04-06-2008, 05:20 PM | #16 | |
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04-06-2008, 05:30 PM | #17 | |
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And about rituals, I have never come across a slave who had them & found them humiliating. These are usually used for slaves to feel "safe" or reassured. It's to have these comforting little things "outside" the relationship in our every day life. So if it brings a negative feeling (as it would if the slave hates humiliation) then it sure don't bring any comfort or safety at all. |
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04-06-2008, 05:35 PM | #18 | |
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[EDIT] On my original post, I stated what I considered to be the difference of humiliation and degradation (humiliation tears down, but builds up while degradation simply breaks down). This difference is the main reason why I stated that humiliation can be used often - I was not stating that it should always be used often. Humiliation, because of the effects it can have on a sub who wants it, can help build them up over time by allowing them to express their submission without having adverse emotional effects. So for that type of sub and master, it can/should be used often. On the other hand, degradation, used repeatedly, often and over a long period of time, can harm the slave emotionally even if he/she does not realize it initially. Again, I'm using the word "can" as this may not be the case for every situation. Last edited by TheDomInMe; 04-06-2008 at 05:53 PM. |
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04-17-2008, 08:12 PM | #19 |
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I will have to agree with TheDomInMe, of course in subjects such as these, there will always be a certain amount of personal preference.
As a sub, I am weary of degradation and its very possible dangers. While I understand subs need to be put in place sometimes and deserve punishment for disobedience, some Doms will overuse degradation as punishment, twisting my emotions for them into fear and distrust, even anger. I'd warn any master using degradation for punishment to know the strength of your slaves psyche and temperment. We like to be walked on, not stomped on. :P
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04-21-2008, 08:47 AM | #21 |
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Gidget you are very good at explaining things and making people think that bit more. Gave you some rep points.
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04-21-2008, 02:08 PM | #22 |
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Aw, thanks tempered_sugar and guppi~ I would've thanked you sooner, but I didn't realize my post had been commented on, oops...^ ^;
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04-30-2008, 06:05 AM | #23 |
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As a Dom, I have absolutely no desire to degrade my subs. To degrade another Human Spirit degrades the abuser tenfold.
My subs are often humiliated, agreed, but invariably it is humiliation they've brought on themselves by attempting to cause one reaction in me and ending up with egg on their face. Any humiliation from me is passive, not directive. I KNOW the depths my sub will WILLINGLY go to to prove her devotion to me. So why do I need to put her there? To me, it is an inverse thing. She would do this for me, so I should raise her up, not raze her to the ground. Mike
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