for the replies. To me sounds like i should just go for it and whatever happens happens. Still waiting to go round to hers and as we havent been able to meet up ‘legally’ for a few weeks.

[SlaveBoyNineOne]

1) Age
28
2) Sex
Male
3) What age did you lose your virginity?
21
4) Who with?
A prostitute
5) How did it happen?
I never had any girlfriends when I was young and I was sick and tired of not having any sex yet so I decided to just go for it and meet a prostitute
6) How long did it last?
Half an hour
7) Where you nervous about doing it before you did?
Enormous
8) Was the person you had sex with also a virgin?
Definitely not
9) Did you talk about it afterwards?
No
10) Did you play music whilst you did it?
No
11) What position(s) did you try?
Doggy
12) Did you/they cum inside them/you or pull out?
Inside (using condom)
13) Whats your favourite position?
Doggy
14) How often do you have sex?
Not that often, once every 2 months or so
15) How long does it usually last?
Few minutes
16) How long do you want sex to last?
FOREVER
17) Are you ever left unsatisfied about how long someone lasted?
Yes
18) Did you say anything to them?
No
19) Do you have any tips on how to last longer?
I try thinking about other stuff
20) Any tips for my first time (when it eventually happens)?
Enjoy it I suppose

[JeffThorsen777]

I have no rules for dating. Thanks to the chat, everything about the partner can be found online.

[Dark_light30]

1) Age
35
2) Sex - Male

3) What age did you lose your virginity? - 19

4) Who with? - A girl I met through a roomate

5) How did it happen? - Warning this isn't sexy at all, skip if you're squeemish. She essentially raped me. At the time I was intending to stay abstinate till I was married (yay...u.s. sex ed ). She was essentially a nympho. We messed around quite a lot but she kept pressuring for sex with me refusing. She then blackmaled me into it...

6) How long did it last? - far...far too long

7) Where you nervous about doing it before you did? - To the point where I was shaking uncontrollably.

8) Was the person you had sex with also a virgin? - Definitly not

9) Did you talk about it afterwards? - Yes.

10) Did you play music whilst you did it? - Some 90's techno. Can't remember specifically.

11) What position(s) did you try? - she was on top

12) Did you/they cum inside them/you or pull out? - Condom, and inside.

13) Whats your favourite position? - Oddly enough, I still like girl on top (cowgirl). If its sex with a guy, I also like being on my back. But I like giving oral more than anal.

14) How often do you have sex? - These days, about once or twice a week.

15) How long does it usually last? - Till she cums firt

16) How long do you want sex to last? - I like to get my partner off first. However long that takes as long as it isn't hours. At that point you just know everyone involved is getting cramps!

17) Are you ever left unsatisfied about how long someone lasted? - Only myself a couple times

18) Did you say anything to them? - Yes. Communication is very important.

19) Do you have any tips on how to last longer? - This sounds nerdy I realize, but meditation works for me. It takes a lot of mental practice but most of the time I can delay indefinitely (unless its been a very long time between orgasms) by sort of suppressing sensitivity juust enough to not cum, but keep enough sensitivity that I can cum on command afterwords.

20) Any tips for my first time (when it eventually happens)? - My first experience wasn't awesome. But when I started having real, healthy sexual relationships its like a first time with each partner. One thing I can tell you is that is will more than likely be a little awkward and not 'perfect' like in movies or porn. So my advice is to accept that that is okay! And definitly communicate with your partner what you like and what you don't like, verbally and non verbally. Be receptive to their body language as well. You'll know when you're doing good