24/F Recently got to start working with my boyfriend.

JillPotata · 11-21-2022, 01:40 AM

Hi guys! I'm Jill but I prefer to be called Potata because that's how I would love myself to be connected with you guys here. Why Potata because (1) Po is a dialect from where I am from and it means treasure/darling and (2) Tata is my nickname since young.

It is been 2 months since working at the same mall as my boyfriend. I work in the concierge while he is a retail assistant. Work has been very boring for both of us. That's not the point. 2 weeks ago, we had unplanned sex in the public toilet. It was our virgin sex at work and it left us wanting more. We now have sex for most days we are together.

I am greedy for hotter sex, so at my own initiative, I started googling around for more things that I can do. I was looking for something more participating rather than point-form to-do lists and viola, this forum came in my search results.

TLDR; I make this account looking for suggestions/ideas that I can do to while at work to make our sex hotter.

P.S. I noticed that some OPs are requesting for rules. I am willing to try that out.

Update2
I have been recommended to share more for better clarity on what I am looking for. His Q and my A are here.

1) My first question would be that do one of you like being in control and other loosing control while having sex?
I enjoy not being in control more. I usually nudge him if I am not feeling comfortable.

2) Are you searching for ideas that you can do with him? Or an idea how you could make the sex hotter for yourself? I mean like do you wanna do tasks and stuff with yourself so you can feel content with sex and enjoy it or do you want things that you and your bf will do?
Yes, I want to do things to get better sex myself. Yes, I am also looking for idea that I can do with him, or by myself as long as it makes our sex hotter. More memorable may be a better word for it. And yes, I want to do things that both of us can do too! Will that a little too much to ask?

Update3
So the same person had more questions for me. I thought it may help if I add them here too. Sorry if I still am looking confused here.

1) What l am trying to figure out here is what you actually want. You like loosing control so does your bf like being in control?
My bf would prefer to be controlled more too.

2) Explain a bit more about what do you mean when you say you wanna make the sex more memorable? Give me an example or two so l can have a better idea.
Sex involving unpredictable outcomes? Like getting spanked in a public toilet. Sensationally and potential embarrassment? I don't know.

3) Look hot can be very subjective in different people opinions. So l wanna know what that means for you.
Hot for me is when I have his entire attention on me. The lengths I went/do for someone whom I want to attract. II guess the effort of being seductive?

Update4
So after receiving more advice, help and education, my boyfriend and I conclude that we will exchange our kink list (reverse). The kink list is in reverse, meaning I will write what I would want to do to him or have him do and vice versa. We will then exchange our lists and decide how far we are willing to go for each segment.

Thank you!

Important I am in a devoted relationship with my boyfriend so I won't do anything that affects our relationship.

11-21-2022, 01:40 AM	#1
JillPotata Member Join Date: Nov 2022 Location: In a +9 timezone Posts: 72 Blog Entries: 4	24/F Recently got to start working with my boyfriend. Hi guys! I'm Jill but I prefer to be called Potata because that's how I would love myself to be connected with you guys here. Why Potata because (1) Po is a dialect from where I am from and it means treasure/darling and (2) Tata is my nickname since young. It is been 2 months since working at the same mall as my boyfriend. I work in the concierge while he is a retail assistant. Work has been very boring for both of us. That's not the point. 2 weeks ago, we had unplanned sex in the public toilet. It was our virgin sex at work and it left us wanting more. We now have sex for most days we are together. I am greedy for hotter sex, so at my own initiative, I started googling around for more things that I can do. I was looking for something more participating rather than point-form to-do lists and viola, this forum came in my search results. TLDR; I make this account looking for suggestions/ideas that I can do to while at work to make our sex hotter. P.S. I noticed that some OPs are requesting for rules. I am willing to try that out. Update2 I have been recommended to share more for better clarity on what I am looking for. His Q and my A are here. 1) My first question would be that do one of you like being in control and other loosing control while having sex? I enjoy not being in control more. I usually nudge him if I am not feeling comfortable. 2) Are you searching for ideas that you can do with him? Or an idea how you could make the sex hotter for yourself? I mean like do you wanna do tasks and stuff with yourself so you can feel content with sex and enjoy it or do you want things that you and your bf will do? Yes, I want to do things to get better sex myself. Yes, I am also looking for idea that I can do with him, or by myself as long as it makes our sex hotter. More memorable may be a better word for it. And yes, I want to do things that both of us can do too! Will that a little too much to ask? Update3 So the same person had more questions for me. I thought it may help if I add them here too. Sorry if I still am looking confused here. 1) What l am trying to figure out here is what you actually want. You like loosing control so does your bf like being in control? My bf would prefer to be controlled more too. 2) Explain a bit more about what do you mean when you say you wanna make the sex more memorable? Give me an example or two so l can have a better idea. Sex involving unpredictable outcomes? Like getting spanked in a public toilet. Sensationally and potential embarrassment? I don't know. 3) Look hot can be very subjective in different people opinions. So l wanna know what that means for you. Hot for me is when I have his entire attention on me. The lengths I went/do for someone whom I want to attract. II guess the effort of being seductive? Update4 So after receiving more advice, help and education, my boyfriend and I conclude that we will exchange our kink list (reverse). The kink list is in reverse, meaning I will write what I would want to do to him or have him do and vice versa. We will then exchange our lists and decide how far we are willing to go for each segment. Thank you! Important I am in a devoted relationship with my boyfriend so I won't do anything that affects our relationship. Last edited by JillPotata; 11-22-2022 at 12:23 AM.