How Do I Help My Husband Be More Dominant?

redheadedsub · 03-23-2020, 10:02 PM

Okay, so. I have a decent amount of experience with BDSM stuff, but my husband doesn't, so I'm still teaching him. I am really submissive, and he is more of a switch. He does well as a sub, but he doesn't understand the way I like to be dominated, since he doesn't know a lot about that end of things. He likes to try to dominate, and he does okay, but I don't know how to help him understand what I like. Subspace is very... spacey for me, and I don't think very well, so I struggle to teach him.

I like to be degraded, talked down to, manhandled, treated like an object only used for my dom's pleasure, and just generally treated like I'm small and weak and pathetic. I've gotten my husband to manhandle me a bit, but he just doesn't understand the depravity of what I like, and I dont know how to put it into words.

So, I was hoping that someone here might have a good suggestion, or a good way to explain the dynamics of a dom/sub relationship. Maybe tips on how to get my husband in the Dom state of mind (on my end or his), or scenarios to walk through... anything helps!

(Also, please don't reccomend porn. It's a long story, but my husband is uncomfortable it it.)

03-23-2020, 10:02 PM	#1
redheadedsub Junior Member Join Date: Oct 2019 Posts: 11	How Do I Help My Husband Be More Dominant? Okay, so. I have a decent amount of experience with BDSM stuff, but my husband doesn't, so I'm still teaching him. I am really submissive, and he is more of a switch. He does well as a sub, but he doesn't understand the way I like to be dominated, since he doesn't know a lot about that end of things. He likes to try to dominate, and he does okay, but I don't know how to help him understand what I like. Subspace is very... spacey for me, and I don't think very well, so I struggle to teach him. I like to be degraded, talked down to, manhandled, treated like an object only used for my dom's pleasure, and just generally treated like I'm small and weak and pathetic. I've gotten my husband to manhandle me a bit, but he just doesn't understand the depravity of what I like, and I dont know how to put it into words. So, I was hoping that someone here might have a good suggestion, or a good way to explain the dynamics of a dom/sub relationship. Maybe tips on how to get my husband in the Dom state of mind (on my end or his), or scenarios to walk through... anything helps! (Also, please don't reccomend porn. It's a long story, but my husband is uncomfortable it it.) Last edited by redheadedsub; 03-24-2020 at 07:30 AM.