Abandonment

Adare2018 · 07-18-2018, 02:34 AM

Alright,
Life circumstances lead me to post this to get other thoughts that may alter my own.

We all carry around our own baggage our unique life experiences that color our perception of every event that happens thereafter.

I'm curious how many on the D side ( PYL) use emotional distance as a tool. How often and when do you feel it is useful to use walking away to make a point. I do not mean walking away to get your emotions in check so you can act not react. No, I mean " I'm not talking to you."

Conversely s types ( pyl), is this type of emotional separation effective? Is it ever a good motivator? Or is it innately damaging?

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I come from a background fraught with Abandonment, so I'm not at all used to this being used as a tool in a positive sense. It has the exact opposite effect than it used to on me. Instead of making me go "noooo, please don't go!" It makes me want to say " BYE!" I know that is counter intuitive to my nature, but I think that is my walls going up hard and fast because I've been maliciously abandoned one too many times.

So. ... talk logic to me. I'm listening.

07-18-2018, 02:34 AM	#1
Adare2018 Account Banned Join Date: Jul 2018 Location: Take a look, It's in a book Posts: 34	Abandonment Alright, Life circumstances lead me to post this to get other thoughts that may alter my own. We all carry around our own baggage our unique life experiences that color our perception of every event that happens thereafter. I'm curious how many on the D side ( PYL) use emotional distance as a tool. How often and when do you feel it is useful to use walking away to make a point. I do not mean walking away to get your emotions in check so you can act not react. No, I mean " I'm not talking to you." Conversely s types ( pyl), is this type of emotional separation effective? Is it ever a good motivator? Or is it innately damaging? ~~~~~~~~~~~~ I come from a background fraught with Abandonment, so I'm not at all used to this being used as a tool in a positive sense. It has the exact opposite effect than it used to on me. Instead of making me go "noooo, please don't go!" It makes me want to say " BYE!" I know that is counter intuitive to my nature, but I think that is my walls going up hard and fast because I've been maliciously abandoned one too many times. So. ... talk logic to me. I'm listening. __________________ "Joy... for with joy comes peace. With peace and joy come love." "I, with a deeper instinct, chose a man who compels my strength, who makes enormous demands of me, who does not doubt my courage or my toughness, who does not believe me naive or innocent, who has the courage to treat me like a woman."~ Anais Nin